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[Deleted User] · 10 April 2015 at 5:41PM

Oh CANDLELIGHT the poor girlie, even if it was expected the actual happening is still a big thing to cope with on an emotional level. She needs to concentrate on getting herself as fit as it is possible for her to be and as far mended as her leg is likely to be before she has to worry about a new career. Sometimes splendid and unexpected new beginnings come phoenix like from the crashed remains of previous careers and who knows what is round that next corner as an opportunity? Someone on who posts on these OS threads has a super little tag at the bottom of their posts along the lines of we spend so much time looking with regret at the closed door on what has happened that we sometimes miss a new and exciting opportunity in the new door that has opened ahead of us, your girlie will look ahead and not miss that new life, and maybe be happier for it? Lyn xxx.

candlelight_2013 · 10 April 2015 at 5:52PM

Thank you so much Lyn, I knew you would have some wise words for me.

It is just hard being a Mum, sometimes, you know what I mean. I just want everything to be fine for her, and I can't make everything right this time. She was such a good nurse, and also a Specialist Nurse as well and very highly thought of, they told her that at the meeting. She never judged patients because of their lifestyle and was very compassionate.

You are right, of course, a door will open when she is least expecting it, but for the moment I just want her to enjoy the summer without having the worry of being dismissed, because that is over and done with now, so onwards and upwards

Thank you Lyn and much love

Candlelightx

[Deleted User] · 10 April 2015 at 5:58PM

Sweetie you're there for her, all the time, you're there when she needs you and even if things can't be made as they were you'll be there for her and with her through whatever the future brings, to give her hugs and mugs of tea when there are sadnesses and to put up the bunting and cheer her on and be proud when she finds her new path, and she will, never doubt it! Being Mum is never an easy thing but when you're her best friend as well the good times outweigh the sad times and you share them together don't you? Chin up, she'll be fine!

flowertotmum · 10 April 2015 at 8:29PM

O candlelight..please give her hugs from us..i really can't say anymore than what Lyn has already said..it is so hard being a mum sometimes..i just want to wrap all my babies in cotton wool and keep them safe but thats an impossible thing to do..like you i want them to be happy and everything in their lives to be perfect..sometimes i wish i could wave a magic wand and fix things for them..but we can't..you are one of the best mums i have ever had the pleasure of kinda meeting..your girl knows that no matter what you are there for her and that to me is the best thing..you support her and understand her feelings. As for a new door opening well they do say as one door closes another one opens..i really hope she does enjoy this summer and gets her lounge decorated without worrying about things..you my friend are amazing..and if she is anything like you she will be fine..
much love to you both
ftm

candlelight_2013 · 10 April 2015 at 8:37PM

Thank you so much FTM, I knew you also would know how I feel. I know she will be fine, but I hate to see her hurt after she has had to endure so much pain.

I am fine now, but I was feeling low this afternoon, but I knew my good friends would rally me, THANK YOU

Much love

Candlelightx

[Deleted User] · 11 April 2015 at 2:18PM

Hi FTM how are you all today? hopefully fully recovered and feeling very much better. Don't try to do too much though even if you are feeling better, housework etc. is very obliging you know, it WILL happily wait until you're properly fit to do it again! Hope all is going well for Annie and the twins and that she's had a bit of rest and recouperation and is feeling stronger and more able to cope xxx.

flowertotmum · 11 April 2015 at 2:42PM

Hello all..

MLW..hi it seems the bug has passed,fingers crossed..Iris is almost back to normal..bouncy and chatty but gets tired quickly..Simon is back to normal.Thank you for asking about Annie..she is physically fine..an emotional wreck..think the hormones have kicked in totally now..her midwife told her to stop beating herself up about not being with twins all the time..she can't help them,they need to be where they are..and that some mums only go twice a week to see the babies..Annie would not be able to live with herself if she went just twice a week so she is moving to Matt's grandparents today..they have been wonderful and so supportive..i am sending them a bunch of flowers to just say Thank you.

Well as for me i am ok..haven't been sick just got collywobble tummy..have been careful what i eat to be on the safe side.
I went shopping today and got some bits and bobs from Lidl..went to Wilko's and got different paint for the girls room.. the Light Duck Egg Blue just didn't look right when i tried a bit..so i got the Dark Duck Egg Blue which looks so much better..i won the curtains on ebay..i was willing to pay £30 for them inc p&p..but in the end i got them for £13.30 inc p&p..bargain..i have seen door knobs for the girls drawers and wardrobe doors too..
I bought 2 more little plants for my flowerbed..i also priced up a forsythia for the back garden against the fence..will get that later on next week.

I nipped in to Asda on the way home at found some turkey breast steaks and little hash browns in the reduced section.
When we got home my mum had been round and had dropped off a gift card with £30 on it..not sure why..
I am planning on making a scarf curtain for the downstairs loo..so Fionna has offered me 2 of her old linen style scarves to do it with..
This weekend i am planning on just doing the beds and bathroom a small bit of baking and then relax..

Candlelight..i hope your girl is doing ok today..it might be a relief for her to not to have to worry about it anymore..if she planning on decorating then Wilko's have a whole new range of paints in..some gorgeous colours too..i hope you both have a nice weekend..hugs for you both.

I hope that everybody else is ok and doing what you do..
lots of love
ftm

[Deleted User] · 11 April 2015 at 3:09PM

Nell has Ezra for the whole day on her own today, for the first time too, it's Neils birthday so Ruthie planned a treat day for him and her and Nell wanted to see how she coped with the baba! I think they've gone to the Zoo this afternoon, she certainly got him down for a sleep easily with his milky this morning and will get him back for his tea at 5.30ish as he's not one to be hungry without letting you know about it, loudly!!! Ru and Neil have a table booked at a nice restaurant for 7.30 and then they're half an hour or so away on the train when they've finished so should be back by 11ish. Nell is going to have the baby monitor overnight too, so they can have an undisturbed night for once. I wonder how she'll be feeling tomorrow morning? Hopefully all will be well and he'll go through to 5 or 6 tomorrow, we'll see!!!

candlelight_2013 · 11 April 2015 at 4:10PM

Hi everyone,

It was raining here this morning, but actually sunny this afternoon.

FTM, poor Annie she must miss the babies, but at least now she should be a little more rested with staying at her Husband's grandparents, and I am sure they will make sure she has a rest between visits.

I am pleased everyone is feeling better, it must be a miracle that you have escaped it, must be made of stern stuff

Lyn, how exciting for Nell to look after the Zebra child, and I wonder who will enjoy the zoo more, her or him

I am sure Ruth and her husband will be packing as much as they can into 24 hours of child free time. I remember well how, once you have children, you have very little time for yourselves and I am sure they are very grateful to Nell.

DD is fine, thank you both for asking. We had a lovely carvery, but before then she had her eyebrows threaded and picked up her prescription so life seems to carry on as normal. I think I was more upset than her, but I am fine now and having wise words from two special Mums helps.

HOGLET, I hope you are OK.

AOT the same for you, I hope you are being careful about not falling .

Have a good weekend all

Much love

Candlelightx

[Deleted User] · 11 April 2015 at 9:44PM

Oh they had such a lovely day together, he had a couple of hours sleep from 10.45 to 12.45 ish and then woke up for his lunch. Then the did the Zoo and he loved the fish in the aquarium and the flamingos and apparently said 'quack' to the penguins and called a lion 'cat', then home for a play and tea then a really good splashy time in the bath and was asleep after his milky at 7.15. Not a cry out of him all day, happy as Larry and very content with his Aunty. She needless to say loved every second of it. mum and dad have had a lovely day and were having supper when they last texted Nell. A success all round!!!

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