Fathers Day - am I being unreasonable?
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notanewuser wrote: »Please expand....
The OP has said -
"She also takes the kids to church on a Sunday which I am not keen on, but accept. The kids really enjoy it, mainly because its a very progressive modern church so its quite relaxed and the kids do their own thing and get bribed given sweets, cakes and stuff."
So it could be read from that, that its not just the cakes and sweets they enjoy about going to church?0 -
balletshoes wrote: »The OP has said -
"She also takes the kids to church on a Sunday which I am not keen on, but accept. The kids really enjoy it, mainly because its a very progressive modern church so its quite relaxed and the kids do their own thing and get bribed given sweets, cakes and stuff."
So it could be read from that, that its not just the cakes and sweets they enjoy about going to church?
"The kids do their own thing and get bribed given sweets, cakes and stuff." Why can't they do that somewhere else then? Why do they have to do it in a religious framework? They're presumably young enough not to question it - perfect targets for the all-controlling church.
Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman0 -
notanewuser wrote: »Oh come off it!!!!
No, that is your opinion, but it is just that, an opinion.
The social side of churches can be very enjoyable for kids, for many people in fact.
As for being brainwashed, ah yes, that old chestnut, everyone who goes to church is unable to think for themselves aren't they?
As I said, you are entitled to your opinion.:D0 -
No, that is your opinion, but it is just that, an opinion.
The social side of churches can be very enjoyable for kids, for many people in fact.
As for being brainwashed, ah yes, that old chestnut, everyone who goes to church is unable to think for themselves aren't they?
As I said, you are entitled to your opinion.:D
One of the children is 7. Not old enough to have the questioning skills required to evaluate fully what he's being told.
"Have these sweeties and give thanks to God."
There's enough indoctrination in schools. If the OP doesn't want his kids going to church he should put his bloody foot down.Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman0 -
plane_boy2000 wrote: »
Is it that wrong of me to have thought (expected) that my partner may have put me first on Fathers Day?????
Why should your partner put you first on Fathers Day - you're not (one would hope) her father!0 -
notanewuser wrote: »One of the children is 7. Not old enough to have the questioning skills required to evaluate fully what he's being told.
"Have these sweeties and give thanks to God."
There's enough indoctrination in schools. If the OP doesn't want his kids going to church he should put his bloody foot down.
And if the Mother does and the children do?
How quaint, did we slip back to Victorian times?:rotfl:0 -
notanewuser wrote: »One of the children is 7. Not old enough to have the questioning skills required to evaluate fully what he's being told.
"Have these sweeties and give thanks to God."
There's enough indoctrination in schools. If the OP doesn't want his kids going to church he should put his bloody foot down.
I was seven when I became atheist, despite going to religious school and regularly being involved in church activity. Seven isn't too young.
Despite this, I did at ten voluntarily join Bible club. I was there because I enjoyed the social side of it, and liked listening to the stories even if I thought they were nonsense. The kids aren't necessarily being brainwashed, especially with their father providing an alternative viewpoint. They might just enjoy it. In a couple of years, they may get bored or they may decide that they want to live a religious life.
Either way, what does it matter? Why does the OP determine who can go and who can't?0 -
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Ah, but you were a gifted child, weren't you?I was seven when I became atheist, despite going to religious school and regularly being involved in church activity. Seven isn't too young.
Despite this, I did at ten voluntarily join Bible club. I was there because I enjoyed the social side of it, and liked listening to the stories even if I thought they were nonsense. The kids aren't necessarily being brainwashed, especially with their father providing an alternative viewpoint. They might just enjoy it. In a couple of years, they may get bored or they may decide that they want to live a religious life.
Either way, what does it matter? Why does the OP determine who can go and who can't?Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman0 -
I think you should go. Two of my children go to church, I do not because I do not believe in God but although I was surprised when they wanted to go, I feel its their choice. One of my other daughter who seems to believe in biscuits went for a while for the biscuits but soon tired of it.... anyway despite not believing in god I do believe in supporting my family though so if they're doing anything I'll be there. In fact for someone not religious I've spent a lot of time in church over the years, weddings, deaths, special family things etc.
As for Fathers day, I agree that it's about being a father, so go to church, smile encouragingly and enjoy your children's performance, roll your eyes internally during the rest, but feel pleased you've been a good dad and then enjoy the rest of your day :-)Save £12K 2013 #54 - £4625/£15k£19,625 saved since 2011£50,000 by August 2014SPC #1925 £600
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