Cutting Down Alcohol Thread

Committing to an AFD this evenng on here tonight as I wavered yesterday evening and am not going to do the same tonight!

2/14 please Baileys!

3/12 please.

Thanks for your comments everyone. I think there's probably more than an element of truth in all of them. She's a senior academic and with her husband moved here about three years ago. She was desperately unhappy at work from the beginning, to such an extent that she took several weeks off work with stress the first summer. We got to know each other during that time and became friends but since then I've noticed a gradual but significant deterioration in our relationship. The irony is that at one point about 18 months ago she was in tears about something that had happened at work and said, 'What's wrong with me?!' I honestly couldn't have said there was anything, then, but now it's a very different matter and I regard her as a neighbour and an acquaintance and nothing more.

One of the points about reviewing her behaviour over this issue is that when I was drinking I would have taken her comments at face value and to heart. I would have been hurt, I would have been devastated by anyone pointing out that I hadn't succeeded in my ambition and I would have felt a failure, both with and without anyone commenting even once, never mind three times. That would have just reinforced the feeling.

After four years without booze my brain is unscrambled enough to recognise that she's even unhappier at work, still very overweight and seemingly unable to lose that excess weight despite trying again and again and again, and probably not a little jealous that I appear to have had life handed to me on a plate, and thinks I am a bit of a wastral. That's the vibe I'm getting overall, at any rate.

It's important to recognise that relationships change and sometimes we need to just move on. It's sad, because she's generous and often carefully, thoughtfully kind but she's also got this other side that is unpleasant I need to protect myself from it.

I'll still be seeing her pretty much every day, and I'm much better at keeping people (negheads!) at arms length now that I'm seriously sober. I wouldn't want it any other way.

maman wrote: »

Out of interest (aka nosiness:o) HB, do you have a 'sugar' plan going forward?

Yes. Eat less of it! I'm able to stop now after two biscuits which I haven't been able to do for years. I also gave up cheese for Lent and managed that pretty much right through. I'm pleased with that because I can gorge on that as well but I didn't mention it to her.

I'm not losing weight, which I thought I would, but I am at least not putting it on. I intend to shed a stone over the rest of the year but it's proving harder to turn the juggernaut around than I'm used to, so I need to rethink how to do it. Not being able to take the dog on long walks (cruciate ligament damage) is part of the problem so I need to find new solutions to my changed circumstances.

5/30 please, Baileys.

4 please Baileys.
Arkers x

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I'm able to stop now after two biscuits which I haven't been able to do for years. I also gave up cheese for Lent and managed that pretty much right through. I'm pleased with that because I can gorge on that as well but I didn't mention it to her.

I have managed to seriously cut sugar and cheese altogether. I started at the same time as I began to reduce alcohol. I'm sure cutting down on alcohol helped me get sugar under control. You seem to be doing well on many fronts. Well done :T