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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    She got all crazy for me asking for one night alone, she can apologise for that. & I don’t need a reason to want some personal space, the reason is I want some personal space. My personal time is important to me sometimes, not a lot of the time, just sometimes, she needs to respect that.

    I hate my housemate she always moans. Literally hate the girl. She sends like 10 complaint texts a day, she has issues... The other ones nice but she’s away - so all mine! I would rather pour acid in my eyes than share anything with said housemate.
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  • natsplatnat
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    camz2017 wrote: »
    She got all crazy for me asking for one night alone, she can apologise for that. & I don’t need a reason to want some personal space, the reason is I want some personal space. My personal time is important to me sometimes, not a lot of the time, just sometimes, she needs to respect that.


    It could be hard for her to 'respect that' if she isn't certain of why you don't want to see her. Early days of a relationship, emotions running high on cloud 9 and then boom - "not tonight thanks!" If she isn't aware that personal time is important to you, you might want to let her know asap to reduce the risk of this happening again. I'm sure she'll be fine knowing you want / need personal time and its not you just going cold on her (although if you are going cold on her be nice and let her know sooner rather than later!) Finally, she may not realise you are expecting an apology as she may think her reaction was justified.


    Oh, and re: your house-mate... it is doing nice things for people you like least that gain you the most good karma points! :D
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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    We can agree to disagree.

    & re the housemate, she’s on a diet and is like quite big, so technically I’m doing her a favour.
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  • Alone time is important i can understand that i started seeing someone in october/november who i split with quite quickly when she started to randomly appear at mine during my alone time. Then she randomly did the same when i was finishing work she met Elbow quite quick.

    How big is the dieting housemate?
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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    I should have used the term dieting loosely, more serial deliveroo user less dieter. Certainly doesn’t need anything extra... Maybe if she wasn’t such a disgusting human being she wouldn’t feel the need to stuff her face with comfort food as people would actually like her.

    Anyway, got a meeting with work this week to negotiate my US numbers, super excited for that.
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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    I mean disgusting re personality, just to clarify. No issue with fat people if they’re nice. :)
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  • Good luck in your meeting Camz, I hope they give you a great offer!
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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    Me too I just wish they had kept me more in the loop!!!

    If it’s below what I’m after I will pushback and refuse, given they’ve spent a bunch on the immigration experts already I feel I can have some leverage.
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  • natsplatnat
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    camz2017 wrote: »
    Anyway, got a meeting with work this week to negotiate my US numbers, super excited for that.



    :D Exciting! :D
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  • camz2017
    camz2017 Posts: 347 Forumite
    Girlfriend said word for word:

    “I fword hate you, I didn’t realise I was in a relationship with a narcasist.”
    Then she said she wants to talk to me so said sorry.

    So I told her to say it like she means it hahahaha... anyway she called me so we’re talking again.

    Told her I’m usually called a sociopath or a psychopath but narcasist is a refreshing change. :D

    Gonna have to research what that one means fully.

    Anyway meeting her Friday, she said her family gets Chinese on Fridays, I love Chinese :)
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