What to do with my ex-fianc!e's ring?

skot4th · 4 February 2019 at 9:35PM

In late September last year my fianc!e of a year / partner of 6.5 years and I split up. After a few weeks of me wondering if we would get back together, she offered to give me back her ring.

As I'm currently saving for a house, I was considering selling the ring at first. I figured as it cost me a small fortune, it must still have had a reasonable resale value, however looking at valuations,I was being offered 10% of what the "store value" was. Ever since, the ring has been sat on the mantelpiece gathering dust while I wonder what to do with it / wonder if she'll come back to me.

I know the second option is pretty much impossible, seeing as she has been dating someone else since she gave me back the ring, therefore I was wondering what I should do with it?

Firstly, I don't want to save it to give it to someone else down the line, that's not my aim and would never do that. However, I also don't want to sell if for peanuts as I feel that that will 'cheapen' the relationship we had.

Are there any other ideas? Do I give it back to her and let her do what she wants with the ring / money? Do I give it to charity? Have it turned in to other jewellery? Keep it forever as a reminder of what mistakes not to make going forward?

Or am I being too precious about an overpriced stone? Should I take the few hundred pounds and just be done with it? I know a lot of people would have been in a similar situation. What should I do?

My heads still all a little puzzled, with me trying to rebuild and move on, so any advice is welcome.

Comms69 · 4 February 2019 at 9:41PM

Sell it; have a nice meal and move on

snickersbars · 4 February 2019 at 9:52PM

Sell it and use the money to treat yourself to something nice.

trailingspouse · 4 February 2019 at 10:21PM

Don't do anything with it just yet, unless you desperately need the money. She was a big part of your life, and although your head knows it's over, your heart is having to play catch up. Put it at the back of a drawer, and just leave it there for a while. Then one day, you'll come across it by accident - and you'll know what to do with it.

In the meantime, make sure that your house contents insurance covers it for its retail value, just in case.

Marvel1 · 4 February 2019 at 10:30PM

skot4th wrote: »

Do I give it back to her and let her do what she wants with the ring / money? Do I give it to charity?

No to both of these.

pickledonionspaceraider · 5 February 2019 at 12:41AM

Sell it, treat yourself x

Slinky · 5 February 2019 at 9:29AM

trailingspouse wrote: »

In the meantime, make sure that your house contents insurance covers it for its retail value, just in case.

Only if it can be covered at no extra expense otherwise this ring which cost a lot of money to buy and will achieve much less if sold, will be costing money to insure. Is that not throwing good money after bad?

SuperPikachu · 5 February 2019 at 10:44AM

Melt it into a golden spork

hazyjo · 5 February 2019 at 10:59AM

I'd sell it. I've been married twice and sold both.

If I had got back with either, I think we'd have had a fresh start and not sure I'd have even put the old rings back on.

I felt they tainted my house - brought me bad luck in a way. It was sad to sell the second one, but I felt it was the right decision. First one cheated on me/left me, so that was easier.

Try a local jewellers, or if you have the paperwork still then ebay. I sold on ebay and got way more than I'd have got in a local shop. Tried Hatton Garden, but most weren't interested, the rest offered peanuts. Get several quotes, don't go with one. They vary drastically.

Ozzuk · 5 February 2019 at 12:55PM

trailingspouse wrote: »

Don't do anything with it just yet, unless you desperately need the money. She was a big part of your life, and although your head knows it's over, your heart is having to play catch up. Put it at the back of a drawer, and just leave it there for a while. Then one day, you'll come across it by accident - and you'll know what to do with it.

In the meantime, make sure that your house contents insurance covers it for its retail value, just in case.

I wouldn't do this, the past is just that, and it isn't like you'll look back on this as a fun memory. Sell it, treat yourself and close this chapter of your life, keeping it could just keep the negative thoughts surround the relationship end in your mind - cleanse and move on.

bap98189 · 5 February 2019 at 12:56PM

If you sell it you will get a fraction of what you paid for it. I'd keep it for next time and hopefully save yourself some dosh down the line.

What to do with my ex-fianc!e's ring?

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