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    • oozle1989
    • By oozle1989 17th Jun 19, 9:22 AM
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    Has anyone ever asked their boyfriend to marry them?
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    • 17th Jun 19, 9:22 AM
    Has anyone ever asked their boyfriend to marry them? 17th Jun 19 at 9:22 AM
    I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years now and we have a house together.

    I turned 30 the other week and as a birthday treat my BF took me away for the weekend.

    I was abosultely certain he was going to propose, all the signs were there. But in the end he didn't.

    He's always joked saying 'why don't you ask me' and things like that. Now i'm seriously considering it.

    Has anyone ever done this?
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    • zx81
    • By zx81 17th Jun 19, 1:17 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:17 PM
    Yes, they have.
    • oozle1989
    • By oozle1989 17th Jun 19, 1:33 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:33 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:33 PM
    Yes, they have.
    Originally posted by zx81
    Well thanks for that.

    But I was actually looking for input from someone who had done it themselves.

    No need for the sarcasm really is there?
    • zx81
    • By zx81 17th Jun 19, 1:36 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:36 PM
    I wouldn't know, as it wasn't sarcasm.

    Plenty of my friends have done it Some successfully, some not.
    • bertiewhite
    • By bertiewhite 17th Jun 19, 1:59 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:59 PM
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    • 17th Jun 19, 1:59 PM
    I'm male but if I may give you a male's opinion - my wife (and others) kept dropping hints about when we were going to get married but I kept putting it off because I didn't want it to seem that I was only proposing because I was being asked to.

    In the end, I proposed because I wanted to and because I love her, not because I felt I needed to.
    • suejb2
    • By suejb2 24th Jun 19, 2:07 PM
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    • 24th Jun 19, 2:07 PM
    Asking
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    • 24th Jun 19, 2:07 PM
    Well thanks for that.

    But I was actually looking for input from someone who had done it themselves.

    No need for the sarcasm really is there?
    Originally posted by oozle1989
    Men ask women
    Men ask men
    Women ask women
    Women ask men.

    What input do you need?
    Life is like a bath, the longer you are in it the more wrinkly you become.
    • oozle1989
    • By oozle1989 25th Jun 19, 10:24 AM
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    • 25th Jun 19, 10:24 AM
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    • 25th Jun 19, 10:24 AM
    Men ask women
    Men ask men
    Women ask women
    Women ask men.

    What input do you need?
    Originally posted by suejb2
    Well as its not common for the woman to ask the man, I just wanted to know who else might have done it.

    This is after all a forum for advice and support.

    But its ok, if wading into other peoples posts with unhelpful comments makes you feel better then you crack on
    • 74jax
    • By 74jax 24th Jul 19, 7:54 PM
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    • 24th Jul 19, 7:54 PM
    Yes I asked my husband. He said no.... ��
    Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....
    • suki1964
    • By suki1964 24th Jul 19, 8:11 PM
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    • 24th Jul 19, 8:11 PM
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    • 24th Jul 19, 8:11 PM
    Well as its not common for the woman to ask the man, I just wanted to know who else might have done it.

    This is after all a forum for advice and support.

    But its ok, if wading into other peoples posts with unhelpful comments makes you feel better then you crack on
    Originally posted by oozle1989
    Well Im in my mid 50's and it was pretty common around my peers for the women to ask the men to marry

    I think waiting on the lad is well away with the ark
    if you lend someone 20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 25th Jul 19, 6:23 AM
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    Well Im in my mid 50's and it was pretty common around my peers for the women to ask the men to marry

    I think waiting on the lad is well away with the ark
    Originally posted by suki1964
    Indeed it is, Suki.

    I remember reading a thread called something like 'how did you stay sane waiting for a proposal' and couldn't believe half of the posts.

    OP - if you want to get married, ask him.
    • Piskied
    • By Piskied 12th Aug 19, 1:30 PM
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    I asked my boyfriend in April. I'd been thinking about it for months and had thought of some more elaborate ways of proposing but in the end it just came out over the kitchen table. It would have been nice to have a cute story to tell but ultimately that was the time that felt right to me. He said yes, and was happy to be asked. I made him an impromptu ring from easter egg foil and then later we picked a ring for me and split the cost 50/50.

    I'd say go for it, I found it very empowering and had a great reaction from almost everyone I've told (only a few older people with quips about leap years and who wears the trousers etc.)

    Good luck!
    • spadoosh
    • By spadoosh 12th Aug 19, 2:08 PM
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    I asked my boyfriend in April. I'd been thinking about it for months and had thought of some more elaborate ways of proposing but in the end it just came out over the kitchen table. It would have been nice to have a cute story to tell but ultimately that was the time that felt right to me. He said yes, and was happy to be asked. I made him an impromptu ring from easter egg foil and then later we picked a ring for me and split the cost 50/50.

    I'd say go for it, I found it very empowering and had a great reaction from almost everyone I've told (only a few older people with quips about leap years and who wears the trousers etc.)

    Good luck!
    Originally posted by Piskied
    My wife was fortunate enough to have a testacular display for her proposal.

    Id thought of a balloon ride, Eiffel tower, gondola ride, bungee jumping and all the spectacular ways of proposing but ultimately, on the sofa, in my dressing gown with my gonads hanging out was the only way i could ever do it justice to our relationship.
    Don't be angry!
    • Claddagh_Noir
    • By Claddagh_Noir 12th Aug 19, 3:49 PM
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    I'm male but if I may give you a male's opinion - my wife (and others) kept dropping hints about when we were going to get married but I kept putting it off because I didn't want it to seem that I was only proposing because I was being asked to.

    In the end, I proposed because I wanted to and because I love her, not because I felt I needed to.
    Originally posted by bertiewhite
    I had a colleague who kept dropping hints to her boyfriend at the time over the years, sharing and tagging him in things online to do with weddings. She had trouble conceiving and then said 'You're going to leave me now because I cannot give you a child.' Then all of a sudden, like a bolt out of the blue, they are engaged and got married within 4 months. It seems like he probably only proposed because he was being henpecked and emotionally blackmailed into it.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 12th Aug 19, 3:58 PM
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    I had a colleague who kept dropping hints to her boyfriend at the time over the years, sharing and tagging him in things online to do with weddings. She had trouble conceiving and then said 'You're going to leave me now because I cannot give you a child.' Then all of a sudden, like a bolt out of the blue, they are engaged and got married within 4 months. It seems like he probably only proposed because he was being henpecked and emotionally blackmailed into it.
    Originally posted by Claddagh_Noir
    Not a great start to a marriage...
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