Renovations and Repayments II: New Year, New Start, New Diary.

CathT · 12 May 2018 at 12:38PM

Have a lovely day at the wedding.

I know the discussion about contentment was a few posts back but I often get this feeling. We are not well off but are comfortable, have two wonderful children and have been together for 16 years. I sometimes just get that feeling whilst we are all spending quality time together at home and also realise how fortunate I am. You have come a long way Alex in so many ways.

Karmacat · 12 May 2018 at 6:04PM

I hope today's gone really well for you and for the whole group, Alex.

AlexLK · 13 May 2018 at 12:15AM

Thanks all.

Had a lovely day today and friend is successfully wed. Somehow managed to get him to the wedding on time (Mrs. K. was very impressed I somehow managed to get there first :rotfl:), not forget the rings and deliver two speeches as he couldn't get beyond the first sentence of his. Mind, the tears started from the minute he saw her. Can remember him saying after marrying his first wife that he didn't understand why people got emotional at weddings. :rotfl:

(Finally) realised we've all moved on from the who we were at school. Friend getting married was an absolute liability until giving up cocaine, now he's one of the most reliable people I know. Someone else from school used to be extremely vain and is now rather overweight and balding very badly. After seeing him I was no longer surprised all his online photos are of his wife and two children. Another is married but his wife is undergoing IVF. She's absolutely desperate to become a mother. We all seem to have been affected by something which has changed us, I've just been too self absorbed to think it was only me.

Tomorrow we are going to declutter a bit and raise some additional funds.

newgirly · 13 May 2018 at 2:59AM

Glad the wedding went well Alex

It's true what you say, you think people you haven't seen for years will all still be as they were when we ourselves have moved on. Had to laugh at the overweight balding 'vain' friend :rotfl::rotfl:

Suffolk_lass · 13 May 2018 at 8:27AM

I know what you mean about people moving on and things changing. We invited lots of old friends and family to a large party a few years ago and were really surprised when most rellies turned us down because they were too old to travel to a party...

And then there was a friend we had only been in scant contact with for a few years who now has a serious heart condition. It really makes us focus on our positive circumstances (despite being old and too fat, and still in debt).

A bit of comparison never hurt any of us, providing we have a sense of perspective - which you do.

shangaijimmy · 13 May 2018 at 8:47AM

Without getting to philosophical on a Sunday morning, i think its all a part of appreciating our own sense of self! It'll have been happening for hundreds of years, however i do fear for our own kids having to do it through the glare of "un-social media".

Sounds like you had a great day and are motivated for your next life phase!

Now get that decluttering sorted. My advice is to declutter the storage units as well as the junk that's in them!

Karmacat · 13 May 2018 at 10:27AM

That same comparison can be really surprising ... I was in the mood to google the names of the people I was seeing in the photos I was scanning. Searched for one girl who grew up in the town next door to me, very well off (father was a bank manager, a big deal back then), and she married a JRR Tolkien relative. I met her at polytechnic. But at a certain point, finances etc don't mean a thing - she died at the age of 53.

I'd feel more comfortable saying "live your life" if I wasn' t stuck at home with a lurgy that finds me unable to talk ...