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    • MSE Andrea
    • By MSE Andrea 8th May 15, 11:26 AM
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    Debt and Mental Health - How have your debts affected you?
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    • 8th May 15, 11:26 AM
    Debt and Mental Health - How have your debts affected you? 8th May 15 at 11:26 AM
    Hi everyone,

    As part of Mental Health Awareness Week 2015 next week (11-17 May), we!!!8217;re supporting Stepchange Debt Charity and the Mental Health Foundation (MHF) in highlighting how debt can play a large part in mental health issues.

    We have a free Mental Health and Debt guide available for anyone to download so if you're struggling please do take a look!

    Has being in debt caused you stress and anxiety?

    We're launching a poll to see how many of you have had mental health issues. We've kept responses private so other forum users won't see who's voted in the poll. If you'd like to reply below and discuss that would be great but don't feel you have to.

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    • MissG80
    • By MissG80 8th Feb 18, 10:12 PM
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    It has definitely caused me worry and anxiety at times. Also a feeling of trudgery. I posted elsewhere that I have been supporting a family member with mental illness (brother) with their debt. He was always getting calls from companies he owed money to and then my Dad started receiving them too and it was only then we started to realise how bad it was, There are two things I will never see happen to my brother which are he become homeless again or drug/alcohol addiction, so it was fortunate in a way that there had been some mix up with his housing payment and he was being threatened with eviction, so I went with him to the Council when he had a support worker meeting to sort it, and was there when she suggested Step Change. At his next meeting they looked at the website together and he liked the idea. I sold it to him on the basis that the phone calls will stop. He eventually called them and they did the budget with him. He got a reference number to give companies when they called to say he was with step change and eventually all the calls stopped. When he was talking about his money problems he said that his benefits had been changed from weekly to monthly payments and he found it hard to budget. I suggested he could have his benefit paid to me and I would make twice weekly payments to him. Initially he was hesitant but the plusses outweighed his doubts and he said he wanted to. Been doing that for a few months now and he says it is a god send. I found out over Christmas he had missed some debt payments so we switched that over too. I'm really proud of him for taking positive steps. I think focusing on helping someone else has been positive for me too. Definitely think talking and getting it out in the open is the best advice X
    • MarrtyGH1369
    • By MarrtyGH1369 10th Feb 18, 11:49 AM
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    I believe that my mental health issues are mostly to blame for my debt. It sounds like a cop out but I have schizophrenia. My GP says that's what I've got. I have pretty extreme visual and auditory hallucinations as well as going through phases where I don't know who I am or thinking that I'm someone else... I also suffer from Complex Regional Pain Syndrome in my right arm and leg. Although incredibly painful (I have broken my neck twice, my right wrist and ankle, I have had shrapnel wounds to my back and left leg... none of those come close to the pain of CRPS) it is actually a bit of a blessing as I can't walk far unaided and unattended (if someone knocks my arm or leg with moderate force it can trigger a kind of fit where I will collapse and lose consciousness) so the combination of both conditions means that I can't go anywhere on my own now, if I could, I would be in much more debt!
    I was with the community mental health team but I had a lot of trouble attending appointments. Then one day I got a letter (which I kept and have shown to many people, including my Tory MP who is adamant that mental health is adequately funded) saying that the community mental health team couldn't afford to treat me any more.
    I have severe memory relapses, I don't remember large parts of the last 8 years!
    I also have a habit of spending money I don't have or shouldn't spend during an episode, when I get down it seems that spending money on useless things makes me feel better. This is where credit is such a demon for me.
    The worst thing for me personally is that there is no way that someone wouldn't know there is something wrong with me when I'm having a bad few months (or when my medication is working differently, I use 2 100mcg fentanyl patches every 3 days for the CRPS ) as the signs are very obvious. I doubt that someone selling credit would sell to a drunk person (at least, I hope not) but they used to throw credit agreements at me.
    When get debt collectors letters through and I don't remember what it's for/don't recognise the debt, it can feel like I am being exploited. It makes me very paranoid.

    I also suffer from severe anxiety so those debt collectors letters dropping on my door mat will generally trigger a 4-6 month long episode of enhanced versions of my conditions.

    It's a very sad/frustrating predicament because I am an intelligent person, I used to be very physically fit and strong, confident, outgoing, friendly. Now I am the absolute reverse of all of those things 95% of the time.
    I genuinely don't understand why my better half bothers with me, every time another debt collectors letter drops on to the door mat, I have failed my family again. It's a very difficult and upsetting position to be in.
    Last edited by MarrtyGH1369; 10-02-2018 at 11:53 AM.
    • Robots
    • By Robots 12th Feb 18, 1:49 PM
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    Along with the shame and stress that debts bring, one of the hardest things for me was the anxiety I felt every time the post came: would there be another red letter?
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    • Emm1279
    • By Emm1279 13th Feb 18, 10:23 AM
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    Hi

    I am currently suffering MH due to bullying at workplace and signed off for stress anxiety and panic attack
    Recently about 2 to 3 weeks afo I signed up online learning college to do some courses. Due to my ill health I am unable to continue or start the courses as I need to get my health back.Upon trying to cancel and stating the reason why the online college has refused outright to even look into the matter with compassion or empathy. Simply I got an email saying If I do not keep up with payments they will instruct debt collector / agents and threatened CCJ
    Is there no duty of care am so shocked as the MD was so rude and nasty and came across very intimidating and bullyish. I signed up for Counselling CBT and Mental Health Awareness and find it so worrying they dont actually care about these issues only interested in the money making. Anyone got any advise please ?
    • Fireflyaway
    • By Fireflyaway 15th Feb 18, 7:37 PM
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    Emma1279 maybe try writing to them to explain and see if your gp or counsellor would write a supporting letter. I really believe debt and poor mental health are linked. Sometimes debt causes poor mental health and other times it the poor mental health that causes the debt.
    My story is I hid debt from my husband. He was suffering from poor mental health and I didn't want to worry him so I tried to handle the finances myself. I didn't do a good job in that we were behind on everything and I even had pay day loans. He worked so hard but we had high living and travel costs and he felt that he was working and had nothing to show for it. He had low self esteem believing he wasn't doing enough to provide. I tried to buy nice food for him before getting stuff for me. If an unexpected bill came I'd hide it. Id treat us to a takeaway etc but it was borrowed money. I used to worry about the lights going off ( id sneak outside at night to check the meter!) and the car being towed. I'd already planned if I could hide it somewhere. I hid letters, unplugged the phone etc It was wrong but with the right intentions I suppose! I'm lucky I didn't suffer badly myself, it was a stressful time.
    Things can change though. There is always hope.
    • One-step-at-a-time
    • By One-step-at-a-time 20th Feb 18, 3:05 PM
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    For me the two are inextricably linked. I have always had bad anxiety, and have hidden my MH ups and downs from my immediate family to protect them from it; without going into any detail they have quite enough to deal with.
    Most of my debts were accrued during two very stressful phases in my life, one work-related, one physical health-related. The second ran on from the first, and both had a huge impact on my ability to cope with day-to-day things and think rationally; I was struggling with everything, and let problems and terrible decisions pile up, resulting in a ridiculous amount of unsecured debt (unfortunately I had impeccable credit at the time and stupidly high credit limits). The worse it got, the less able I was to cope with everything.
    The guilt and shame for getting myself in this situation, and the resulting stress and anxiety still hit me in waves even though overall I have turned it around and am fighting my way out. On a good day I am positive and proactive, on a bad day the anxiety absolutely cripples me; I feel totally overwhelmed and isolated and struggle to think about anything except worst-case scenarios. It can be exhausting.
    Last edited by One-step-at-a-time; 20-02-2018 at 3:14 PM.
    Jan 2017 CC debt £37,800.21: £29,399.52 / £8,400.69
    Mar 2018 Other debt £7,693: £5,680.84 / £2,012.16
    Debt 22.97% PAID
    Emergency fund £350/£1000 DFD March 2022
    • MGF86
    • By MGF86 1st Mar 18, 5:16 PM
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    I'm currently £6,500 in debt on credit cards and overdraft.

    In 2015, I was debt free. I never had a credit card until I was 29 and the only reason I got it was to improve my credit rating because I had a £15 fee owed to 3mobile that I had no idea about for 3 years. I only discovered about this debt when I was applying for a loan to go back to University to do a Masters degree in Psychology as I had ambitions to become a Psychiatrist. I used MSE to get the right card for me to improve my credit rating and I was on track after a year until my mental health started to collapse. I ended up moving back to London and took a paycut in a new job which meant I used the credit card to fund myself to live (food, rent, travel) for a year. However, my mental health was still unstable and I started to spend more than I should when I was low or anxious. With the help of MSE again I managed to do a balance transfer to prevent me from charges once the 0% interest ended. Unfortunately, my mental health got even worse and I was spending recklessly during long durations of poor mental health. It has escalated ever since.

    When I think back to 2015, I wonder what happened because I used to be extremely cautious and savvy with my finances. This is why I believe more support, research, and education should be encouraged for this area. Dare I say it, credit card companies are benefiting from the mentally ill.

    I often wonder if mental health checks should be part of the application process for credit cards. When I was at one of my lowest points, I was able to apply for a 2nd and then a 3rd credit card once I reached my max amount and now find myself in a huge mess.
    • Lingy1978
    • By Lingy1978 1st Mar 18, 7:22 PM
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    Hey everyone! Iím a mess. Mental health issues literally all my life steaming from some pretty traumatic experiences. Looking into an Iva at the moment. Iím so disgusted with myself for getting in such a mess
    • charolettepope
    • By charolettepope 5th Mar 18, 12:17 PM
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    @immoral_angeluk Do you imply that having a credit card can lead to debt? I have been thinking of getting a credit card. Now seeing your post in the thread makes me re-think. Its natural for one to spend a bit while having credit card. Please share more about your experiences of using a credit card.
    • sourcrates
    • By sourcrates 5th Mar 18, 2:22 PM
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    @immoral_angeluk Do you imply that having a credit card can lead to debt? I have been thinking of getting a credit card. Now seeing your post in the thread makes me re-think. Its natural for one to spend a bit while having credit card. Please share more about your experiences of using a credit card.
    Originally posted by charolettepope
    Do not get one, one becomes two, two quickly becomes 3 and 4 then 5, before long you have numerous cards, and are several thousand pounds in debt.

    Just read any of the post`s on this forum from people in debt, most of their debt is on credit cards, sometimes into the tens of thousands.

    Why do you thing credit cards are offered to people in the first place ?

    Because they make the banks millions of pounds in interest and charges, they are good money spinners, because people being people, will overspend on them, the banks know this, so they plug them with all there might, take it from one who had over 50k on various cards at one point..........stay well clear !!
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    • Lapua65
    • By Lapua65 11th Mar 18, 10:16 AM
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    I must admit, finding this thread has amazed me. I have struggled with depression and anxiety for about 25 years and in that time I have also been a financial disaster. I can pretty much put all of my severe bouts of anxiety and depression down to money. Spending money gets me momentary relief, but then it accumulates and I get severely depressed again. It is as everyone says a vicious cycle. What really upsets me is the number of times I have got on top of it all and then over time let it turn into a monster. I am now doing what I do every time by using 0% credit cards to try and control and still using the old cards. I need help, but I have only just started looking. I am lucky in as much as I have a good income, but if anything happened to my job I would be in dire problems. That makes it worse as I then get totally anxious about losing my job and start making mistakes at work.
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