Wits end.........................

Thanks for all your support. When we applied for contact we were told that the only way we could do this is through the courts separately from the CSA. Apparently paying for the child does not automatically qualify you for contact rights. We simply didn't have the money to pursue this and we were told that the child thought someone else was her Daddy and we were told to back off for her sake. As for any details of her or her mothers life, we know nothing. As it was a one night stand with someone he had just met that evening, he doesn't know where she's from, can't remember how old she is, he only remembers that she was a lot older than him at the time. We know she got married a few years ago because her name changed on the statements the CSA were sending us. But that's as far as it goes. I'd love to know some more, like is she doing well at school, is her health good, is she sporty etc. Even just to see what she looks like would be good. We don't know what sort of life she's living at all. It's sad really. I've broached the subject with my hubby a few times but he's closed off to it now. Any time I bring it up, he shrinks a little. He is a very caring and compassionate man and I know this must be hurting him. But what else can I do?
Does he have the right to ask the CSA these basic questions? Like what area does she live in? Not an address, obviously they can't release that. Is she staying on at school? Does her Mum and Step-Dad work? etc