feel so stupid
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well in my last time i created the profile i didn't get any replies so I still don't get any views. This is the problem i have messaged thousands of girls thousands on this site but no one actually replies
Try OKCUPID as well. Also free and, in my opinion, full of nicer people. They do not have as many members as POF, but you need quality, not quantity
Another note, you say you messaged 'thousands' of girls. Don't. It's really obvious to girls when someone has messaged thousands of girls. When I joined OKC I had a friend of mine with me. We quite often got the same message from the same guy. Instant block!
We also got many messages where the guy had clearly not bothered to read our profile. A quick 'hey' or 'hello' looks like it's just been sent to everyone.
Find a girl that you really think you like, read her profile, find a common interest and message her about that. Not to over the top but make it clear you have read and taken interest in what she has taken time to write.
It'll definitely take longer, but more likely to yield results. Mailshottig thousands won't work.0 -
But the thing is i do read the profile. I sent a message to this person yesterday saying i took a look at her profile, asked her what kind of dog she had because it said she has a pet dog, told her what kind i had, asked if she had a good easter, asked what her favorite film was.
She viewed my profile but didn't respond, i aways take the time to read through profiles and then send nice long messages but they never respond.
I don't just say hello0 -
But the thing is i do read the profile. I sent a message to this person yesterday saying i took a look at her profile, asked her what kind of dog she had because it said she has a pet dog, told her what kind i had, asked if she had a good easter, asked what her favorite film was.
She viewed my profile but didn't respond, i aways take the time to read through profiles and then send nice long messages but they never respond.
I don't just say hello
Okay but I mean the thousands you mention. You will get a lot of misses! Some girls won't fancy you. Some girls won't like your personality! That's just how online dating goes! You may find someone eventually! I've seen a lot of success stories and so far mien isn't going too badly either 0 -
jobbingmusician wrote: »Thank you for removing the link so promptly.
The link was still working at 15.50 hrsIf you are querying your Council Tax band would you please state whether you are in England, Scotland or Wales0 -
well i think it is deleted now, i thought i did it but im sure its gone now.
I really don;t know why people won't message me, i sent this really nice female a message just now, asking her what she is studying at uni, what her favorite Harry Potter Book was because it said she liked them. Telling her what things i do.
She veiwed my profile and did not respond and that is aways what happens. I feel worthless again, am i really that ugly, that hideous that no one actually wants to be my friend. I am crying here, i do not want another Xmas where my stepbrother has his gf with him and her hugging him on new years day with me again glued to the spot feeling lonely, upset and worthless. I want to be cared for, i want somebody to love me but instead i have no one0 -
well i think it is deleted now, i thought i did it but im sure its gone now.
I really don;t know why people won't message me, i sent this really nice female a message just now, asking her what she is studying at uni, what her favorite Harry Potter Book was because it said she liked them. Telling her what things i do.
She veiwed my profile and did not respond and that is aways what happens. I feel worthless again, am i really that ugly, that hideous that no one actually wants to be my friend. I am crying here, i do not want another Xmas where my stepbrother has his gf with him and her hugging him on new years day with me again glued to the spot feeling lonely, upset and worthless. I want to be cared for, i want somebody to love me but instead i have no one
When you send a message, forget about it. Then if they reply, it's a nice surprise, but you're not hanging on a response.
Online dating isn't easy. There's a lot of people on there who you're not compatible with. It may work for you, it may not. But don't let it get you down.
Volunteering at our church may help you meet girls too.0 -
i don't even know how to start a conversation though. Even when i see someone i like what do i say to them, how do i introduce myself. I can't just say hi, your pretty can you date me.
I have had no experience with girls this is the problem.0 -
Hi Sam, I've been watching this thread for a few days now. I'd really recommend securing yourself a job over and above anything else. That way, you've got financial security to go out, and go on holiday. That will also do wonders for your confidence and your self esteem, and you'll be in a better position to look for a partner, because you'll be feeling more positive about yourself.
Don't worry about being a late bloomer. I met the love of my life when I was 36! Many people don't settle down till even later than that.
To be honest, online dating is a complete numbers game, a bit like job hunting!
I also wanted to say that I think you're really brave for apologising to KFC. Not many people would have the courage to do that.
Good luck with everything. 0 -
I suppose the thing is i really want to be more independent from my family. I would love to find a place of my own in the next year or so, to be able to have a job, have a family in the future.
Those are the things that would really make me happy0 -
I don't know how to link so I have copied the whole thing.
With its collection of small vessels and hoses, plain tiled floor and bags of malt, the workplace of People Like Us in Skippinge, Denmark, is a typical brewing scene.
But for Rune Lindgreen, a 39-year-old with Asperger Syndrome, it is much more than that. Lindgreen was out of work for almost a decade before landing a job as a beer developer in this company run by autistic adults.
People Like Us was founded last year by brothers Lars and Jesper Carlsen, owners of LeVas, a provider of education and training for people with autism.
The move was born out of disappointment at a lack of work opportunities for autistic adults. “We had been getting more and more frustrated because when our youngsters leave [LeVas], nothing happens,” says Jesper. “It’s impossible for them to find a job.”
Their frustration is reflected in the figures. Recent research by the UK’s National Autistic Society found that just 16% of autistic adults are in full-time paid work, despite the vast majority saying they want to work.
Autistic people are all different and some are not able to work. Many struggle with interviews – where open-ended or vague questions can be confusing – and with social interaction in the workplace. Without a tailored approach from employers, this means it is often difficult to find and retain work.
But things are slowly changing. In addition to the Carlsens’ efforts, organisations as diverse as Microsoft, Vodafone and GCHQ are actively recruiting autistic people.
Companies fear employing people with learning disabilities, survey reveals
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There are about 450,000 autistic adults of working age in the UK; a huge, largely untapped talent pool. Richard Branson recently invested in Auticon, a German social enterprise that finds IT employment for autistic adults, to help it grow in the UK.
The Danish company Specialisterne, meanwhile, has worked since 2004 to bring more autistic people into the workplace, collaborating with companies around the world including the software giant SAP and the professional services firm EY (formerly Ernst & Young).0
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