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    • stressedoutmumof1
    • By stressedoutmumof1 8th Dec 14, 8:19 AM
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    Xmas Dinner - Plate up or Self Serve?
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    • 8th Dec 14, 8:19 AM
    Xmas Dinner - Plate up or Self Serve? 8th Dec 14 at 8:19 AM
    Hi


    We are hosting Christmas dinner this year, and I was wondering what you all do with regard to serving the dinner. Do you plate everyone's dinner in the kitchen and give it to them at the dining table. Or do you put everything in serving bowls etc and put it on the table for guests to help themselves?


    The reason being, my husband likes his plated up - so it's all hot and he doesn't need to add anything other than bread sauce/cranberry sauce etc. Whereas my father in law likes to help himself from the table (although that's not strictly true - he likes someone else to plate his dinner up from the main table so he can just tell them what he wants )


    So..... my thoughts are plate everyone's dinner up (small portions) and then put extras of everything in serving bowls on the table for anyone to add additional food if they wish to.


    Is that a good compromise?
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    • SailorSam
    • By SailorSam 8th Dec 14, 8:23 AM
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    I'd want it plated up.
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    • General Grant
    • By General Grant 8th Dec 14, 8:24 AM
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    Are you talking about a buffet table?

    For Christmas dinner I'd expect everyone to know each other well enough that you could just ask which they would prefer when they arrive.

    ("Different strokes for different folks" is possible?)
    • stressedoutmumof1
    • By stressedoutmumof1 8th Dec 14, 8:27 AM
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    No, I mean the main Christmas dinner - turkey, roasties, sprouts etc


    FIL has often said he prefers the dinner in serving bowls - but he never dishes his own dinner up, everyone does it for him!


    Husband on the other hand likes it plated up. Me - I'm not fussed!
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    • Mint1955
    • By Mint1955 8th Dec 14, 8:28 AM
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    Definitely if you are not used to doing Christmas it gets a a bit manic with everything on the table. Plate up smaller dinners and put everything else back in the cooling oven. Then as people want seconds either get them to bring their plates to kitchen to help themselves or put dish on table of the leftovers. Try not to have too much of the boring bits leftover in our house they all want extra potatoes and gravy and meat but hardly any veg.
    • Bettie
    • By Bettie 8th Dec 14, 8:45 AM
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    meatstuffs, sausage stuffing, pigs in blankets plated, the rest in dishes. I usually walk around the table "silver serving" some food to help the lazy ones.
    • BAGGY
    • By BAGGY 8th Dec 14, 8:53 AM
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    We have 15+ for xmas dinner. We serve ourselves in the kitchen from the pans and there is extra spuds, pigs in blankets and suace along with gravy are on the table.
    • General Grant
    • By General Grant 8th Dec 14, 8:58 AM
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    No, I mean the main Christmas dinner - turkey, roasties, sprouts etc


    FIL has often said he prefers the dinner in serving bowls - but he never dishes his own dinner up, everyone does it for him!


    Husband on the other hand likes it plated up. Me - I'm not fussed!
    Originally posted by stressedoutmumof1

    I understood what food you would be serving but wondered about where the food would be in relation to where people are to sit - ie (a) buffet, where food is laid out separately and people either help themselves, starting with an empty plate, or someone serves them some of the items (eg the turkey) and they help themselves to vegetables
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    (b) the food is on the same table as that at which people sit. In that situation I would have the host carving the turkey and people select the rest of the main course themselves. (Hostess serves the pudding and others take brandy butter custard as they wish.) But then I'm probably a bit old fashioned for family meals. Take no notice.

    I wouldn't plate up but would have turkey carved at the table and when the carving has started bring in the hot vegetables. After the ladies have been served with the turkey, FIL could have his food added to this plate by another - have more than one dish of each vegetable to make things quicker.

    ETA: On reflection I'm much too formal.
    Last edited by General Grant; 08-12-2014 at 9:03 AM.
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    • By Buzzybee90 8th Dec 14, 9:09 AM
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    I hate having my food plated up for me, my family never ever plate up. However, for formal larger meals my grandparents would put meat on the plate (to ensure there was enough) and the rest was then chosen from serving dishes.

    I think when we were a little younger the veg was silver served but teens+ should be able to get their own veg.

    I'd never plate up a roast dinner for anyone other than my boyfriend (who I live with), I find it a bit rude and intrusive. Good luck!
    Last edited by Buzzybee90; 08-12-2014 at 9:11 AM.
    • Buzzybee90
    • By Buzzybee90 8th Dec 14, 9:10 AM
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    I understood what food you would be serving but wondered about where the food would be in relation to where people are to sit - ie (a) buffet, where food is laid out separately and people either help themselves, starting with an empty plate, or someone serves them some of the items (eg the turkey) and they help themselves to vegetables
    or
    (b) the food is on the same table as that at which people sit. In that situation I would have the host carving the turkey and people select the rest of the main course themselves. (Hostess serves the pudding and others take brandy butter custard as they wish.) But then I'm probably a bit old fashioned for family meals. Take no notice.

    I wouldn't plate up but would have turkey carved at the table and when the carving has started bring in the hot vegetables. After the ladies have been served with the turkey, FIL could have his food added to this plate by another - have more than one dish of each vegetable to make things quicker.

    ETA: On reflection I'm much too formal.
    Originally posted by General Grant
    I don't think you're old fashioned, this is how we eat at family meals.
    • fiscalfreckles
    • By fiscalfreckles 8th Dec 14, 9:11 AM
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    I plate up but put out extra veg & potatoes in serving dishes for those that want them. I offer more meat but leave that keeping warm in the kitchen.
    • catkins
    • By catkins 8th Dec 14, 10:25 AM
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    Well over the years I have tried both plating up and people serving themselves and have found plating up to be the easiest and fastest so that everyone's food remains hot.


    It does depend on how many you are cooking for. The least I have cooked for is 12 and the most 16. It is difficult having serving dishes for large amounts that have to be passed along the table as it means by the time everyone has helped themselves food is getting cold.


    We have some meat eaters and some vegetarian so we know how many plates want meat, how many want the veggie option. Everyone likes roast potatoes, Yorkshire puds, stuffing. Non veggies with sausage meat and then I just ask if everyone wants the different veg.


    Have also tried putting veg, potatoes etc in a hostess trolley and people helping themselves from that but that takes too long too
  • wallbash
    We have 15+ for xmas dinner. We serve ourselves in the kitchen from the pans and there is extra spuds, pigs in blankets and suace along with gravy are on the table.
    Originally posted by BAGGY

    My way, but I do take it out of the pans into serving dishes on a number of borrowed heated hostess trays. I cater for about 14 , every one gets what they want and its still hot.
    Guests are given a tea towel to hold a very warm plate at the kitchen door.

    Still have nightmares of my Father in law carving a turkey at the table , everything was on the cool side when you finally got to eat.
    • daivid
    • By daivid 8th Dec 14, 10:48 AM
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    We always serve ourselves from the table and have never had a problem with the food going cold - warmed plates and bowls may help but everything seems to hold its heat until all have been served their meat and beyond. This is what is normal in our house, I probably havent had my food plated up for me since I was 4 or 5.
    • stressedoutmumof1
    • By stressedoutmumof1 8th Dec 14, 11:08 AM
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    Thank you for your replies everyone.

    It's a funny one, there certainly seems to be differing opinions! Strange how when dining in a top restaurant you would certainly expect your food plated up, but in a less formal environment some would want to eat more buffet/Harvester restaurant style. British dining etiquette at it's best

    Appreciate the input guys - thank you
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    • TBagpuss
    • By TBagpuss 8th Dec 14, 11:34 AM
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    Self serve. Warm the plates first (and the serving dishes) and encourage the people who are served first with meat to start taking veggies etc. That way, nothing goes cold and everyone gets to decide for themselves how much of different things they want.
    We always have meals this way and I've never had a problem with things going cold. Obviously if you don't warm the plates then you are more likely to have issues.
    • nickyhutch
    • By nickyhutch 8th Dec 14, 11:48 AM
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    I'd hate to have my food plated up for me and would hate to do it for someone else. I want to choose what I want and how much, and I'd want my guests to feel free to do the same. I'd feel like I was back at school.

    Warm your serving dishes and plates, and food wont go cold.
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    • Totality
    • By Totality 8th Dec 14, 12:14 PM
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    Almost always self serve in our house for any kind of roast - certainly will be on Christmas day. Warm your dishes and plates through and you'll be fine!
    • notanewuser
    • By notanewuser 8th Dec 14, 12:24 PM
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    We had xmas on Saturday. 6 adults, 1 child. Had everything on the breakfast bar and hob for people to help themselves to. Gravy and sauces on the table. Hot plates and those tea light dish warmer things kept everything piping hot.
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    • catkins
    • By catkins 8th Dec 14, 12:35 PM
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    I'd hate to have my food plated up for me and would hate to do it for someone else. I want to choose what I want and how much, and I'd want my guests to feel free to do the same. I'd feel like I was back at school.

    Warm your serving dishes and plates, and food wont go cold.
    Originally posted by nickyhutch


    I don't see the problem with having the food plated up. That's what we do at Christmas and just about every other day and certainly don't feel like we are back at school!


    Even with warm or hot plates and dishes the food does go cold. Maybe with a small number of people it doesn't but with larger amounts it does. As I say, I have tried different ways over the years but, to me, the only way to ensure none of the food is cold is to plate the meals
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