Husband has left me, don;t know what to do.

Practically - is it a joint tenancy? You said 'we both rent' so I presume so. He cannot 'make you leave' or 'refuse to let you back'. You are also just as liable as him so get this sorted legally. If he doesn't pay, they'll pursue you. Advice can be found on the property boards (keep it factual and to the point though). Or ring Shelter for advice.

I've been in your shoes as far as marriage goes. Stay strong and hold your head up high.

this is a horrible situation to be in and I can empathise from experience.
Emotionally you will be feeling every emotion possible and sometimes overwhelmingly all at once. You cant change anything tonight, so as cliche as it sounds just try to get some rest and hopefully you will have somewhat of a clearer head in the morning.
Practically, you are joint tenants, you have an equal right to live in that property, so I would now be seeking some advice from shelter or cab as other posters have suggested.
He may have emotionally detached at the moment but he cant physically detach from the relationship without sorting out these issues. Bank accounts, joint bills, any wills or investments need to be sorted, its not a case of him being able to just draw a line under it and kick u out.
I want to just give you a big virtual hug and tell you now, from future you, that you are going to be fine.
Its rubbish and horrible and painful but, the only way from this is up hun, im down the line now and almost at the end of my divorce and see it from the other side, but not so long ago I was feeling just like you are now,
trust me it does get better. ...
I hope you manage to get some rest, PM me if you want to chat tomorrow :-)

So sorry for you. It's a horrible shock, and worse because he won't discuss it.

If you struggle to breathe or feel panic, focus on your breathing; really concentrate on the sensation and sound of it. If this calms you a bit, say in your head, "I love him, but it is only a relationship." and repeat this until you are calm - focus on the words and saying them slowly.

You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who could do this. Over time, you may or may not find out what the reason was, but there is not much you are likely to be able to about it. I expect your husband is also a little shocked at the moment; it's a big step to take, but they may also be relieved if they have been brooding on what to do for a while.

Get as much help and advice as you can. Tell your boss immediately as you may need some time off work.

Best wishes

Solicitors offer a free, half-hour initial interview.
You can book as few or as many as you like with different firms.
Don't commit to one just yet, you're not ready anyway but...
Have questions written down, jot down the answers you get and make a note about each one you see and whether you feel they could help/you feel you could work with them or vice versa.
At no point cry in the solicitors ... way too expensive. You need friend to cry on!
As has been said protect your assets. And don't fall into the trap of thinking he won't empty a joint account or take up a loan/use up the overdraft. But I hope he doesn't.

Unfortunately it sounds like he's been out of the relationship, emotionally, for a while. And moving you out might mean he is ready to take the next step and is considering a new relationship. I agree with others, I just do not think he wants to try, his mind is made up.

He wanted out, he should have been the one to go, IMO.

You'll get lots of support on here, hope you also have some IRL.
(((Hugs)))

Ten years is a long time to be together and to treat someone who you took vows with and professed to spend the rest of your life with, how he is treating you now is ****. I’m sorry for the way you have been treated, you don’t deserve that. There seems to be a lot of men who go about break-ups the wrong way these days (from reading some threads on this board) where is the level of respect? Ok fair enough you want to part ways but damn, have some respect for your partner not to treat them worse than scum!

I think you may need time to get your head around the fact that your marriage is over and that you will need to separate your finances. From the sounds of it, your husband is already divorced in his mind, kicking you out and getting you out of his physical life was the last step. Understanding and accepting that your marriage is over will obviously take time so you’ll need to deal with the practicals.

1. How long is left on the lease?

2. He can’t just kick you out, you have keys, go back home!

3. You said you yourself wouldn’t be able to rent a room in towns close to where you work. If you want to keep your job you may have no choice but to move even further afield, possibly a fair distance away until you are in an area you can afford. What you’ll need to factor in to that decision will be how much more will travelling costs be and also the time it will take you to get to/from work, to see if it’s feasible even keeping the job you have. You may have to look closer to where you live for a new job if it comes to it.

4. Speak to a solicitor about getting the ball rolling regarding divorce and also what is going to be needed to be done about your finances and separating them. You will need to sort out any joint debts, savings, pensions etc.

Usually it’s the woman who has emotionally checked out of a relationship a long time before she actually ends it. He must have been feeling this way for a long time so you may want to evaluate your relationship over the past couple of years to see where things have gone wrong so you don’t make the same mistake moving forward in any new relationship in the future.

It’s a crap place to be right now and your ex has gone about things the wrong way but try and put all that behind you and look towards your new future. Things will only get better and if it’s any comfort, women usually take break-ups very hard initially but ultimately end up emotionally better in the long term.