Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing · 5 May 2018 at 8:19PM

Dgd has decided to go for a sleep over with the girls.
So I am going to have an early night. I am shattered.

surveyqueenuk · 6 May 2018 at 12:32AM

grey_lady wrote: »

Presumably ds is looking at a short term prison sentence? Mooloo how the heck you can say 'Dgs3 is a handful as obvious he doesn't listen' i don't know, poor little boy has been neglected and abused, - how you can blame the girlfriend, the HV - everyone apart from ds i don't know - its disturbing.

That's a bit rotten. Of course the little boy has been neglected and it is obvious that this will manifest itself in challenging behaviour. Is Moo supposed to pretend to us all that DGS3 is a perfect little angel all the time? Of course not. It is perfectly OK to describe challenging behaviour as "a handful" (and is far more polite than some would say!)

What's not OK is tearing another woman down, a woman who is clearly at the end of her tether, because she dared to be honest about the realities of childrearing. That's something I find far more disturbing.

Savvy_sewing · 6 May 2018 at 2:45PM

Today I am struggling.
Dgd has gone out to play. I have been back to work (twice now), to bring back work and machines. I am slowly plodding when I would rather be sitting in the sun sipping a cold drink.
I have been tearful all day. So it's a good job Dgd is out playing.
Biggests husband has been round to see DS and the GF and told them that they have to get their act together and DS needs to get a proper job. That the house has to be sorted etc so that they can get the children back. ( I am not sure that will happen but they have to have some hope and an aim!) who knows?
I am not sure if I know where my head is anymore.
I feel like I have been hit by a steamrolller and my head is a cement mixer!

CruisingSaver · 6 May 2018 at 4:34PM

It isn't surprising that you feel tearful Mooloo, you've had one heck of a shock and it'll take you a while to fully come to terms with what's happened.

I hope you manage to get a bit of a break from sewing to enjoy this lovely weather x

thorsoak · 6 May 2018 at 5:44PM

Maybe DS might listen to Biggest's husband - a man in the family telling him what he should be doing ....but will he listen? Let's hope so.

In the meantime, Mooloo try and enjoy the good weather. What will happen, will happen in spite of however much you worry. Remember the first rule of first aid - before you help the casualties, make sure that you stay safe xxx

Savvy_Sue · 6 May 2018 at 7:01PM

No idea if there are any Pause programmes near you Mooloo (or near either of the twins) but it could be worth keeping an eye open.

beanielou · 6 May 2018 at 7:56PM

No wonder you have been tearful.
Keep plodding xx

Brighton_belle · 6 May 2018 at 8:00PM

Not surprised you are tearful mooloo. Seems a reasonable response given what you've been through this week on top on already being stretched to the limit physically. Try to do what you can to nurture yourself.
As Thorsoak say, what will be will be and the only person who can prioritise you to keep you well is you.
Well done to Biggest's DH for stepping up.

Savvy_sewing · 6 May 2018 at 11:12PM

I certainly have friends in the Mother's of Dgds school friends.
Yesterday the near Neighbour was here. Tonight the mum we often see on Friday at the pub arrived with a picnic dinner and wine.
Dgd played with the girls from yesterday for a while, although she never did stay at the sleep over as she was too sensitive. They left at 11.20 ish, just after I started to work.
Then we had a call from our Friday Friends asking if she wanted to go and play, so I took her round and then came back to Sew.
I watched or more correctly had some recorded programs on tv while I sewed.
I went back to work twice for things I needed and am ok with sewing £152 worth of work considering I was feeling I was in auto pilot all day.
I am getting messages from BF says that he only said good bye because he thought I wanted to hear it, that he thinks my teaching in Portugal plans might be worth investing in, and he thinks we will find our time.
I wish I could believe him, but I am synical and think that he is just trying to keep me, dangling carrots.
My soppy heart says after so long at least listen.
The fire in my belly tells me too little too late, and he just wants me to be tied down to him one way or another.
I don't want to be seen as an investment!
That's not the relationship I thought we had.
I am off to bed.
My eyes hurt today.
Night people, I truely Belief posting here has saved my sanity.
X

ScarletRibbons · 7 May 2018 at 8:38AM

Mooloo, you have so many "virtual" friends on here wishing you well.

All you can do now is keep going, and put DGD and yourself first. Tragic as the situation is, it's too big for you, you can't take on any more.

BF and his mind games are irrelevant compared to your family problems, put him to the back of your mind.

Wishing you all the very best and hoping you get through all this.

Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

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