Money Moral Dilemma: Should I tell my friend he's underpaid me?

Former_MSE_Steve_1 · 12 March 2019 at 8:03PM

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

I often buy gig tickets for my friend and he pays me back, but not always the full amount. Eg, he gave me £25 for a £28 ticket. I wouldn't mind if it was a one-off, but it's happened a few times now. Should I say something?

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Skibunny40 · 12 March 2019 at 8:19PM

Umm, yes.... he gives you £25 & you say, "actually it's £28, see where it says £28 on the ticket"...really not a dilemma

Minky_2 · 12 March 2019 at 10:14PM

This happened to me alot of the time as i organise most of the events out. I now use the Splitwise app and my friends all have it too now so there is always a running...and correct...total of what they owe me. If they only pay £25 it will still show the £3 as outstanding and the app reminds them rather than me being uncomfortable having to chase it.

marich · 13 March 2019 at 12:06AM

So why are you asking the question ?

Perhaps your friend has seen your lack of self-confidence and inability to assert yourself - is it really that he wants cheap tickets ?

Get real . Either tell him he owes or carry on resenting him - what kind of a 'friend' is that - and what kind of relationship do you really have with him ?

Ask yourself - where is the balance of power between you ?

REJP · 13 March 2019 at 12:10AM

I agree with those who say this is not a dilemma.
Show him the price on the ticket or receipt and ask for the right money.
If that breaks your friendship he was not a real friend anyway.
Who really dreamed up this question ?

gloriouslyhappy · 13 March 2019 at 12:48AM

Minky wrote: »

This happened to me alot of the time as i organise most of the events out. I now use the Splitwise app and my friends all have it too now so there is always a running...and correct...total of what they owe me. If they only pay £25 it will still show the £3 as outstanding and the app reminds them rather than me being uncomfortable having to chase it.

Thanks, I didn't know about Splitwise, I'm about to do some group bookings so will look into this.

lemonreptile · 13 March 2019 at 7:30AM

Just tell him straight. Your friend is taking the pi$$

VoucherMan · 13 March 2019 at 7:30AM

And if the guy doen't like messing with small change, no problem, just tell him that you'll happily accept a round £30 for the ticket.

Better still, ask him to pay in advance.

Dean000000 · 13 March 2019 at 7:46AM

Or just tell him....it’s £28 quid you scheister....so the first pint is on you....

With a smile...

Don’t get why everyone gets so irate about £3 here if there with friends....

Balence it off with other stuff in jest...

Kebabs on you tonight Steve....;)

John_Gray · 13 March 2019 at 8:23AM

lemonreptile wrote: »

Just tell him straight. Your friend is taking the pi$$

Surely he is taking the pi££ ?

pollypenny · 13 March 2019 at 9:36AM

Was the extra £3 a booking fee that's not printed on ticket so easily overlooked?

Just remind him.

Money Moral Dilemma: Should I tell my friend he's underpaid me?

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