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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 14th Jan 09, 3:22 AM
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    LameWolf
    Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?
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    • 14th Jan 09, 3:22 AM
    Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other? 14th Jan 09 at 3:22 AM
    Hello Friends

    It's silly o'clock as I type this, but I've been lying in bed unable to sleep, and it occurs to me that there's not a Depression thread yet.

    I think those of us who suffer this can help each other. I'd like to think so, anyway; I do know that, as a MoneySaving forum, it is relevant for those of us who go a bit OTT with the spending when the Black Dog has us. I know I do - I spend far and away too much on alcohol.

    Depression is as much a disability as the physical stuff (of which I do have some also, I have lupus) but it is so sad that it is seen as something you can "pull yourself together" from. Etc, etc. If you've read this far, you know that it doesn't work that way.

    OK, to get to the point..... I have had severe depression from very early in life (diagnosed at the age of 12, I have been on various anti-d's for the last 37 years) and I'd like to offer a "paw" of friendship to others in the jaws of the Black Dog.

    I can't, obviously, wave a magic wand and solve all your problems, but I do think that we can perhaps share coping strategies, and maybe provide some mutual support.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
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  • feelinggood
    Could you borrow one of a neighbour?
    Originally posted by Dippychick
    I've not seen you in a while Dippy, hows things with you? What you doing in here?
    • Mips
    • By Mips 17th Jan 10, 7:52 PM
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    Mips
    I've not seen you in a while Dippy, hows things with you? What you doing in here?
    Originally posted by feelinggood
    Followed a link in another thread
  • feelinggood
    Followed a link in another thread
    Originally posted by Dippychick
    Thanks for the heads up.
  • crazy_girl
    feelinggood- i know exactly how you feel i have to tell him why im closing the bedroom door if i want to
  • crazy_girl
    not exactly
    • Sugar Coated Owl
    • By Sugar Coated Owl 17th Jan 10, 8:14 PM
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    Sugar Coated Owl
    I guess he's just trying to keep you safe crazy girl
    --><-- Sugar Coated Owl --><--

    If you believe, you will survive - Katie Piper

    Woohoo! I'm normal! Gotta go tell the cat.
    • Mips
    • By Mips 17th Jan 10, 8:15 PM
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    Mips
    not exactly
    Originally posted by crazy_girl

    Well can you maybe try the competitions board and take your mind off these feelings?

    It's quite good when you get into it - and you can do lots and lots of them
  • crazy_girl
    yeah i know but its driving me bonkers (haha already there!)
  • crazy_girl
    hes reading my laptop im off
    • Mips
    • By Mips 17th Jan 10, 8:20 PM
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    Mips
    hes reading my laptop im off
    Originally posted by crazy_girl
    try and distract yourself - you can get the help you need without going to the extremes. He sounds like a caring bloke.

    If you love him, give him a night off and give him a cuddle
    • pipkin71
    • By pipkin71 17th Jan 10, 9:13 PM
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    pipkin71
    Hi Pipkin, I'm glad to hear that your pain has eased a bit. *fingers crossed* that your Doctor will sort out your pain medication during your next appointment. Thinking of you xxx

    I'm not doing so well. I still have the home treatment team visiting me everyday, however, there have still been a number of incidents this week. It's like I have no fight left in me anymore.
    Originally posted by razorbladekisses
    Aww hunny.

    If there was anything I could do, I would

    Try and stay strong. I know it's not easy. Is there anyone you can talk to?
    There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter
    • Sugar Coated Owl
    • By Sugar Coated Owl 17th Jan 10, 9:24 PM
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    Sugar Coated Owl
    Other than the crisis team, there isn't anyone.
    --><-- Sugar Coated Owl --><--

    If you believe, you will survive - Katie Piper

    Woohoo! I'm normal! Gotta go tell the cat.
  • feelinggood
    My PM box is always open RBK. I can't promise a speedy reply as the baby dictates when I can get time on the PC, but you are more than welcome to send me a message.

    What treatment are you getting at the moment? Would PALS be able to help you access therapy?
  • feelinggood
    Oh, and do you use the 0300 number for Surrey? If so, what have they been like?
    • pipkin71
    • By pipkin71 17th Jan 10, 9:34 PM
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    crazy_girl, I know it's difficult, but your OH is doing what he can to try and keep you safe.

    Hope you're ok.
    There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter
    • pipkin71
    • By pipkin71 17th Jan 10, 9:37 PM
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    pipkin71
    Other than the crisis team, there isn't anyone.
    Originally posted by razorbladekisses
    Soo posted the number to the Samaritans. If you need to talk, perhaps they can at least listen to how you're feeling?

    How long do the home care team come out for each day? Have you got any other follow up care going on?

    My pm box is available too I can't wave a magic wand, but I can listen.
    There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter
  • sandy71
    RBK I wish I could help you as well. My PM box is open too so you got a whole load of boxes to choose from You should get one of us.

    Pipkin how is the pain now ? Hope you are feeling better.

    FG Hugs to you too.
    • pipkin71
    • By pipkin71 17th Jan 10, 9:47 PM
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    pipkin71
    RBK I wish I could help you as well. My PM box is open too so you got a whole load of boxes to choose from You should get one of us.

    Pipkin how is the pain now ? Hope you are feeling better.

    FG Hugs to you too.
    Originally posted by sandy71
    Hope you're ok sandy

    Have you managed to talk to your friend?

    The pain in my back has eased and the hip pain isn't as bad as this morning, definitely an improvement on yesterday

    I do feel a bit nauseous, but that's just one of the side effects of the drugs.
    There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter
  • sandy71
    Hope you're ok sandy

    Have you managed to talk to your friend?

    The pain in my back has eased and the hip pain isn't as bad as this morning, definitely an improvement on yesterday

    I do feel a bit nauseous, but that's just one of the side effects of the drugs.
    Originally posted by pipkin71
    I'm not too bad thanks. I haven't talked to her yet, she lives an hour away and I don't want to do it over the phone I would rather do it face to face.

    Glad you are feeling a bit better, sometimes the side effects of the drugs make you wonder if it's worht taking them:rolleyes:
    • Sugar Coated Owl
    • By Sugar Coated Owl 17th Jan 10, 9:54 PM
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    Thanks FG

    TBH everyone has been good. I have a social worker and I'm doing CBT with a psychologist and I'm soon to start a psychotherapy group. They were also going to refer me to a few groups e.g. art, relaxation, anxiety management but I haven't heard anymore about that as yet.

    I've got an 0300 number but as I'm under their care atm I can use an 01483 number. I'm too scared to call. It's silly I know but I have trouble using the phone.
    --><-- Sugar Coated Owl --><--

    If you believe, you will survive - Katie Piper

    Woohoo! I'm normal! Gotta go tell the cat.
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