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  • Nelski
    Nelski Posts: 15,197
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    karcher wrote: »
    I shall do that Nelski thanks.

    Re your friend cancelling :mad:..what is wrong with these people?
    Does your neighbour not normally eat of an evening with or without the OH!!

    Why oh why is having a *special meal* with your OH such a big bloody deal on a random day in the month of February.
    When not single I avoided anything even remotely connected to this now over commercialised load on nonsense!!

    I have no idea what I am having to eat tonight yet..I may just have very quick, simple and easy beans on toast and bloody enjoy it :D

    No idea but its annoying when its been in the diary for a while and I cancelled a work meeting because I didn't want to let her down...stupid me eh:cool:

    Valentines for obvious reasons leaves me cold and Asda was pretty sickening today with everyone dashing around to buy things at well over inflated prices...but grumpy me will as I say turn into smiley me when I get half price flowers. I love buying flowers for myself but would not dream of it today or tomorrow

    Beans on toast Karcher cannot be beaten good choice :)
  • PasturesNew
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    karcher wrote: »
    ... my connection comes up as my flat number...the provider did this (goodness knows why) so they know I have internet.

    Ah. At some future point, you might investigate how to change that... but I can understand the fear of getting it wrong/locking yourself out when you try.
  • moneyistooshorttomention
    moneyistooshorttomention Posts: 17,940 Forumite
    edited 13 February 2017 at 5:39PM
    Admits to being gobsmacked that a neighbour would even think of asking for someone else's wi-fi password:eek:. Astonished 'r us at their sheer nerve.

    Personally I wouldnt have a scrap of difficulty refusing such a cheeky request.

    Anyway - at a practical level - wouldnt that leave your computer rather "open" to anything "nasty" they picked up on their computers?

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    Re the friend cancelling lunch - why did they even arrange it in the first place? The date on the calendar hasnt gone and changed overnight. Anyway - lunch is basically a light meal, eg soup, bread and cheese OR omelette/salad/cheese. So it's hardly a "big meal" - so she needs to "save her stomach" for that night.

    As for getting lonely as a single - imo I would think it would be a sight more lonely to be married to/living with someone incompatible. The thing that strikes me increasingly as I get older is just how important it is to have similar values to anyone wishes to have a particularly "meaningful" relationship of any description with. Coupled with just how many people just work on the basic assumption, as far as I can see, that others will have the same set of values/personal opinions they themselves have. In the last couple of months I've personally come across a noticeable number of people assuming my views/opinions are different to what they actually are on 3 different "political" issues I can think of (but my own views arent at all uncommon - lots of other people have the same views).

    Personally - I'd much rather be single than find my OH has opposite views on every subject under the sun and has just assumed mine are the same as his and finding I had to painstakingly explain mine every time. Bad enough that one of my new friends here seems to have different views to myself on every single subject I can think of and is very prone to telling me I'm "wrong"/she's "shocked" when I express different views:mad:. Luckily I have enough self-confidence to react to that by thinking "How odd - to say that when its not true? Huh?"

    Hence personally - I'd a darn sight sooner be on my own than find I might be in a position 24/7 of having to say "Mine is a perfectly valid viewpoint/I'm entitled to hold it/lots of other people hold it/there is nothing "wrong" with it".
  • LameWolf
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    karcher wrote: »
    *Slightly Off Topic Rant Alert* but felt it relevant here as it is partly about living solo....

    OK, so I have lived alone for many years, am very independent and quite happy with my own company..Why is it then, that couples, families seem to pity you and constantly ask 'Don't you get lonely?'
    ....Well no actually I don't, or hardly ever, thanks very much!

    This stems from noticing that a neighbour who doesn't live here permanently is now here and she asked me this last time I saw her. I am now absolutely dreading her knocking on my door:(

    The other thing is last time she was here she asked to use my internet. I didn't know how to say no but she had different people staying whilst she was here and they clearly used my internet too.

    Then I had a knock on my door from another neighbour asking for my password:eek:

    Since then I have got fibre optic so my router password has changed so i know she will knock asking to use my internet again..but I do not want her or anyone else to have my password, but I have no idea how to say no :(

    So I am hiding and creeping around not making a sound so I can pretend not to be in...which is irritating the hell out of me as I shouldn't have to answer the door or give out my internet password if I don't want.

    Pathetic aren't I and sorry for the rant. :o:o
    No, you're not pathetic.

    Re the "don't you get lonely?" bit - I get the same sort of pitying carp over the fact that I'm childfree. Then when they find out I'm childfree by choice all of a sudden I'm some sort of evil monster who eats babies for breakfast.

    Re the internet - just smile sweetly and say "No, you may not have my password. Good day to you". ;)
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.;)
  • karcher
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    LameWolf wrote: »
    No, you're not pathetic.

    Re the "don't you get lonely?" bit - I get the same sort of pitying carp over the fact that I'm childfree. Then when they find out I'm childfree by choice all of a sudden I'm some sort of evil monster who eats babies for breakfast.

    Re the internet - just smile sweetly and say "No, you may not have my password. Good day to you". ;)

    What goes on the mind of people who think those who don't have children by choice are in some way deranged?

    From what I can see, hear and read, many produce children and then proceed to moan about them, not really care for or love them or worse mistreat and abuse them..they are the evil monsters in my book! :mad:

    My internet password will not be being shared..thank you all for your support :D
    'I'm sinking in the quicksand of my thought
    And I ain't got the power anymore'
  • Don't worry LameWolf re the childfree bit.

    As far as I can see - it looks like there have been two taboos to do with having children.

    1. To admit exactly what childbirth is like to anyone that hasnt gone through it or any permanent effects it has had on one's body.

    2. To admit that you decided AFTER having a child/children that you had made a mistake and wouldn't do so after all if you had your time again (yes...even...if you love said children).

    Over the last few years - it looks to me like those taboos have been broken. Quite a few women are breaking the first taboo and some women are starting to break the second taboo as well now. There is still a 3rd taboo imo - but I'm still having problems mentioning that one without some women screeching at me for doing so....

    I don't think us childfree by choice people are regarded in quite the same light as we once were imo:rotfl:
  • mcculloch29
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    Being new to this thread and having read on a bit, PasturesNew, I understand you a little more, I'm glad I didn't post what I initially thought of your opinions on JM.

    Looking back on Sixties and Seventies food there are some things I liked - and still like, I love Angel Delight too - but others.... hmm!!! Vesta meals for example, Mum was a devotee of those expletive things. Ditto Knorr packet soups - and she made the best soups and stews I've ever tasted. Her chicken broth was to die for.
    Having said that Knorr Chicken Noodle is superb recovery food if you are not feeling well, imo.

    I've had a sudden longing for mousse the way Mum made it (and many other Mums also, no doubt).
    A standard tablet of fruit jelly (strawberry was nice, lime was ok, lemon and orange not so) made with half the water and then whisked up with a can of Ideal milk (evaporated milk).
    I made it a few times when my children were small but haven't made it in years.
    She had a rotary whisk, remember those things? Thinking about it so did I for about the first three years that I was married, then my friends bought me a Krups electric hand mixer for my birthday.
    It had beaters, dough hooks and a recipe leaflet in German (I lived in Germany then).
    I still have the mixer, now some 36 years old and it's in regular use for those mixing jobs that are too faffy for the food processor. Pancakes and Yorkie / Toad in the Hole batters for example.

    Another birthday my German friends got me a hairdryer and that's still going strong too. It's bright orange.. very Seventies.
    Erma Bombeck, American writer: "If I had my life to live over again... I would have burned the pink candle, sculptured like a rose, that melted in storage." Don't keep things 'for best' - that day never comes. Use them and enjoy them now.
  • mcculloch29
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    I don't really get lonely, probably because I had a long marriage with a person who wasn't very nice to live with at all.
    An acquaintance is incapable of spending time on their own and is constantly hooking up with people or asking to stay overnight at their houses.
    A mutual friend absolutely hates this - and so would I! - but this seems to whoosh over the head of the needy one.
    Erma Bombeck, American writer: "If I had my life to live over again... I would have burned the pink candle, sculptured like a rose, that melted in storage." Don't keep things 'for best' - that day never comes. Use them and enjoy them now.
  • karcher
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    A standard tablet of fruit jelly (strawberry was nice, lime was ok, lemon and orange not so) made with half the water and then whisked up with a can of Ideal milk (evaporated milk).

    She had a rotary whisk, remember those things?

    .

    I remember both the evaporated milk and jelly pudding and the rotary whisk :cool:....Cheap n easy pudding made with a bit of effort hard whisking..no wonder my mum was slim :rotfl:
    'I'm sinking in the quicksand of my thought
    And I ain't got the power anymore'
  • LameWolf
    LameWolf Posts: 11,234
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    karcher wrote: »
    My internet password will not be being shared..thank you all for your support :D
    I'm pleased to hear it - I was getting ready to put on my Safety Online Techie hat and start wagging my finger! :D

    Mcculloch :eek: @ someone asking to stay over at someone's house. It just amazes me the cheek some folks have!

    Same as asking a neighbour for their internet password, really. :cool:
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.;)
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