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    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 30th Dec 17, 5:01 PM
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    Renovations and Repayments II: New Year, New Start, New Diary.
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    • 30th Dec 17, 5:01 PM
    Renovations and Repayments II: New Year, New Start, New Diary. 30th Dec 17 at 5:01 PM
    2018 is almost upon us and is set to be the year I get my finances in order.

    So, what's changed since the start, middle, end of my last diary?
    - Regular income is up
    - Gained some knowledge of how to use a spreadsheet to budget
    - In a much better position to make steps towards positive change
    - My wife and I are working as a team
    - Unless anything drastically changes our son is staying at the local school

    What do I want to achieve?
    - Regular and realistic amounts to savings each month
    - Make the mortgage payment up to 1,000 each month
    - Get a better rate on our mortgage
    - Get rid of a lot of things we don't need ... OK that's business as usual
    - Finish the house and consider our options (staying in current house or using the equity to move somewhere new - not to my childhood home and if I mention this, please feel free to point me to this starting post)
    - Monthly targets for both financial and personal goals
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 14th May 18, 8:39 AM
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    Have a good week.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 14th May 18, 11:36 PM
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    Glad the wedding went well Alex

    It's true what you say, you think people you haven't seen for years will all still be as they were when we ourselves have moved on. Had to laugh at the overweight balding 'vain' friend
    Originally posted by newgirly
    Thanks, NG.

    I shouldn't laugh but it was amusing to see him after a long time. He was the sort of person to tell everyone he would always look after himself and wouldn't end up how he has. Now he boasts about having enough money to "keep" his family in a house in the country and have a flat in London for his work. Different type of vanity, I suppose.

    I know what you mean about people moving on and things changing. We invited lots of old friends and family to a large party a few years ago and were really surprised when most rellies turned us down because they were too old to travel to a party...

    And then there was a friend we had only been in scant contact with for a few years who now has a serious heart condition. It really makes us focus on our positive circumstances (despite being old and too fat, and still in debt).

    A bit of comparison never hurt any of us, providing we have a sense of perspective - which you do.
    Originally posted by Suffolk lass
    That's very sad, SL. I notice my parents getting older and more frail, especially my father.

    To be honest, I was dreading seeing some of the people I saw over the weekend as I'd built up an image of them having perfect lives, marriages, all being very prosperous and a walking, living image of success whilst I've been through some very difficult times. Not the case at all: none have perfect lives and most are married to prim little princesses with little else going on in their lives than gossip, shopping and coffee mornings.

    Without getting to philosophical on a Sunday morning, i think its all a part of appreciating our own sense of self! It'll have been happening for hundreds of years, however i do fear for our own kids having to do it through the glare of "un-social media".

    Sounds like you had a great day and are motivated for your next life phase!

    Now get that decluttering sorted. My advice is to declutter the storage units as well as the junk that's in them!
    Originally posted by shangaijimmy
    I think you're right, Jimmy.

    Certainly has left me thinking things aren't so bad these days. Also hope my son doesn't become too interested in social media as he gets older.

    Life phase ... hope you don't mean middle age?

    Decluttering has begun and I have over 2,000 worth of good up for sale at the moment. Advice taken on board; we are planning to get rid of a few cabinets also.
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 14th May 18, 11:46 PM
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    That same comparison can be really surprising ... I was in the mood to google the names of the people I was seeing in the photos I was scanning. Searched for one girl who grew up in the town next door to me, very well off (father was a bank manager, a big deal back then), and she married a JRR Tolkien relative. I met her at polytechnic. But at a certain point, finances etc don't mean a thing - she died at the age of 53.

    I'd feel more comfortable saying "live your life" if I wasn' t stuck at home with a lurgy that finds me unable to talk ...
    Originally posted by Karmacat
    Hope you get well soon, Karmacat.

    To be honest, I don't think finances mean a lot at all without your health (unless being used to aid recovery).

    Glad all went well yesterday.
    Happy decluttering!
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Thank you, beanie.

    Congratulations on collecting some more wisdom yesterday, Alex!

    It sounds like a lovely day and well done on being such a good Best Man!
    Originally posted by PositiveBalance
    Thank you, PB.

    Certainly felt like I did collect some more wisdom. Mrs. K. did too .... 4kg to deal with is not the same as c.30kg, it doesn't mean I'm grossly overweight and she should be pleased I can still fit into clothes I wore when I was a student.
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 14th May 18, 11:48 PM
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    Have a good week.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Thank you, Beanie. Going to try my best to.

    Certainly started well with beautiful weather, an easy day work wise, nice food cooked and consumed and a couple of good walks.
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 15th May 18, 11:04 AM
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    Thanks Alex, my throat is definitely starting to get better again.

    You sound like this weekend just gone has been *so* positive for you, its brilliant
    Retired August 2016
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 15th May 18, 4:35 PM
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    Thanks, Karmacat. Glad to hear you're on the mend.
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 15th May 18, 11:26 PM
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    Been out for a long walk tonight. Apparently the weather is set to be not as nice tomorrow so going to try to do a little more decluttering tomorrow evening.

    Parenting can be very frustrating at times! My son has managed to fall out with three friends today at school but refuses to tell me why. Can't say I'm pleased about this as he seems to make progress so far with schoolfriends only to fall out with them. Recently I've caught him saying a few superior things to others, quite silly and boastful things but the kind of behaviour which would potentially make others like him a bit less than if he didn't like the sound of his own voice quite so much. My cousin had to tell him off the other week for calling another child a "peasant".
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • Bluefire
    • By Bluefire 16th May 18, 3:08 AM
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    My cousin had to tell him off the other week for calling another child a "peasant".
    Originally posted by AlexLK
    Where is he getting this from do you think? Who in his life is he spending time with that's influencing his behaviour in this way?
    Mortgage: 08/13 28,896.49 01/18 0

    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 16th May 18, 12:23 PM
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    As far as fallouts go though, Alex, it happens all the time - keep an eye on it, of course, but experimenting with who you are and who you like is what an awful lot of childhood is actually about
    Retired August 2016
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 16th May 18, 3:38 PM
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    To be honest, I was dreading seeing some of the people I saw over the weekend as I'd built up an image of them having perfect lives, marriages, all being very prosperous and a walking, living image of success whilst I've been through some very difficult times. Not the case at all: none have perfect lives and most are married to prim little princesses with little else going on in their lives than gossip, shopping and coffee mornings.
    Originally posted by AlexLK
    While I think its great that you have had your eyes opened a bit to the realities of everybody's lives, please don't be judgemental about these women. Meeting them on one Saturday at a wedding doesn't give you any clue about what might have happened/be happening in their lives, just as they wouldn't know the full story about what you've overcome by meeting you that one occasion.
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 17th May 18, 12:22 AM
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    No decluttering done or work to the kitchen as the weather was not so bad. We had another good walk with the dogs instead followed by a drive.

    Where is he getting this from do you think? Who in his life is he spending time with that's influencing his behaviour in this way?
    Originally posted by Bluefire
    My parents, most likely.

    As far as fallouts go though, Alex, it happens all the time - keep an eye on it, of course, but experimenting with who you are and who you like is what an awful lot of childhood is actually about
    Originally posted by Karmacat
    Thank you, Karma. It can be very easy to lose sight of this fact sometimes.

    By his account he's kept himself out of trouble today and was allowed to play the piano to the rest of the school today.

    While I think its great that you have had your eyes opened a bit to the realities of everybody's lives, please don't be judgemental about these women. Meeting them on one Saturday at a wedding doesn't give you any clue about what might have happened/be happening in their lives, just as they wouldn't know the full story about what you've overcome by meeting you that one occasion.
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    Food for thought, thank you, RS.

    To be honest, the comments came from their husbands. By their accounts a lot of them had children and in the process seem to have changed.
    2018 totals:
    Savings 7,600
    Mortgage Overpayments 1,750
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 17th May 18, 6:57 AM
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    To be honest, the comments came from their husbands. By their accounts a lot of them had children and in the process seem to have changed.
    Originally posted by AlexLK
    Not surprising really, having your son changed you didn't it?

    Those comments would make me lose a touch of respect for the husbands, not the wives.
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