Trying to get on that ladder

Hey everyone
I'm looking to buy my first home, and need something to keep me motivated to keep saving, so after reading through a few of the 'diaries' on here I thought I'd join you.
Short backstory; I'm currently renting but also saving to buy my first house, I've been saving casually for the past few years, putting away £100 here and there when I had some left over from spending, then a year ago I looked at how much I’ve spent on rent and other bits and pieces and realised how much money I’ve ‘wasted’ so started seriously saving. The first few months I saved every spare penny, then started noticing things that I’ve been not allowing myself and I desperately don’t want to go back to how I used to be, spending money on things that don’t add long term value, so I’m using writing as a way to keep myself accountable.
I’m currently trying to balance out having a life and saving, I tend to go in 100% and did for a few months and literally did nothing unless it was free, now I’m trying to be more reasonable to prevent complete burnout and going the other way and spending everything!
I’ve got enough for the deposit but need money for solicitor/buying furniture (I have a few pieces but need most of it) plus I’d like to have a bit tucked away for emergency money. I read somewhere that the ideal would be to have 4 months living expenses in savings. Sounds like scary numbers…