I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

I would be seeking legal advice as refusing the mother access to the children with no court order maybe classed as kidnap on your part rereading through i couldn't see that your son or you had guardianship so whatever the rights or wrongs the law at this point maybe on her side. I know he has an appointment with a solicitor but it may be worth calling citizens advice for more info /help . I am sure someone will be along to offer more knowledge x

You can find info on Gov.uk re Non-molestation orders Mooloo . It's like the Injunction that freed us from ex husband.


As your son has only recently admitted what's been happening he will need to see what evidence he can produce . It seems he's only just made it known to SS . I was lucky to have documented evidence from both GP and Police .


The order involves both legal representatives and court . In his case the little ones will need to be protected too . I don't know if her behaviour involves mental , physical , financial or other forms of control .



I know you have a meeting in a few weeks but as initially the Health Visitor and now SS are backing him and the boys leaving their home for now, it's worth trying to get the contact your son was put in touch with to help explain the process .


I can't remember which order is in place which meant SS could not remove the children without legal action . I'm assuming the little ones are still under Safeguarding so as your son is trying to protect the children too they need to know the current situation .


See if your son can provide any evidence to support action . Mental abuse could apply to the children as they've witnessed her behaviour and been disrupted as a result .


I'm aware your son is Dyslexic so may not process written info easily . There is a site for males Men's advice line which has useful advice so may be worth you having a look . Women's Aid has lots of info but decades on is still Women orientated sadly.


Meanwhile stay strong , try to sleep when possible and I hope she doesn't turn up on the door step . I do feel for her but she doesn't seem to have insight into the situation . Let's hope her parents and family step up to support her .

pollyx