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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
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    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning
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    • 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning 3rd May 18 at 8:50 AM
    Good morning everyone,

    I've had a bit of a break from the forums over the past couple of months, but today seems like a good time to come back on here and to start a new diary. An awful lot has changed in my life over the past couple of weeks and it's going to take some time and effort to adjust, and more than ever I need the support and accountability of being on here to keep me on the straight and narrow as far as my finances are concerned.
    I hope that some of my usual bunch have followed me to this diary, and welcome to anyone new that might be reading. I need all of the help and support that I can get...
    NST May #18 nsd = 8 1 debt vs 100 days #5 553/553 Pay all your debt by Xmas '19 #56: 997.60/5750
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    • Baileys Babe
    • By Baileys Babe 13th Mar 19, 7:27 AM
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    CCL we have a Panasonic combi flatbed microwave oven. What make is yours, I may be able to give you some tips.
    • foxgloves
    • By foxgloves 13th Mar 19, 10:37 AM
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    Lol, CCL, I read your post & paused to think if I know what a microwave with combi oven does. Then thought, why would I? I've never owned even an ordinary microwave & if I have to use one, say while I'm on holiday, it takes me longer to find out what I'm supposed to do with it than it would for me to use a conventional oven! We were away in a holiday cottage once & we bought one of those curry boxes with all the different bits & pieces for our evening meal. It was my cooking night & it took me so long having to pierce tops, read all the different times (not one alike!), get it all in & out, etc, mr f found it hilarious as I was cussing so much, but I honestly could have prepared a veggie curry & rice from scratch in the time it took me to attempt using that microwave!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 13th Mar 19, 12:39 PM
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    My kids warm milk or make hot choc in the microwave so only the cup to wash up (- for me to wash up), and they heat my chocolate cake so it is warm and squishy. Bizarrely they also make a hummus sandwich and warm it for 15 seconds. . . . yeah, oookay..... hmmm.

    So they will not starve, and I am not asked for warm milk 4 separate times a night.

    We don't really use it for much else. I do love that it is there though. Just for the not having pots to wash up, if heating soup or leftovers.
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    • DawnW
    • By DawnW 13th Mar 19, 12:44 PM
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    I have a basic supermarket brand microwave, and do find it handy for heating things up. I also pop potatoes in for 5 or so minutes to give them a head start before baking in their jackets in the oven. Not sure if it saves energy or not, as I am too lazy to do the maths, but because they cook quicker by starting them off in the microwave, it feels as though it does
    I can identify with Foxgloves re that blimmin ready meal though - did that once, never again

    • 1LuckyLady
    • By 1LuckyLady 13th Mar 19, 2:30 PM
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    I have a convection microwave (actually I have two but thats another story!) We use it all the time, cook joints of meat in the convection micro several times a week. I only use my "proper oven" for things that are too big for the convection micro. They cook much quicker in there (450gm/15min) so a big gammon joint cooked in 35-45 mins with no preheating time needed. Its just what you get used to I think, my parents have had convection microwaves for years and so I've just followed on as that was how I learnt to cook joints etc.
    Sticking with the "Small things" thread to keep up us on the straight and narrow.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 13th Mar 19, 6:20 PM
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    Thanks everyone You know me and cooking - anything that's quick and easy. I'm not a ready meal eater, but my kids also do a hot chocolate, and I like the sound of a houmous sarnie in there as well so I might try it... It's a Sharp BB - I am determined to use it as a grill and oven too. I'm ridiculously excited at the idea of cooking a roast dinner in it 1LL
    I'd better use it. My mam bought me a pressure cooker about 5 years ago which I've never been brave enough to use.
    So, today has been a weird one. DS woke up very tearful again this morning, and reluctant to go into school. He keeps telling me he has felt sick for weeks, but I think that this is actually anxiety related rather than physical illness. There had been a very minor incident at school last week that had obviously been playing on his mind, so I decided to ring the Head teacher (bypassing his class teacher as he doesn't like her and I'm not that keen either if I'm being honest). The Head is fantastic though - I really like her. She had spoken to him and rang me back by lunchtime. She said that although he's only 10 she thinks it might be hormonal, teenage angst related stuff. His behaviour is fine, and he's doing well but he's really down on himself. Unfortunately that is a lot like both me and his dad - we both suffer to varying degrees with anxiety, low self esteem and a huge lack of confidence. She said that he also mentioned about missing his dad again - I told her again that it's his dad that had pulled right back in terms of contact unfortunately. I wish that I had an alternative male that ds could have in his life. Not a boyfriend or anything like that (couldn't think of anything worse), but I barely see my dad, ex isn't in touch with his dad, there aren't any brothers or uncles locally, his teacher and head teacher are women etc. I think it would really help ds if he had a male role model - but there's genuinely nothing I can do about that. The only men in my life are the ones I work with, and they are my friends but not close friends. Think this is one I just can't fix in the short term - I just need to keep reminding him that it's ok if he doesn't feel great, that he can keep talking to me, or anyone at school and that I will love him no matter how rubbish he is feeling. I feel so sad that at 10 years old he's feeling like this... Thankfully, the Head teacher has offered a couple of things at school to help - which I am going to accept because I will take all the help I can get. DS also thinks very highly of one of the teachers at school so I may speak to him about the current situation.
    Other than that little drama, everything else has been more of the usual. Caught up on my work to-do list and am just about to start my exam marking - I need to get on with that...
    Another nsd as I've been too busy with work. Still no meeting with the Head, but I am in the diary for tomorrow - check me out!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 14th Mar 19, 5:38 AM
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    Is there a code-club near you? teaches them how to write computer code and make their own little programs, often run out of libraries and independent cinema/art gallery hipster type places - all for older primary age kids. Usually quite male oriented.

    Hope he feels more like himself soon. Only a month left until Easter hols here. Not that I am counting or anything.... ok, I am counting.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 14th Mar 19, 5:36 PM
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    Hello
    What a busy day (again). I'm still feeling better every day but things are tough at work. Me and ds went to bed early last night, and a good night seems to have done him the world of good as he was a bit perkier today. He's still stressed and on edge, I can tell - but his mood was a little better.
    Got my meeting with the Head. I do still really like him We had coffee and doughnuts from L!dl and I basically sat and whinged for the best part of an hour. I don't think that there are any easy solutions but I needed to get it off my chest and I wanted him to know the reality of working there every day and how difficult it can be.
    After school, when ds arrived from his place he decided to tell me that he needed something red to wear to school tomorrow. Nothing like giving me plenty of notice eh?? So we came home via Sunderland and went to Primarni for something red. Which ended up being 2 new t-shirts, new trousers and pants, and a pair of pj's for his sisters that had been reduced. Also bought milk as we were desperate and some ys sarnies for a grab and go dinner from Mr T.
    Took ages to get home in the rush hour traffic, and now I need to have a shower, do some marking and finalise my Mr S order that is being delivered tomorrow night. Never a quiet moment, and certainly not much of an mse day, although I suppose the kids always need new clothes...
    Small PAD to the cc and now I'm going to get on and maybe have a shower before I do any real work.
    Thanks for the suggestion about a coding club f0xh0les - I will definitely look into it.
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    • Rebecca01
    • By Rebecca01 14th Mar 19, 6:51 PM
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    PS Rebecca - are you fully staffed in your dept? We need another 2 science teachers desperately, and there just aren't any good ones about.

    Yes fully staffed at the moment. Not sure for how long though after this week.
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 15th Mar 19, 5:38 AM
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    DS2 announced yesterday his chemistry teachers have been told to reduce their photocopying budget, or lose a member of staff. I mean how much photocopying can they be doing?



    I got a text at 2.30 yesterday that it was own clothes today for a donation and red was the theme. Of course I did not see it until 4.30. grr.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 16th Mar 19, 7:01 PM
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    DS2 announced yesterday his chemistry teachers have been told to reduce their photocopying budget, or lose a member of staff. I mean how much photocopying can they be doing?
    Originally posted by f0xh0les

    Our last Head Teacher used to send out an all staff email at the end of every half term, with the top 10 print and photocopy users in the school named and shamed. Simple fact is that sometimes we need to photocopy, but we were told to reduce, and double side and reduce again, and one between two etc etc...

    Anyway, it's been a busy couple of days. Escaped from work early doors on Friday and came straight home. My sister and her ds came round because she wanted me to help her go through her income etc and set up a budget now that she's separated from her husband Turns out she can quite comfortably manage to run the house on her own with no contribution at all from him if that's how things go - so for the short term he's left the house and she's staying there with the kids and they're starting to make arrangements etc. We had a few drinks and a good chat, and I think that she left feeling much more hopeful than she was when she arrived.
    I was up and out early this morning for a meeting in London. I thought if I got up and went early then I wouldn't need to worry about finding the kids somewhere to stay overnight. DD went out all day with her friends, and ds went to my bestie's for the day. I had to leave the house at 5.30 and it was miserable, snowing and dark and cold. And when I got to the station, the long stay car park was closed so I ended up barely making it in time for the train. Then I had the 'pleasure' of 4 very drunk and embarrassing young men, who were shouting at a lady with a toddler, then told me to jump out of a window when I said something, then told a man to go and die in the corner (!) when he spoke up... I was pleased to get into London and get off the train in the end.
    Meeting was fine, but I'm not sure worth the early start and 7 hour round trip journey time. I'm not sure if I've gotten much out of it, but it is the start of a process... Found out that I am still IFSJ in my personality type - not at all surprising, but a reminder of my strengths and weaknesses. The train home was delayed by 27 minutes (30 or more and I could have been compensated half of the ticket price) but at least there was no snow when I got back.
    Now home with a massive pile of stuff to do and I'm not sure where to start - think I just want another early night being honest, but I have all the weekend jobs to do in just 1 day and the rest of tonight so I think I'd better get a list on the go.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 17th Mar 19, 9:19 AM
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    Morning
    Isn't it amazing what a difference a good night of sleep can make? I made my list last night, went to bed and woke up feeling rested this morning. Made myself a cuppa and then have started on the list - its been quite productive considering I've only been up for 3 hours... 1 load of washing done and the next one in. Rubbish and recycling out, cats fed and litter trays cleaned, dishes washed, new microwave unpacked and the old one put out, plus I've made a big pan of celeriac soup from my veggie box. And on top of that - I've also finished my exam marking and written a report to my team leader. It feels like loads.
    I'm off out tutoring in a few minutes, then going to my mam's after that for my fortnightly catch up. Then there's not loads left to do - a few things for school tomorrow, a bit of tidying up and washing to put away. And I'm really hopeful that I might get my latest blanket finished tonight - just 1 round to go and loads of ends to sew in. We'll see.
    NST May #18 nsd = 8 1 debt vs 100 days #5 553/553 Pay all your debt by Xmas '19 #56: 997.60/5750
    • Honeysucklelou2
    • By Honeysucklelou2 17th Mar 19, 9:26 AM
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    Wow, that is impressive in 3 hours. Have a great day!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 17th Mar 19, 9:40 AM
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    Get you! on a roll.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 18th Mar 19, 8:10 PM
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    Oh money savers forgive me for I have committed a terrible sin.
    I have booked another holiday for me and the kids. I have traded in my 5 days in the Lake District for a week all inclusive in Bulgaria. It was a half considered decision in terms of how much exam marking I've done, how much I have agreed to over the summer, and the fact that I kind of feel I deserve a bit of quality time. We all enjoyed the Canaries so much we decided that we'd like to do it again. On the money saving side of it, I went through TCB and earned 54, plus saved 250 by choosing a different flight time. The lady in the classroom next door to me is Bulgarian so I will be nagging her non stop for the next 4 months. Apparently it is very cheap there... so fingers crossed it will be fun.
    I have a lot of guilt about this decision, always feel as though I don't deserve the good stuff but actually maybe I do.
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    • DawnW
    • By DawnW 18th Mar 19, 8:22 PM
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    Don't feel guilty CCL. You and the kids have been through a really rough time, and it will be great to make memories together before they are too old to want to go on holiday with you. I bet they are excited! Hope you all have a great time

    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 19th Mar 19, 6:18 AM
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    I am not sure I am qualified to forgive you, but I can definitely be jealous as all hell!.
    You need to have something to look forward to. That is what I am lacking. If it gives you focus, and stops you getting upset about working crazy hours all the time during exam season, then do it. All inclusive means you won't go crazy on spending money all the time. This is the bit where all those lessons in budgeting and scrimping comes in handy.

    How are you coping now you have your 'divorce costs loan' and you are living on your real salary? Is it all doable? If the answer is yes, and you can still afford a holiday, then you do not need to ask forgiveness for anything, and you need to open a savings account for holidays and fun stuff, so you can pay for it up front and there is no guilt involved. Still jealous though -can you forgive me?
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 19th Mar 19, 7:42 AM
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    I have a lot of guilt about this decision, always feel as though I don't deserve the good stuff but actually maybe I do.
    Originally posted by crazy_cat_lady
    You absolutely do!!

    Have you told the kids? Are they excited?
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    • By beanielou 19th Mar 19, 1:25 PM
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    I think you have made the right decision
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 19th Mar 19, 1:31 PM
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    Hello
    Thank you all for being so understanding. I still feel as though I've been a bit naughty and done something I shouldn't, but I will definitely have enough exam money left to pay for it. I'm having my exam money paid into a separate account and just trying to live on my salary at the moment. It's definitely doable since the loan f0xh0les - I'm actually still in credit at the bank and it's over a week until payday. The loan just makes everything feel a bit better financially and I can balance the books with a bit left over. It seems naughty being in debt and having a holiday but I have the debt under control, and I'm very aware that in a couple of years dd will not want to holiday with her boring old mother at all. And I'm not getting into more debt paying for the holiday... The kids do know that we're going - they chose the hotel (waterpark included so they will be entertained while I relax all day). Only 4 months away as well - that will go by in no time.
    Today has been a strange day so far. I'm very tired, and already noticing the negative effect on my mood. Work is hard, as it has been for weeks now and Easter seems like ages away. Plus another birthday is looming and that is scary indeed. My head of department is off sick at the moment and me and the other lead in the department are having a bit of a job keeping things going. However, it's no worse than when he's here - just he's not shouldering any of it.
    Going out after school tonight for dinner at a friend's place so will be late home again. Looking forward to an early night.
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