Rubbish days

supersaver2 · 23 January 2014 at 6:10PM

notanewuser wrote: »

Every day?! I'm lucky if I get the hoover around weekly!

I'm a clean freak, plus the combination of 3 dogs and 1 very messy toddler and I *need* to at least Hoover everyday otherwise I'd probably have rats by the end of the week!

Supersavers Wife

fannyadams · 23 January 2014 at 6:22PM

I'm at the other end of the scale
I recently got a F/T job (June last year) after getting made redundant from my (I now realise toxic) part time one and having 10 months off 'decompressing'.
I have a teen who is complacent about everything.
Even his mock exams that he's just sat.
It was an absolute nightmare to get him to revise - HWTHMBO had to disable Minecraft off his laptop and every evening go through the history and delete and deny access to all the minecraft mirror sites after DS#1 went to bed!
he's just come home from school and told me he's lost his PE kit. I have exploded at him because this isn't the first time (or the last). I am feeling a bit guilty about yelling at him though even though he has a perfectly good locker that he walked past to go to the library where he says he's lost his PE.

My 9 year old also giving me attitude AND I have a meeting with his teacher tomorrow morning about 'his behaviour' (AFAIK he's fine but apparently it's gone downhill and needs 'nipping in the bud')

I guess I'm just having a really stressy time at home right now (I'm trying to declutter my house bit by bit and to add to this stress my heating isn't working).
thanks for letting me vent.

Metranil_Vavin · 23 January 2014 at 7:02PM

Vent away ladies..we're all in it together!
Fanny I guess it goes to show all ages bring with them their own 'challenges'!

Question - do you think a 5 month old can get bored? Baby seems to get fed up with her play mat, toys, bouncy chair quite quickly and there's only so much carrying about I can do.

When I go out with her she normally falls asleep in the buggy/car seat so I can't imagine she gets much stimulation from going out and about.

Metranil_Vavin · 23 January 2014 at 7:05PM

I'm on countdown to OH getting home.

ETA 40 mins and counting!

notanewuser · 23 January 2014 at 7:12PM

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Vent away ladies..we're all in it together!
Fanny I guess it goes to show all ages bring with them their own 'challenges'!

Question - do you think a 5 month old can get bored? Baby seems to get fed up with her play mat, toys, bouncy chair quite quickly and there's only so much carrying about I can do.

When I go out with her she normally falls asleep in the buggy/car seat so I can't imagine she gets much stimulation from going out and about.

Get the jumperoo out.

DigForVictory · 23 January 2014 at 7:33PM

Whilst having a very healthy resepct for the NCT & all its teachings (their 10 week antenatal course was solidly educational as well as supportive!), I rather 'fell off the waggon' by being medically debarred from breastfeeding & rather deliberately, we let the ties loosen.

We did What Worked For Us & if on a lashing wet day when I felt dismal anyway, we stayed in. No hassle, no fuss.

As for potty training (a) it's a summer sport [mopping up in cold spring? Nein danke!], (b) the penny drops eventually & (c) who wants to get into this comeptitive parenting lark anyway?

Above all, Facebook is a place to fib. Beautifully, of course. So don't believe it - real friends will welcome you in as a friend with a vocabulary of over 200 words who does not need help using the loo & won't (openly) judge.

As for a bored 5 month old, take your shoes & socks off... (Or is it theirs?) They do not die of boredom!

jetplane · 23 January 2014 at 8:18PM

OP your post is such a refreshing change

mothers are under so much pressure, dads too. Its great to read the reality. I work with a woman who is yummy mummy, after school activity, healthy eating and Easter egg competition winning super mum

She told me a sad tale of how she had her baby at the same time as the woman living across the street. A few years later this woman told my colleague that watching her through the window jogging along pushing her shiny baby to the latest venue had always made her feel completely inadequate

Make-it-3 · 23 January 2014 at 11:28PM

I have sometimes listened in to the big groups of NCT/nappy valley mums when they meet at the cafe in the park and its all so ultra competitive. So glad I never joined.

I don't think there is anything wrong in kids being bored. We had endless hours of being bored as a child (especially on Sundays) - there was no 24/7 kids TV. There is too much pressure these days to be constantly "entertaining" children - they are so overstimulated, no wonder they kick off/won't go to bed etc.

MV, have you tried a treat/sticker/reward for a wee on target? It worked for Pavlov's dog and our LO!

notanewuser · 23 January 2014 at 11:43PM

Make-it-3 wrote: »

I have sometimes listened in to the big groups of NCT/nappy valley mums when they meet at the cafe in the park and its all so ultra competitive. So glad I never joined.

I don't think there is anything wrong in kids being bored. We had endless hours of being bored as a child (especially on Sundays) - there was no 24/7 kids TV. There is too much pressure these days to be constantly "entertaining" children - they are so overstimulated, no wonder they kick off/won't go to bed etc.

MV, have you tried a treat/sticker/reward for a wee on target? It worked for Pavlov's dog and our LO!

Boredom is vital for children - it sparks imagination.

Not so much for a young baby though.

My NCT group isn't at all competitive. We're like a jigsaw puzzle. We often joke about starting some sort of hippy commune!!

Metranil_Vavin · 24 January 2014 at 10:06AM

My mum always says that she thinks children are over stimulated far too much thesedays and not allowed to just 'play' and use their imaginations. She is very scornful of the whole 'yummy mummy' competativeness to do the most, lose the baby weight the first, look fabulous weeks after giving birth etc, and I do agree with her.

My NCT girls are in the majority lovely down to earth types, however I am the 'poor relation' of the group as they all live in more affluent areas of my corner of SE London and there are banker and lawyer hubbies amongst the group. A couple of the girls are a bit too obsessed with their looks/weight/kids going to every activity going and now as the kids are hitting 3, are looking at private education options in some cases..it's another world to OH and I who are in no way poor, but do have to budget carefully and don't earn huge sums of money.

It's silly but I always avoided inviting them over to our flat as most of them had 4 bedroom Victorian houses in affluent parts of SE London, and I did feel a bit inferior at times. Silly I know.

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