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  • Munchkin1
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    • 19th Feb 14, 6:28 PM
    1 week subscription with Match.com
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    • 19th Feb 14, 6:28 PM
    Thought it was worth letting people know if you have the mobile app for Match.com you can subscribe for 1 week at 4.99 - I haven't seen it advertised anywhere which is annoying but it is definitely more affordable then the monthly prices - especially if your new to it all and want to see if the website is for you and if there are any hotties in your area before you commit to monthly subscription.
  • Toutseule
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    • 19th Feb 14, 8:27 PM
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    • 19th Feb 14, 8:27 PM
    I have been on several dating sites over the years (looking for Mr. Right) and one thing that I find irritating when men write their comments or make the first move - is that they write everything in CAPITALS - why? Its as if they are shouting - or perhaps are not computer literate. Could it be that their personality is coming through on their finger tips? or are they just heavy handed?


    This is merely an observation of course
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 19th Feb 14, 8:51 PM
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    • 19th Feb 14, 8:51 PM
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    • 19th Feb 14, 8:51 PM
    You can also go via Quidc0 to go on match.com or dating direct!!!!


    You just need to go into online dating with an open mind... don't necessarily aim for someone with the same hobbies/interests. I met my now fiance on match.com...on paper we had very different hobbies and interests...yet when we met, we clicked instantly. We have actually now found new hobbies together as well as shared with each other things we had never done before - I am now a keen fan of mushing, he now enjoys listening to Einaudi


    I went on several online dates in the end...I did go in with an open mind as to who I might meet, it certainly was a confidence boost and showed there are some great people out there all in the same boat.


    I think match.com will feature in the wedding speeches somehow...!
    • The_Jakal
    • By The_Jakal 20th Feb 14, 6:00 AM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 6:00 AM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 6:00 AM
    Just Jewish and Christian specialist sites? I know it would be silly to list all of the options but what about other popular religions such as Muslim.

    ps. not religious myself.
    • Deanied
    • By Deanied 20th Feb 14, 8:33 AM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 8:33 AM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 8:33 AM
    Just Jewish and Christian specialist sites? I know it would be silly to list all of the options but what about other popular religions such as Muslim.

    ps. not religious myself.
    Originally posted by The_Jakal
    Traditionally Muslim's have arranged marriages, so not much need for dating sites.
  • browneyed
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    • 20th Feb 14, 12:38 PM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 12:38 PM
    Just Jewish and Christian specialist sites? I know it would be silly to list all of the options but what about other popular religions such as Muslim.

    ps. not religious myself.
    Originally posted by The_Jakal

    There are a couple of muslim sites like singlemuslim.com, shaadi.com etc but they don't seem as good as the ones aimed at non-muslims. Not many muslims sign up to these types of sites unfortunately.
    • Pinzy
    • By Pinzy 20th Feb 14, 12:57 PM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 12:57 PM
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    • 20th Feb 14, 12:57 PM
    I would suggest making sure you don't discount people that seem too much like the extremes of your personality, because to yourself, you're quite normal!

    This advice comes after me discounting someone on PoF, because I thought he looked "too wacky". Luckily, we happened to be introduced by a mutual friend who thought we may get on (it was only after a few dates he said his PoF name and I recalled him), and now we're married!

    Tips - for the love of Pete, use a current picture! 75% of the dates I went on from online sites, the people turned out to be 10 years older than their pic. Why? Why are you only setting up the other person for potential disappointment? Why would you go on a date with someone when you know they not becoming attracted to the real you? It's bonkers!
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  • Siouxsie100
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    • 21st Feb 14, 10:22 PM
    Unfair
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    • 21st Feb 14, 10:22 PM
    Unfair 1. POF is not for a Casual flings (as per description)...Marcus (owner) would be very unhappy at this as they actively advertise the happy endings... And I'm certainly not after a quick fling!

    Unfair 2. EHarmony your status can't be 'Separated' no matter how many years...tell lies or don't bother with the hours of filling in your profile before they tell you this!

    Catfish tip...fake pic? Right click image, copy image URL, paste into Google images and search...very interesting outcomes and save you wasting a evening with an outcast!
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 21st Feb 14, 10:25 PM
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    I would also disagree with the POF casual flings description

    I met my partner on there nearly 2 years ago and neither of us would call that a casual fling! Same goes for several couples I know who met on there
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    • tinkerbell28
    • By tinkerbell28 21st Feb 14, 10:30 PM
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    TBH, I think ALL online sites have the casual fling/married men issue. HOWEVER places like PoF get mentioned more as there is no charge.

    So on the whole people will congregate there. Where as paid places, like MATCH you get the more serious dater. Although you also get the more wealthier married men....

    That's my opinion, but I wouldn't say all men on PoF are flings or whatever.
  • creativecupid
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    Hello.

    I have recently created a new online dating website for creative people who are in, or interested in, any form of the arts!
    It's called 'Entertaining Love'.

    If you join before April 13th 2014, you get a month free. And from then on it is very reasonable.

    I started this from experience of online dating.

    Would love some feedback!
    • SailorSam
    • By SailorSam 3rd Apr 14, 10:22 AM
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    SailorSam
    One of the most annoying things some women write on their profiles is ...... 'no pic no reply', well that's ok looks shouldn't be important but it's not Blind Date and i can understand why they'd like to see who they may be talking to.
    But then they don't post a photo of themselves.
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    • Robinette
    • By Robinette 3rd Apr 14, 10:34 AM
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    Robinette
    One of the most annoying things some women write on their profiles is ...... 'no pic no reply', well that's ok looks shouldn't be important but it's not Blind Date and i can understand why they'd like to see who they may be talking to.
    But then they don't post a photo of themselves.
    Originally posted by SailorSam


    No photo is better than a fake photo though! I've lost count of the number of times I have been attracted to a photo, put it into Google images and found that 'Mark from London' has posted a photo of a model or actor. :-(
    • Ozzuk
    • By Ozzuk 3rd Apr 14, 2:39 PM
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    Ozzuk
    One of my bugbears was out of date pictures. It's awesome you looked hot 20 years ago but I'm dating you now and I'd like to be able to recognise you when you turn up!
  • mattlondon11
    You'll only find NSA on Masslover.com so if it's love you're after then you better look for another site. lol
  • angelstar11970
    I have been on and off POF for a while....always went for the same type of guys...big, burley ones..
    was about to give up hope when I got talking to a bloke just chatting generally, was not my type at all..
    6 months later after a few bumpy times were still together and very happy..
    so people...DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!
  • Divorced_Daddy_001
    Dear MSE, thanks very much for writing the guide about online dating. I wish I'd thought to look on here for info about this before now. When looking for information and reviews about online dating sites, it's difficult to know which info is reliable and trustworthy.

    I wonder if it would be worth adding something to the guide about the so-called "adult dating" sites? I've wasted a fair bit of time and money on a couple of these recently (yes I know, I'm naive, gullible and stoopid! ) I came across this info recently, but again I don't know how credible it is . . . ah right, I'm not allowed to post any links yet, but the page is called The Secrets of Online Dating by Official R Pitcher. Well worth a read I reckon.

    Cheers
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    46 years old and sometimes it feels like I'm starting out all over again . . . oh heck!
    • sulphate
    • By sulphate 21st Nov 14, 11:16 AM
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    sulphate
    Just have another success story to add really, met my now husband on PoF 5+ years ago

    I have some random tips too.
    - Don't spend a long time chatting to someone online before meeting them - you might end up having this idea in your head of who the person is, what they are like etc and it can be different IRL.
    - Don't spend a long time communicating with someone you aren't interested in just because you like talking to them.
    - It's easier to be pickier online. Don't use hobbies and interests as a guide as to whether or not you'll be suited - it's values and life goals that count.
    • SanguineSteve
    • By SanguineSteve 24th Nov 14, 7:27 AM
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    SanguineSteve
    Catfish tip...fake pic? Right click image, copy image URL, paste into Google images and search...very interesting outcomes and save you wasting a evening with an outcast!
    Originally posted by Siouxsie100
    The flipside of this -

    Be careful what pictures you use of yourself. Try and use a image that will be unique to the site and does not appear on your other online social media profiles.

    I had a rather scary experience where a lady I had been exchanging messages with had searched my image and been lead to all my google/linkedIn etc accounts. She searched out my address on the electoral roll, got access to all my sports-tracker routes etc.

    Thankfully, she didn't seem to have any bad intentions, just curious. But, some people may be very vunerable to online attacks from more dubious (dare i even say 'fake') users.

    It has caused me to be very careful with what i put online and how accounts like to link themselves to others. A blessing in disguise perhaps.

    (btw: I ceased contact with her. She didn't seem to understand why I would find the whole episode unnerving as she 'did it all the time')
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