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    • tgroom57
    • By tgroom57 12th Feb 13, 9:26 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 9:26 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 9:26 AM
    Here's another one for you (real-life scenario)

    Bob always pays for dinner. Second date, Sarah pulls out a 10 discount voucher to use towards the bill. What's Bob's reaction ?

  • DoggerDan
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    • 12th Feb 13, 9:30 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 9:30 AM
    Depends if you want a second date or not, dunnit?
    • Kookygirl
    • By Kookygirl 12th Feb 13, 10:04 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 10:04 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 10:04 AM
    I have no issue with vouchers, except on first dates... It's about making the right impression. If a guy pulls out a voucher on a first date it's like telling me I'm not worth impressing and I can safely say there wouldn't be a second date.
    • Brydav
    • By Brydav 12th Feb 13, 10:50 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 10:50 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 10:50 AM
    I don't think it'd be a problem at all - maybe that's why I'm single though
    • Jeff Bridges hair
    • By Jeff Bridges hair 12th Feb 13, 11:37 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:37 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:37 AM
    I have no issue with vouchers, except on first dates... It's about making the right impression. If a guy pulls out a voucher on a first date it's like telling me I'm not worth impressing and I can safely say there wouldn't be a second date.
    Originally posted by Kookygirl
    Or if you were a moneysaving fanatic - like the large majority of this board are then you would think 'he's good' and stick with it.

    It should never be about what you can afford to buy or how deep their pockets are its about what the person is about and their nature.

    If you base everything in your life with a monetarial or material aspect then thats pretty shallow.
    "If you no longer go for a gap, you are no longer a racing driver" - Ayrton Senna
  • DoggerDan
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:53 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:53 AM
    I have no issue with vouchers, except on first dates... It's about making the right impression. If a guy pulls out a voucher on a first date it's like telling me I'm not worth impressing and I can safely say there wouldn't be a second date.
    Originally posted by Kookygirl
    Would I need a second date, though?

    I mean, ahem. How does one ask without appearing ungallant? How many dates would one have to escort you on before you would consider a bit of hows your father? Oh and does watching me and my mates play darts in the pig and whistle constitute a date?
    • ringo_24601
    • By ringo_24601 12th Feb 13, 11:55 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:55 AM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 11:55 AM
    I went 50/50 on my first date meal with my wife!

    She'll never forget that...
  • tescobabe69
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    • 12th Feb 13, 1:14 PM
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    • 12th Feb 13, 1:14 PM
    I have no issue with vouchers, except on first dates... It's about making the right impression. If a guy pulls out a voucher on a first date it's like telling me I'm not worth impressing and I can safely say there wouldn't be a second date.
    Originally posted by Kookygirl
    Good job we found out, so we can safely say we wont be wasting our voucher.
    • Ivrytwr3
    • By Ivrytwr3 12th Feb 13, 1:18 PM
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    As a man my options would be:

    1. (preferred) - use the voucher, but without date noticing ie pay for meal when visiting bar whilst she is still at table.

    2. Pay in full if there was risk of date noticing voucher.

    If a woman was paying and pulled out the voucher, then i would most likely laugh, but think she has her head screwed on!
    • welshbookworm
    • By welshbookworm 12th Feb 13, 6:46 PM
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    Also depends on the restaurant
    McD's with a voucher??? Run for your life
    The Savoy, The Fat Duck or similar ? No problem
    The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  • icewouldsuffice
    I don't know if I'm biased towards frugality because I'm a student, but I voted very enthusiastically for the "HE'S A KEEPER" option!

    Being financially smart is a rare quality and it's very promising for the long term. On a cheekier note, saving a tenner now means he's got more money if he wants to buy me something else later!

    On our first date my boyfriend took me to a restaurant that I knew he couldn't afford; he paid full whack for the both of us anyway. It broke my little heart that he thought I had to be impressed financially to take our relationship any further. If the amount that some guy paid for my meal were somehow connected to my own self-worth, I would be worried.

    More recently, we've been using vouchers that allow us to go to nicer places than we normally would we're spending the same amount but 'upgrading' if you like, and I think it shows that we care about each other simply because we're looking out for each other in an area that we both struggle with.

    That's the kind of thoughtfulness that encouraged me to vote the way I did!
    • Owain Moneysaver
    • By Owain Moneysaver 12th Feb 13, 10:43 PM
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    Bob should pay the bill away from Sarah. It's tacky to flash money around, and vouchers are as good as money.
    A kind word lasts a minute, a skelped erse is sair for a day.
    • ifan.goch
    • By ifan.goch 13th Feb 13, 12:34 AM
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    I wouldn't have a problem with someone using a voucher on a first date. It may well mean that you could be going to a classier restaurant than could otherwise have been afforded. In this day and age why would anyone expect to be paid for on a date first or otherwise?

    To the person who said it would look as if they were not worth it, just bear in mind that the askee plucked up the courage to offer a date, offered to pay and made the restaurant booking. What more could they do to make you feel worth it?
  • archived user
    I'd be happy for them to use the voucher. I'd think good on them for a)seeking out a bargain and b)making it cheaper for me (obv we'd go 50/50)
  • jjblondie
    I'd be most pleased with the money saving voucher scenario, but I would not be impressed by the man paying for me. Gender equality works both ways - the bill should be split, or the female pay it all next time.
    • TrickyDicky
    • By TrickyDicky 13th Feb 13, 8:21 AM
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    Haha. This is exactly what I did on my first date with my wife.
  • Tallk
    I went on a date with a guy, when the bill came he pulled out a voucher and looked a bit sheepish. I said I would have done exactly the same thing and told him not to worry about it.
    Depends if you are looking for someone who is going to splash the cash because they can. If a restaurant is willing to give away vouchers why not take advantage of them?
    • Exile_geordie
    • By Exile_geordie 13th Feb 13, 1:45 PM
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    I'd be happy for them to use the voucher. I'd think good on them for a)seeking out a bargain and b)making it cheaper for me (obv we'd go 50/50)
    Originally posted by xXMessedUpXx

    Brilliant! Fancy a date then love?
  • claz
    I think I'd be more bothered that I'd been taken somewhere that a 2 for 1 voucher could be used lol!

    I love my coupons / vouchers etc but every now and then ( especially a first date !) I like to be spoilt!
    Well we finally did it got a house not on a main road, next a railway line or any other werid and wonderful things that get on my nerves!!!


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