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  • euterpe13
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 9:31 PM
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    Absolutely not - if my son had come home with a ripped shirt after playing rugby, I would have said "more silly you to wear it", patched it up & got on with real life problems. Trouble is, the boy harassing your son is a product of the " complaint & compensation" culture. If things do not sort themselves out, suggest you quietly contact the other boy's mother.
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 9:33 PM
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    Agree with the above. Stuff gets ruined playing sports, so more fool you if you wear your best clobber while you're doing it.
    • emidee
    • By emidee 2nd Aug 11, 10:22 PM
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 10:22 PM
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    No - the friend shouldn't have played a contact sport whilst wearing something expensive. Your son shouldn't pay.
  • Greenfly
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 11:35 PM
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    I think we are all in agreement. You and your son should not pay for the T-Shirt. No brainer really.
    • jamespir
    • By jamespir 2nd Aug 11, 11:39 PM
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 11:39 PM
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    no he should not pay but he could chip a bit in as a a goodwill gesture
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    • reluctantworkingmum
    • By reluctantworkingmum 2nd Aug 11, 11:39 PM
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    • 2nd Aug 11, 11:39 PM
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    stupid child for wearing his best shirt for a rough, hands on game! if he wanted to prance around in the latest 'label' he should've stuck to football!
    (now THAT will get a few going!)
    • allan2006
    • By allan2006 2nd Aug 11, 11:53 PM
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    depends how much of a mate he is, and if its worth chipping in to keep the peace so to speak.

    No way should he pay for it all though, max 50%. Even at worse case they are equally to blame, him for wearing an expensive top to play rugby and your son for accidentally damaging.
    • nat21luv
    • By nat21luv 3rd Aug 11, 12:22 AM
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    • 3rd Aug 11, 12:22 AM
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    Goodwill gesture; Buy him a sewing kit.
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    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 3rd Aug 11, 1:48 AM
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    What a joke! I'd want to personally tell the kid "no, you live, you learn, don't wear precious things to a rugby game!" I'd assume if he is old enough to dress himself, he is old enough to realise how rough a rugby game is and that new and pretty clothes wont stay that way for long if involved in a game!

    Had it been two girls going out to the shops and one had ruined the others dress by tearing at it in a rugby tackle, then there may be some case for compensation but not in a game of rugby for goodness sake and not in this case at all!

    Its called life, its a learning experience and you start the day your born. I'd tell the kid to either stop trying to pull a fast one or simply "thats life, live with it!" If the son is more concerned about wanting to save face or worried he may lose a friend then this kid was no friend to begin with and is unlikely to remain so if its a relationship based soley on the cost of a shirt.
    • PrinceGaz
    • By PrinceGaz 3rd Aug 11, 2:28 AM
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    Absolutely not. Rugby is a sport where you should expect physical contact, so you should dress for it in very durable clothing (the sort which can take a good yank from behind without any damage-- the top would mainly transfer the force directly to the wearer). I had to wear a rugby-top at school for all PE lessons (regardless of whether it was rugby or something less contact involved like tennis), and you'd be mad to play rugby in anything less given all the scrums and tackles involved in the game.

    This guy's "friend" made a silly mistake in probably wanting to look stylish rather than dress appropriately, and for him to nag about wanting the damage paid for only makes that seem more obvious.
  • janaltus
    I love the idea of buying the disgruntled boy a sewing kit! Kids pay a premium for brand-new but distressed jeans (with patches, etc) and a trip to Abercrombie and Fitch left me speechless, at the price people will pay for brand-new clothes "treated" with sandpaper, wire brushes and stones.

    Maybe your son could respond by asking for financial renumeration, for customising the silly boy's T-shirt.
    • Sheepster
    • By Sheepster 3rd Aug 11, 7:38 AM
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    Gordon Bennett on a stick, this is such a no brainer. This so called friend is a muppet for wearing an expensive top when playing contact sports, and a double muppet of the highest degree for then asking for compensation for it getting damaged.

    He's supposed to be a friend, it was rugby for goodness sake, I'm just surprised his other friends aren't calling him the total loser for even asking for this compensation. Grief!
  • spudz
    No I don't think he should pay. If his friend is stupid enough to play rugby in a new expensive t-shirt then that is his fault. He should have either taken it off and refused to play.
  • freefree973
    I'm with everyone else no way should your son pay. The other boy will now think twice before wearing his fancy clothes to play such a game.
  • Marco12452
    No way !!
    If that was the case we would all be paying for all sorts of sports clothing damaged during school sports as well. Where would it end ? The individual has to take responsibility before deciding to take part. I know, bit much for a kid, but don't expect others to.
    • pennypinchUK
    • By pennypinchUK 3rd Aug 11, 8:24 AM
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    That's just life - clothes get ripped, wine gets spilled, other items are accidentally broken. Your son is under no obligation to reimburse the other lad. I doubt a few years ago this would have been seen as a dilemma, but under our new compensation culture too many people automatically look for others to compensate them for life's little accidents.
    • cazpost
    • By cazpost 3rd Aug 11, 8:37 AM
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    I expect the boy is in trouble with his parents for having got his shirt ruined and is trying to get the money for a new one from your son.
    Quite obviously you shouldn't pay, I would tell the boys parents straight away that you won't be paying, and let them sort it out themselves.
    Your son doesn't need friends like this.
  • thecolliefamily
    No way he should pay!
    Awe diddums what do you expect when playing rugby. If hebroke his friends arm would his friend expect compensation for the inconvenience. That's life - get on with it. Shame on the friends mother not to tell her son to get a grip. I blame the parent as much as kid, the cheek of them NO WAY should he pay.
    • whosforachat
    • By whosforachat 3rd Aug 11, 9:39 AM
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    stupid child for wearing his best shirt for a rough, hands on game! if he wanted to prance around in the latest 'label' he should've stuck to football!
    Originally posted by reluctantworkingmum
    I could not have put it better myself. His parents should be ashamed for themselves for producing a materialistic fashion slave. Innocent people like your son should not have to suffer for the emotional difficulties this lad's parent's have instilled in him.
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