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    • Flickering Ember
    • By Flickering Ember 30th Dec 09, 10:05 PM
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    Personally, I wouldn't. I know my friend would understand, but I still don't think I would return the dress.
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  • natalie1974
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    • 30th Dec 09, 10:34 PM
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    No I don't think I would return the dress either .
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    • scotsbob
    • By scotsbob 30th Dec 09, 11:57 PM
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    • 30th Dec 09, 11:57 PM
    If she is broke she can't eat a dress. She should take the money.

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  • BobbiB
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    • 31st Dec 09, 12:03 AM
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    • 31st Dec 09, 12:03 AM
    No - it was a gift - and therefore you shouldnt use it to get the money. if your friend was nice enough to spent that amount on you its probably because she knew you couldnt afford it and as such thought it would be a nice treat.
    • robpw2
    • By robpw2 31st Dec 09, 12:13 AM
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    • 31st Dec 09, 12:13 AM
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    id be most miffed to think my friend spent so much when she knew i couldnt afford it


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    • jamespir
    • By jamespir 31st Dec 09, 12:21 AM
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    • 31st Dec 09, 12:21 AM
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    i wouldnt do it no so she shouldnt


    who buys someone a 400 pound christmas present anyway
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    • irishwench69
    • By irishwench69 31st Dec 09, 12:37 AM
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    • 31st Dec 09, 12:37 AM
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    No - it was a gift - and therefore you shouldnt use it to get the money. if your friend was nice enough to spent that amount on you its probably because she knew you couldnt afford it and as such thought it would be a nice treat.
    Originally posted by BobbiB
    Yep, totally agree with this! I guess it's what is more important to Carrie - is it something she could discuss with Sam?

    She might not have money problems forever, but she could enjoy that dress for a long time. Why not save money in other areas, and keep the dress as a treat - make up for having to cut back in other areas?

    id be most miffed to think my friend spent so much when she knew i couldnt afford it
    Originally posted by robpw2
    I don't think that's really fair - should someone who is better off spend as little as the poorer person? Surely it's a case of each spending what they want / can?

    who buys someone a 400 pound christmas present anyway
    Originally posted by jamespir
    Think everyone is different - why begrudge it if someone can afford it? Maybe others pitched in, or it was a joint christmas / birthday present....who knows?!

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  • airheadgreg
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    • 31st Dec 09, 1:15 AM
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    • 31st Dec 09, 1:15 AM
    Hell no! It would be just wrong!
    If Carrie is starving and hasn't eaten in a few weeks then maybe, but even then I'd feel guilty about doing it...
    • Cloudane
    • By Cloudane 31st Dec 09, 1:17 AM
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    Wouldn't be much of a friend to her in return if she just cashed it in behind her back!! It's not so much the fact itself but the dishonesty.

    She should maybe discuss it with her.
    • Tombo
    • By Tombo 31st Dec 09, 2:09 AM
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    Yeah, I think that she should do it. The dress is hers now and she needs the cash.
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  • robynprincess
    could she go to the shop to see if its in the sale? that way if it is she could return it and buy it again and use the money left over.... but tell her friend about it though, otherwise its a bit too underhand
    • Kirri
    • By Kirri 31st Dec 09, 2:41 AM
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    I'd be a bit surprised if a friend bought an expensive present when I barely had enough money to live on, would maybe show they didn't know me that well! But a gift is a gift and I would not want to offend by returning it.
    • Hizz
    • By Hizz 31st Dec 09, 8:15 AM
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    Take it back, no hesitation from me!
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  • aliasojo
    Carrie got a designer dress from her friend Samantha for Christmas. Samantha gave her the receipt in case the dress doesn't fit. Carrie loves the present, but is a bit broke and could use the 400 she would get from returning it. Should she return it without telling Samantha?

    Originally posted by MSE Penelope
    I'd be a bit surprised if a friend bought an expensive present when I barely had enough money to live on, would maybe show they didn't know me that well! But a gift is a gift and I would not want to offend by returning it.
    Originally posted by Kirri
    I think there's a big difference between being a bit broke and barely having enough to live on.

    Even if Carrie is a bit broke she should deal with her situation herself and not use a present kindly given to her by a friend as a 'bail out' means.
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  • rentawitch
    If she has somewhere to wear it then do so, once. Then get it cleaned and put it on ebay.

    She can tell her friend if she thinks she would understand. If not, keep quiet and then say you put weight on. Make sure you get a picture of you out in the dress or at the very least wearing.

    A 400 dress is quite possibly a very embarrassing and thoughtless present. If her friend doesn't know how broke she is I would be surprised,
  • Ama
    I will return the dress but will feel guilty afterwards for a week or so. I will probably confess to my friend at some point.
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  • gobbo
    Of course she should return it , her friend must have been daft in the first place to spend 400 on a dress , she can return it and buy something similar for under 50

    Here's this week's hypothetical situation for you to cogitate on:

    Should Carrie return her present?

    Carrie got a designer dress from her friend Samantha for Christmas. Samantha gave her the receipt in case the dress doesn't fit. Carrie loves the present, but is a bit broke and could use the 400 she would get from returning it. Should she return it without telling Samantha?


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    Originally posted by MSE Penelope
  • Zinho
    She should tell her friend that she saw the receipt, but in her current financial state, cannot accept the gift. Then its down to her friend to give her the option of taking it back, and the moral issue is shifted. Booyah. X
    • Oneday77
    • By Oneday77 31st Dec 09, 10:30 AM
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    She should keep it. Being broke is a huge dent to your confidence and a new designer dress may just give her the confidence/perk boost that she needs. It might even be useful to get a better job with
    People hide their finances very well so a friend can easily not know about someones financial difficulties.
    She should really get to the bottom of why she is broke and come visit and get advice
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