Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

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  • pollyanna_26pollyanna_26 Forumite
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    my mother is fine, but doesn’t do much these days. 
    My brother is waiting for a hip replacement which will be done soon. They have to have a vascular surgeon on hand as he has a framework of pins from an accident he had 30 years ago. The first visit to the specialist was about 6 weeks ago, and he has had X-rays, MRI scans, and been told they are amazed he is still trying to walk at all. Luckily they will be operating as soon as the two surgeons can work together. He should be done before September. I hate to think how long he would have to wait here in the uk. 
    Dgd doesn’t appear to have as much of an issue with the Covid as I am. The boys are playing upstairs and I will except it will be a little trashed but at least they are currently not killing each other which is a bonus.
    The dog is feeling sorry for himself with his cone of shame, and his docked tail. It looks strange how the rest of the tail looks having been shaved for his operation yesterday.
    My Muscle Food delivery has arrived and I have managed to get it in the freezer. I have a few hours before the Ocado delivery comes. Used the coupon That Feed your Family for £20 a week had, along with the deals I chose we have saved £40 on their usual prices. 
    I h ope all goes well for your brother. It sounds as though he's living in the best place. Both hospitals in our local Health trust  hit the no room for any patients stage last month. They have some Omicron patients but only a few needing ventilators.  The waiting lists for ops etc are huge.
    The one near here has been losing staff over the last couple of years. All staff have been lovely but when it reaches the point of needing foodbanks as well as your pay and putting up with verbal abuse from some patients it's time to vote with your feet.
    I don't believe all the self praise from BJ and his cronies. Nero fiddling while Rome burns comes to mind there.
    The two candidates for PM are on another planet to normal people.
    Ic would like to see a Coalition Govt in power capable enough to understand the real world and not make rules they break. I found BJ dressing up as a working man pretending to be a working man offensive. He had a job to do but too busy looking for publicity to do it or pass it to someone who could.
    it's good to hear the boys are playing together. Easier to tidy up than tear them apart. Both kittens dd and her boyfriend rescued found themselves wearing the cones of shame when a little older.They'd begun to venture in to the gardens once they weren't afraid of losing their home.
    After their jabs, flea treatment and Stimps dameged teeth helped by the vet the time came to ensure Mags wouldn't have kittens or Stimps father any.
    Mags was the first for surgery and she was fighting her tiny cone night and day. When Stimps had his turn his was a much bigger cone but he managed to lose it a few times so the final cone meaqnt house arrest until his stitches were removed.
    He reminds me a lot of our much missed Oliver a cat who would not keep a collar on although it had his name and address. Sometimes hanging washing out I'd spot one or more in the trees and shrubs. They all had big jingle bells to warn the birds so I'd often hear a bell ringing on a windy day. Very Peter Pan and Tinkerbell.
    I hadn't heard of Feed your family for £20 a week though I have different books from over the years with similar names including the ones by Bernadine Lawrence which were healthy proper food. I used to make her bargain bread a lot.
    I think it may have been the austerity in the 70s that resulted in all the frugal cooking, make do and mend , grow your own books.
    they kept us fed without debt in tough times.
    I remember not long before you stopped posting reguarly you were thinking of joining the 1p a day chlllenge . Was it worth doing it or perhaps a bigger amount.
    When £2 coins came out I vowed to save them rather than spend.That meant no sneaky bars of chocolate , impulse buys etc but after a few years I did a huge shop in Ikea, furniture , throws , kitchenware , bedding and all sorts and still had money for other needs.
    Everything has been debit cards in shops over the last few years. Lighter to carry than change but I still ask for cashback at times in the Coop for taxi fares.
    Ocado used to deliver in this area but no longer do Marks groceries and haven't seen them for a long time.
    Coop have had to cope with price rises lately but still cheaper than most supermarkets. They have a big range of products and special offers. According to seasons most of their fruit and veg  are from farms a couple of miles up the road. No excess food miles or in long queues at ports.
    My mum always shopped at the Coop and I never dreamed I'd be doing the same thing years later.
    pollyx
     

    It is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.

    There but for fortune go you and I.
  • 24ta24ta Forumite
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    Hope all is well with you :)
  • pollyanna_26pollyanna_26 Forumite
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    Oddly I've just been wondering if everything is ok with Savvy and her family. I used to look forward to her daily catchups and she is missed .However she's probably busy as usual  I just hope she and her family are well. She's probably reworking her budget due to the rise in food  costs, utilities , fuel and everything else.
    Pollyx
    It is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.

    There but for fortune go you and I.
  • Savvy_sewingSavvy_sewing Forumite
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    Hello, I am doing well thanks. Life is always very busy with so many children about. I have today off well until 6ish tonight. The boys went to stay with Dad last night and I have sneaked down to Poole to the caravan for a little peace. 
    I am relaxing in the owners club with a cuppa at the moment, although it is raining so I am delaying my wonder back to the caravan a little longer.  Luckily twin2 and DGD are at home so they will be there when the boys get back if it’s before me. Traffic depending they probably will be. 
    I have been for a wander around the park and down to the beach, before the rain came. 
    I am looking in to changing the caravan for a slightly bigger one, so we can all use it better. My dreams of Portugal have lit possibility of coming to fruition as I will be 74 before the youngest is old enough to decide what he wants to do. 
    So I have invested in the caravan for all of us to use. 
    I will probably bring the kids down next weekend at the start of half term, but on 26th we are off to Disneyland in Paris. I paid for it in 2019 then covid came so it’s been delayed, then we were supposed to go at Easter and I was unwell and couldn’t drive for a few weeks.
     I have been working on a different side of the sewing business and no longer really do alterations. I am more on the making side, very part time now I have the boys. 
    Mum is still with us, but at 86 she is now very frail and hasn’t left her house since March and before that it was November. I worry as I don’t get as much time with her as I used to do.
    Dgd is doing better, and has returned to mainstream school which is a blessing for me. One less fight on my hands. 
    I am practicing looking for the positive as much as possible. When I think how far we have all come. 
    Currently I am making large tote bags for a local charity that uses them to distribute childrens clothes to those in need, and making Dog leads, collars, bandanas etc to raise funds for a friend who need an assistant dog
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • GhibliFanGhibliFan Forumite
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    So nice to have an update from you. I used to read your threads years ago when you had the cottage. (I haven't been on here for years and lost my old details and email address).  I'm glad you're not doing alterations, they can be so fiddly and time consuming for not much reward.  I wish you well, and your dear Mum. This pandemic has had such a detrimental effect on the elderly - even if they didn't catch the virus, the isolation has taken a terrible toll on them.  So sad.  I remember your mum and dad going to France sometimes.  Don't the years fly by!?

    Enjoy your break - I expect you're well overdue for a bit of "me time"! 
  • Savvy_sewingSavvy_sewing Forumite
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    I am home again. The cottage was 2009/10
    i have been here since Dec 2010. Longest I have been anywhere. 
    The 24 hours away was like stepping into another world. I am tired from the drive, ( not a good sign with here to Paris at the end of the month!). 
    Cup of tea time, and wait for the boys to return. Apparently littlest has been sick and sleeping this afternoon. So I may have an interesting night. 

    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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    pollyanna_26pollyanna_26 Forumite
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    edited 16 October at 10:40AM
    I didn't expect to hear from you Savvy when I posted. I'd just been wondering how you were and decided to check the thread to see someone else doing the same thing.
    I'm glad you're getting a break to recharge your batteries  and have exciting plans for you all to look forward to. Things sound much better with DGD.
    Sending good wishes to your mum she's weathered illness and it's tough at her age in these times. I hope your friend and her family are ok. I can never remember her MSE user name and haven't noticed a post for a long time. The last I remember was her talking about making Chistmas gifts in a blog post   and how much she loved the grandchildren making things for them and her love of growing
    i hope your health is ok. I've still got the usual Arthritis and Fibro probelms but so far not caught the virus or flu which I'm grsteful for.
    I hope Twin2 is ok and Tw.n1 and her little family.Not forgetting Biggest and her brood. Last time you posted you were talking how DS had pulled himself together so I hope that's continued.  i too remember when you lived in the cottage just you and ds and now you've got a houseful/
    Enjoy Disney the youngters must be so excited . It's a good idea to concentrate on makes rather than repairs.
    Safe journey with no delays no idea how many times I've said that on your trips to Portugal.
    Take care.
    pollyx
    ETA Autumn is my favourite season too followed by Sring. I'm just a short walk from the beach but the last few years it's been far too crowded  and peoplehave been lighting fires, leaving still hot dispoable BBQs on the sands  and oing many things bannes on a protected over 20  mile coatline with rare flora and fauna along with red suirrela the whole thing  has been mayhem with broken bottles and lots of rubblsh all over the sands and in the woods. Some light fires and leave them burning- fires are banned.
    It is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.

    There but for fortune go you and I.
  • Savvy_sewingSavvy_sewing Forumite
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    I didn't expect to hear from you Savvy when I posted. I'd just been wondering how you were and decided to check the thread to see someone else doing the same thing.
    I'm glad you're getting a break to recharge your batteries  and have exciting plans for you all to look forward to. Things sound much better with DGD.
    Sending good wishes to your mum she's weathered illness and it's tough at her age in these times. I hope your friend and her family are ok. I can never remember her MSE user name and haven't noticed a post for a long time. The last I remember was her talking about making Chistmas gifts in a blog post   and how much she loved the grandchildren making things for them and her love of growing
    i hope your health is ok. I've still got the usual Arthritis and Fibro probelms but so far not caught the virus or flu which I'm grsteful for.
    I hope Twin2 is ok and Tw.n1 and her little family.Not forgetting Biggest and her brood. Last time you posted you were talking how DS had pulled himself together so I hope that's continued.  i too remember when you lived in the cottage just you and ds and now you've got a houseful/
    Enjoy Disney the youngters must be so excited . It's a good idea to concentrate on makes rather than repairs.
    Safe journey with no delays no idea how many times I've said that on your trips to Portugal.
    Take care.
    pollyx
    Thanks Polly,
    Molly41 is my friend, although we have not seen each other since Covid, she is always in my thoughts and prayers but as she is so vulnerable I darent risk visiting her. Finding the time would be a good thing. I don’t know where it goes. 
    Biggest is coming to Disney with us. 11 of us going! Eek. 
    Twin1 is still with her partner and the other kids, they live with his Mum, his Dad died suddenly in the spring while out on a bike ride. He was a year younger than me, which brings home the thoughts of don’t keep things for best if you love it use it, along with the don’t put off until some distant future to do the things you want to do, as you might not be lucky enough to get to do it. 
    DS has passed his HGV tests and has been working with an agency but he starts what is hopefully a new permanent job on Monday. He was so excited that he was able to buy a dishwasher for the house he is in. Last year he bought me a tumble dryer. With the boys that has been a godsend although it’s so big it’s in the alcove in my sitting room! 
    My health is much better than 10 years ago that’s for sure. I have learnt how to live with the pains, mostly, and keep myself moving as best I can although my left hand is now showing signs of swollen joints etc and I can not sew for long periods of time. That’s why I am aiming to teach more. 
    If we could get twin 2 sorted out I would be a happy camper because she is now in the sitting room on the day bed, and we are over crowded. Her engagement didn’t last long, the guy was using her and when she actually refused to lend him any more money he fell out with her and within 3 weeks he apparently is engaged to someone else! 
    It’s gone quite here, fingers crossed the boys are asleep and I am going to try to sleep too, time for an audio book on the kindle with a sleep timer on! 
    Got to love a gadget. 
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • pollyanna_26pollyanna_26 Forumite
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    I'll reply properly tomorrow I'm beginning to think I should head for bed. A hot water bottle leaked in bed last night and mattress , flanellette fitted and upper sheet were soaked along with the duvet so I decided to sleep in another room tonight and needed to make up a bed so did in another room and had to prop the mattress up and deal with the bedding which was soaked.
    You sound much more positive now and very good news about DS.
    I've written Molly41 down. I used to enjoy her blog posts and remember near the start she was lining up pots and containers to start growing veg and other things. I'll probably read those posts again too quiet here with youngest still  with her boyfriend and the cats.
    Sleep tight
    pollyx
    It is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.

    There but for fortune go you and I.
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    I'll reply properly tomorrow I'm beginning to think I should head for bed. A hot water bottle leaked in bed last night and mattress , flanellette fitted and upper sheet were soaked along with the duvet so I decided to sleep in another room tonight and needed to make up a bed so did in another room and had to prop the mattress up and deal with the bedding which was soaked.
    You sound much more positive now and very good news about DS.
    I've written Molly41 down. I used to enjoy her blog posts and remember near the start she was lining up pots and containers to start growing veg and other things. I'll probably read those posts again too quiet here with youngest still  with her boyfriend and the cats.
    Sleep tight
    pollyx
    I think you might be thinking of a different friend as Molly41 was unwell even back when I was in the cottage but I will have a think about who else I used to connect with a lot. 
    I know a few people are no longer on here as life moves on. 

    ( yes it’s silly o’clock-Little man woke 10 minutes ago needing a drink, and I had been in a really weird dream so thought I would read my email- which brought me here). 

    I am definitely a lot more positive these days, I have had time to study a lot of self help and business books over the last few years and I am definitely looking for the best in everything rather than feeling like I victim ( although there are times I feel very much a victim of circumstances), but as soon as I revert to that kind of thinking I switch it up, see what I am grateful for and start saying thank you for XYZ and turn my thoughts around.
    now I shall see about getting back to sleep and thinking about the time on the beach this morning, and the autumn leaves around. I love the colours of autumn. ( not so much the darker colder days). 
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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