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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask the neighbours staying with us for rent?

edited 6 April at 3:00PM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
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This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

They moved in with us while their home's being refurbished. It was expected to take one month, but now after two months it looks like they may be here for another two or three. They're contributing to utility bills, but if they're staying longer, should I also charge rent to cover additional wear and tear on our household appliances, carpets and so on?

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  • elsienelsien Forumite
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    Do you want them to stay longer, is the pertinent question?

    I presume they are friends as well as neighbours, because otherwise I can't see why you'd have them with you for that length of time in the first place.
    If they are friends then you should be able to have a sensible conversation about whether what they are paying covers what you need it to. Forget wear and tear on carpets and appliances, that's neither here nor there. It would be costing them a heck of a lot more to stay anywhere else - how much does what they are paying now reflect the extra costs and inconvenience of having them around? How keen are you to get rid of them? What happens if they're still there after 3 months. A lot of it depends on the relationship between you all.

    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • 74jax74jax Forumite
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    What are they having done that was talking 1 month and now will take 6 months. 
    Is your house big enough, are you happy to do this? If so I'd forget wear and tear of a carpet.... How much walking can they do on it....... 
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  • pbartlettpbartlett Forumite
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    you don't say what 'staying with you' means, but if they have their own area etc you might find yourself inadvertantly creating a tenancy....
  • Robroy79Robroy79 Forumite
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    Nope - not for that, your carpets aren't going to wear out quicker because that time when they came to stay. Money for the utilities and some decent wine is fair as you're on good terms with them and good trusting neighbours are like rocking horse sh....
  • PennylanePennylane Forumite
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    I’d say no, but you should ask them if they have any idea how much longer they will need to stay at yours.  That is a long time to share your home with neighbours.  It’s better to ask now and get an answer than to fall out over this. 
  • wannabe_a_saverwannabe_a_saver Forumite
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    Is this coming up because you’re getting fed up of having them there and you’re looking for a way to gently nudge them out, or are you looking to make some money out of the situation? 
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