This seems to be by my making more complicated. My wife and I lent the money to our son, we have an agreement signed by us all. He didn't leave a will so myself and his partner got probate of his estate. He left no money apart from about £20000 in the house. His partner was awarded a sum of money from the other drivers insurance company. This allowed his partner to settle the outstanding loan to my wife and I. The solicitors dealing with the claim told us the house could not be transferred to her name while see was administrator of the estate. I then contacted the Probate office they said she could stand down with a signed affidavit the wording they said we needed to get legal advice. I think I have now given all the information. You have all been so helpful. My wife and I are in our 70's and just do not have the money to pay.
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