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Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism
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I don't want to be unemployed and back on total benefits.
I am talking with DS today.
He is very subdued.
When childcare is back to normal it won't be a problem. It is the fact that Dgs1 is only in school 3 hours a day.
leaving me 2 1/2 hours maximum to work.
I am going to refuse more work coming in until I am up to date.
I am also going to contact those whose work is here and discuss whether to give the work to someone else or if they are happy for a longer turn around.
I wish I was not so tired in the evening or ideally I could work for a few hours in the evening. But I am just too tired to.
I think you need to give yourself a break.
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One quick question though - if dgs1 has a 1-1, has he been granted funding for the whole school day? If so, then I believe that school should be providing it, even if his allocated support isn’t able to be the one supporting him.
'Wander' - to walk or move in a leisurely manner.
'Wonder' - to feel curious.
DS is aware of the fact that I have told him that I can do it better without him. I have told him that I am likely to be selling the van, especially if I find him smoking in it again.
He turned up at 5pm to collect Dgs2 at 5.30 and dished up the dinner I had bunged in the oven earlier. He gave them baths and put them to bed and then went back to the GFs as he was using her car. So he has not been using the van for about a week now. So yes he appears to have somewhere to rest his head. Even though the GFs children are there. Before he only stayed when they were at their dads. So I am hoping that the transition to living together is going to happen organically rather than me having to make him go. I know that thought will not get most of your seals of approval but it would be gentler on the situation and at the moment I just don't want any scenes.
I am still waiting for Social Services to return my Tax Credit paperwork that they wanted to review my Guardian funding for DGd. I will also need those for any Housing claim.
Re Dgs1-1.
it is only funded until 1pm usually.
the woman stays with him through Lunch as he gets unsettled in the big hall, or queuing for food. So she goes after lunch.
apparently this is the time when they do the most academic work and then the afternoon is more play style work.
Next week he should be able to stay until 1pm but they think that his attention span to 2.45 is not good enough and he disrupts the rest of the class so he has to come back home.
I just need to sort breakfast. Be back later.