My situation and advice needed please
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Hi,
Myself and my wife are splitting up. We own a home together and have a 2 year old son.
After maternity leave, my wife has been back to work full time. I am self employed and I am only earning £4-500 max a week before tax, and I'm also looking after our son on a Wednesday and Friday. He goes to nursery on the other 3 days.
As we're splitting up, i'm forced to return to where I used to live in bristol and as my customer base is 200 miles away, I have to start at the bottom of the career ladder - going to have a career change.
She's on a good income (marketing manager). I'm expected to pay maintenance, 50% of his nursery fees, alongside travel expenses (200 miles each way) which will only be once a month unfortunately.
We are selling the house and as I put most money into it she's being amicable and allowing me to have 2/3 of equity.
Is this normally the case? Does my maintenance go on my new salary when I get another job?
Thanks for your help in advance
Myself and my wife are splitting up. We own a home together and have a 2 year old son.
After maternity leave, my wife has been back to work full time. I am self employed and I am only earning £4-500 max a week before tax, and I'm also looking after our son on a Wednesday and Friday. He goes to nursery on the other 3 days.
As we're splitting up, i'm forced to return to where I used to live in bristol and as my customer base is 200 miles away, I have to start at the bottom of the career ladder - going to have a career change.
She's on a good income (marketing manager). I'm expected to pay maintenance, 50% of his nursery fees, alongside travel expenses (200 miles each way) which will only be once a month unfortunately.
We are selling the house and as I put most money into it she's being amicable and allowing me to have 2/3 of equity.
Is this normally the case? Does my maintenance go on my new salary when I get another job?
Thanks for your help in advance
Savings aim for 2012: £5000 = £416.60 per month
Current Savings excluding M&G Investments (18/11/11):
Britannia: £5334
Total Aim for 31/12/12: £10,334
Current Savings excluding M&G Investments (18/11/11):
Britannia: £5334
Total Aim for 31/12/12: £10,334
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Still not sure why she isn't paying maintenance and you providing care
If you do decide to be the NRP, you will have to pay a percentage of your salary - there's no obligation to pay other things like nursery fees.
If you stayed in the family home with your son, his life and your work would be able to continue as it is now.
If she earns more than you, you could propose that your child live with you and that you become either a full time parent , or work part time around child care .
If you do move, then yes, child maintenace is based on your actual income, so you would recalculate it based on your earnings. You are not legally required to pay nursery gfees on top of that.
You could propose that you and your ex share the travelling - perhaps you could collect your child from mum at the start of any weekend or other timethey ave with you, and she could collect from your home at the end of the visit, so that both of you are doing some of the travelling.
Will he have to go nursery 5 days a week when you leave?
You can calculate the amount if maintenance you should pay here https://www.gov.uk/calculate-child-maintenance
Once the child is 18 then look again at the situation.
You care for the child as you are now, your wife pays for the care etc.