Eagles1905
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Fellow Dad's, been divorced 2.5 years and ex-wife has confirmed she is now in a new relationship that has become serious, she has already mentioned introducing our young son to the new partner. What are your thoughts on me meeting this person too? Personally, I have very little interest in meeting this other chap unless a situation developed in which they ended up living together etc. Interested to see what the views are.
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Your ex says no to you meeting the new partner?
You take an instant dislike to him?
Not much you can do, is there?
I'm not a dad, so hope that doesn't disqualify me from having an opinion.
It's a tricky one, but guess I would have to trust my ex wife's judgment of character and go from there. There are no plans to introduce our son just yet and we have agreed to be open and honest. It's a tough one for me, but I want to handle it maturely for the benefit of our boy. This works both ways too of course, I am not being one sided of naive.
There may be family occasions in the more distant future where you will find yourselves in the same room or the same family function and they will be a lot more easily negotiated if you're able to do this from a civilised base. I agree its a difficult situation to navigate but you all have to be honest and grown up about this and your child will be less emotionally stressed if he,s not the object of a tug of war between two (or three) warring adults, all of whom will be playing a key part in his life.
Dont forget, your son will be seeing this person often, and may not share the same views you do on them, which might not make you look good