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New plan...time to see some movement!

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Debt Free Diaries
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  • jwil wrote: »
    Little miss seems to have a bit of a dodgy tum today. She seems fine so I'm hoping it's nothing. This however has really triggered my anxiety. I don't know why it does, but the thought of the kids being ill really stresses me. It's not even that I think it's something serious, it's even the thought of a stomach bug. :( I feel like I'm constantly watching them to see if they are getting ill and not actually doing anything with them. I don't want to book days out or a holiday or anything in case they are ill. I even would rather be at work sometimes as it means I don't have to constantly watch them :cry:


    It's really silly, but this more than anything is crippling me at the moment, and is why I need to get sorted. I don't want to not enjoy being with my kids. I know this is not normal and it's no way to live and it's not fair on them. :(

    I'm not even sure why I'm posting, but at least I can show it to the doc to stop me chickening out again.


    I have suffered with anxiety in the past, and even how a lot of things do trigger me off....as you know from me stressing about the babysitting etc. But I found that the GP was very supportive when I had to go and talk about it and honestly the best thing is to have people to talk to. Even logging in here and writing down how you are feeling, will help. I know it certainly has done for me.
    Hope all goes well at the Doctor and also that your little one is well soon. These things don't normally last long.
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    Apparently as a "new user", now I have a new user name, I am not allowed to post links yet. So can't post the link to my diary, but it is called...LET'S GET THIS SHOW ON THE ROAD, if you fancy popping over.

    I'll head on over and find you :)
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    Write down what you want to tell the GP. Then hand it to them at your appointment if you don't think you can say it.

    I totally get what you mean about the being unwell. Please know you're not alone and there will be a way to make yourself feel better

    x

    Thank you lovely. I feel silly especially as other people (including you) have actual issues to worry about :o
    I have suffered with anxiety in the past, and even how a lot of things do trigger me off....as you know from me stressing about the babysitting etc. But I found that the GP was very supportive when I had to go and talk about it and honestly the best thing is to have people to talk to. Even logging in here and writing down how you are feeling, will help. I know it certainly has done for me.
    Hope all goes well at the Doctor and also that your little one is well soon. These things don't normally last long.

    Thank you lovely. I do tend to internalise things which probably doesn't help.

    Little miss is fine today albeit seems to be getting a cold. She was fine in herself yesterday too, I think I'm overthinking things again :o
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    I managed a few bits:
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    jwil wrote: »
    Thank you lovely. I feel silly especially as other people (including you) have actual issues to worry about :o

    I normally lurk but just wanted to say that anxiety is a very real, very actual issue. It's something that can be crippling and think about it this way...you're doing the NHS a favour by speaking about it, both in terms of letting them help you get better before it gets any worse, and by helping them realise how many people are suffering from it. You're not alone in your anxiety and it's really important that the NHS recognise that it's a problem so that they can do something about it, including improving mental health support service funding.

    Hope you feel better soon :)
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    Anxiety is a real issue Jwil so you shouldn't feel bad about it. I used to get anxious about all kinds of things and especially abou harm coming to my children. I worried about them being kidnapped, getting lost, falling on their heads, and all kinds of silly things. I worry about DS3 at uni and if I don't hear from him every day I worry that something has happened to him. I know it's silly but I can't seem to help it.

    So you're not alone in worrying about things and talking does help a lot. So definitely mention it to the doctor as it obviously affects you and why suffer in silence if you can get help :).
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    Hi Jwil, well done on making the appointment to speak to your GP.
    Be mindful of your self-talk. It's a conversation with the Universe."
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    Glad you've made the appointment jwil.........I've suffered anxiety all my life starting developing OCD as well but I found having my third child kind of kicked that to the kerb as I was exhausted trying to keep up with everything now I'm a bit more relaxed as long as I have a clean house by the end of the day I'm happy xx

    My anxiety is overthinking, I think of scenarios if I have to make a decision which then splits into two outcomes and keeps multiplying til I get a sore head and very upset.when things don't go to plan
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    All my life I have considered myself a total wimp. I don't like going out of my comfort zone. It hasn't been until DS started having issues and lots of different people saying he has signs of OCD and anxiety that I realised I probably have always had it too, I had never really thought about it much before. I think it's been even worse for me since he has been like it too, as I feel totally hopeless in not being to help him. I find things that I coped better with before, I now struggle with.

    I'm another who has a intense fear of sickness bugs, after having been hit by some very nasty ones over the years. Hope little Jwil is feeling better.
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