Lucy5781 wrote: »
What finally got me to pull everything together and get my DRO put through (after moving job and house and cutting down what bills I could) was finding out at the start of August this year that I was pregnant. Sadly I miscarried at six weeks.
But, it did two massive things for me, kicked me up the !!!! to get this DRO sorted and also, to tell the father of the baby, after he repeatedly hounded me to not continue with the pregnancy, to never come near me ever again.
This was difficult as we've been friends and on-off partners for ten years (ironically the baby's due date would have been the tenth anniversary of us first sleeping together !!!!!!) and over that time I've made it clear I would give him everything if he wanted it but he'd never actually put me first. When he blatantly rejected his own child just because it was mine it finally broke me, it's been one thing to put up with his less than ideal behavior myself but that was proof of just how far he would go.
He does not deserve me and I deserve a hell of a lot better.
I do not find it surprising that this is all taking place at the same time. I feel grief, relief, sadness, some positives as the debts are now being resolved etc but mostly right now, I just feel drained.
I try and see it as a period of healing.And then I shall await my real prince charming....
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