CAFCGirl wrote: »
If I could give you one thing in life, it would be to surrounded you by people who do everything they can, to see you happy, to make sure you're alright. People who will always give you their chair, always lift you in the morning, and lay you down at night. People who will live their day to see you smile, and people who will dry your eyes when you cry......
You are one of life's treasures..... and you should hear those words every single day
CAFCGirl wrote: »
For fear of this coming across in the wrong way, when you say you're big, what are we talking about here?
I'm much like yourself, I've got no friends where I am, I've got my bf who I met thru my first ever flatmate, who I lived with for 3 years and since she moved out she has never been in touch with me.
My one good friend stitched me up, hence why I had to find a place of my own, and increasing my rent by almost 100%! I get up, I talk to the people at work, but only ever at work, we dont have much of a social network outside of work since theres only a few of us, and we're all so different.
Only time I ever go out is with the BF and thats had to stop because neither of us have any money.
So much like you, its get up, go to work, come home talk to noone till the next day at work.
You're a very kind and generous person. And not for one second go blaming yourself for being that person. It is not your fault that your family take you for granted, it is not your fault that your family see you as responsible for them, and it is DEFINITELY NOT YOUR FAULT that your father did what he did.
I'm glad to hear you think things need to change, and I for one, will be here for anything you need on that front.
I'm gonna keep my ear out for our next shop opening close to you and get you in there!!!! And offer still stands if you want a couple of days work experience on the other side of the country!!!
Not having any motivation or ambition is a perpetual cycle, but my suggestion would be to take that as your motivation......... Your motivation should be realising your ambition, kicking your family into touch and start living for you!
Plenty of people can tell you what you should, shouldnt. could, couldn't do till the cows come home but at the end of the day, the choice is solely yours. Want your family to stop treating you like dirt, stop thinking you deserve it, that you give them reason for it!
They're selfish and cruel.
Applaud yourself on that one every waking moment hun!
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