I keep asking my mum what she wants but she always avoids the question by saying "needs to think about it". I'm feeling a bit weird about it as I've been home from finishing uni a couple of months and still not paid anything and I feel like a scab or something. I want to give her some money but I don't know how much. I earn between £550 and £700 a month, depends on how much overtime I can fight for at work. What do you think a reasonable amount would be?
She may feel awkward about taking money off you, when she knows you're not earning that much. And she might want to keep you at home by not charging you. And she may not realise you feel so bad about not paying her anything!
So, does she NEED the money? How many of you are there? How much do YOU NEED for getting to and from work, clothes for work, toiletries etc? And do you know what it costs her to keep you? Do you help out?
You see, if my sons come home after Uni, I probably will ask for keep, but if I don't NEED the money, I'd rather have their help around the house, as long as they're not frittering money.
So, do you know what your mum spends on food each week? Can you offer to do the shopping with her, or for her? Can you make her an offer and see if that's acceptable? Budget for a 'poor' month and then maybe treat her in the 'rich' months?
Does that help at all?
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