'Do old dating traditions still apply?' poll discussion

edited 1 June 2009 at 1:28PM in Money Saving Polls
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edited 1 June 2009 at 1:28PM in Money Saving Polls
Poll between 26 May - 1 June 2009:

Do old dating traditions still apply?

If a woman and man go out for dinner on a first date, who should pay?

Which of the following is closest to your view?

A. The man (I'm female) - 11% (1047 votes)
B. The man (I'm male) - 22% (1996 votes)
C. The woman (I'm female) - 0% (10 votes)
D. The woman (I'm male) - 0% (46 votes)
E. The woman should offer but the man still pay (I'm female) - 14% (1306 votes)
F. The woman should offer but the man still pay (I'm male) - 8% (755 votes)
G. The man should offer but the woman still pay (I'm female) - 0% (37 votes)
H. The man should offer but the woman still pay (I'm male) - 1% (68 votes)
I. Half each (I'm female) - 14% (1261 votes)
J. Half each (I'm male) - 6% (598 votes)
K. Each pays for what they had (I'm female) - 2% (219 votes)
L. Each pays for what they had (I'm male) - 1% (124 votes)
M. The higher earner (I'm female) - 0% (20 votes)
N. The higher earner (I'm male) - 0% (25 votes)
O. Whoever asked who out (I'm female) - 12% (1086 votes)
P. Whoever asked who out (I'm male) - 7% (634 votes)

Total Votes: 9232

Voting has now closed, but you can still click 'post reply' to discuss below. Thanks :)

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  • A. In an ideal world
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    Help from the state £0.00
  • edited 26 May 2009 at 12:06PM
    SaucepotSaucepot
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    edited 26 May 2009 at 12:06PM
    I'm a chap and when I date the girlfriend I pick up the bill, when out with the wife she picks up the bill but it's all my money in her purse anyway. Or rather "our money". I do not begrudge the wife any amount of my hard earned. She puts up with me.
    I wonder why it is, that young men are always cautioned against bad girls. Anyone can handle a bad girl. It's the good girls men should be warned against.-David Niven
  • scotsbobscotsbob Forumite
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    On this issue we Scotsmen are all in favour of political correctness. The woman can pay. :)
  • the majority of exes i have had have insisted on going halves especially the last one it was a very big deal to her. the one that allowed me to without thinking there was anything wrong with it was from a very old fashioned family.

    i would always offer but not be surprised if i was told if i dont let them go halves i will get a clout round the back of the head.

    it might be an age thing, i am nearly 28 and the majority of women i sniff around are early-mid 20s
    things arent the way they were before, you wouldnt even recognise me anymore- not that you knew me back then ;)
    BH is my best mate too, its ok :)

    I trust BH even if he's from Manchester.. ;)

    all your base are belong to us :eek:
  • Gavin83Gavin83 Forumite
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    I'd go for P. If someone wants to have dinner with the other person then it should really be their responsibilty to pay. The only other really acceptable option is to split it, everything else belongs in the past or just isn't reasonable.

    After the first date it should be split equally unless your going out for a birthday. If a woman worked and expected me to pay each time I wouldn't bother after the first couple of dates.
  • ThinkingOfLinkingThinkingOfLinking Forumite
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    I went with K.

    I am surprisingly old-fashioned in some ways, eg I won't let a man buy me a drink unless he is either a close friend, relative or my boyfriend. So with that in mind, I won't let a man pay for my meal either unless one of the above applies to him.

    Whilst people may well say, "Why go on a date with someone like that in the first place?" I would also never let a man pay in the early days so there can be no hint of owing anything or him expecting anything to happen.

    I know it may come across as tight to want to only pay for what I have personally consumed, money is tight, and at least I'd show I'm responsible and not a gold digger or spendthrift. :)
  • poppy10_2poppy10_2 Forumite
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    Meh. Lots of women on this poll voting I. Half each (I'm female)

    Same as the usual nonsense about personality/sense of humour being more important than looks/money. They like to kid themselves but when it comes down to it, if you actually tried suggesting splitting the bill on a first date, you probably will never hear from the girl again.
    poppy10
  • poppy10_2poppy10_2 Forumite
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    P.S. the dangers of allowing a guy to pay for you:

    http://www.metro.co.uk/weird/article.html?in_article_id=17973&in_page_id=2
    poppy10
  • ThinkingOfLinkingThinkingOfLinking Forumite
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    poppy10 wrote: »
    P.S. the dangers of allowing a guy to pay for you:

    http://www.metro.co.uk/weird/article.html?in_article_id=17973&in_page_id=2

    God, that makes me want to stay in forever with a load of cats and meals for one.:rotfl:
  • Freddie_SnowbitsFreddie_Snowbits
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    I had no probs with Freda, 'twas a bag of chipps and mushy peas, 50p each!
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