Negative person into positive person?

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how do you get a negative person into a positive person? particularly when this is family this is very hard to deal with. Are there any courses? this person does not really read so that would not be the best way . ideas appreciated.

Freebie_Hunter_2

You have to take the 'glass is half full' approach.
Its easy to turn a negative thought or situation into a positive one simply by turning it round.
However .... this person must WANT to be helped.

Please feel free to PM me as this is clearly a sensitive subject and I will need a few more details so I can give you the right advice.

Ted_Hutchinson

There are links to several Free Cognitive Behaviour therapy online courses here scroll down the page to the section on Depression.
You don't have to be clinically depressed to benefit from thinking about the way you approach life and how you relate to things. In fact doing the course might help prevent someone who was borderline from becoming worse. It would be much easier to do when not depressed that wait until you are.

Another link to another free online Cognitive Behaviour Therapy programme http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

building

any help appreciated!

Freebie_Hunter wrote:

You have to take the 'glass is half full' approach.
Its easy to turn a negative thought or situation into a positive one simply by turning it round.
However .... this person must WANT to be helped.

Please feel free to PM me as this is clearly a sensitive subject and I will need a few more details so I can give you the right advice.

VickyA_2

My boyfriend complains that I'm a "glass half empty" as opposed to a "glass half full" person. It's really tough to try and turn these things around, so your thread is really useful for me.

By the way, a PM is a Private Message that you can send to members without the rest of us seeing what you're saying. In the top right hand corner of the screen, just under your user name it says "Private Messages". Click on that and you'll be able to send and receive Private Messages galore!

homersimpson_3

without the background it's extremely difficult (and arguably dangerous) to offer advice. people have different values, opinions, attitudes and perceptions. also an individual's values, opinions, attitudes and perceptions can alter depending on the enviornment and people that surround them. they even change over time.
Just because you or a family consider x is being negative doesn't mean they are. This maybe how you perceive the situation. X may think he is being honest or taking an evaluative stance pointing out flaws, pitfalls and weaknesses in a situation.
You can't send someone somewhere- any change has to come from within- and some people will rebel and dig their heels in if they think they are being controlled or moulded (have good the intentions of the moulder).
please confirm why you think x is being negative. what are you hoping the course will achieve(e.g. for x to get out of bed and start finding a job). is this part of your job- counsellor, social worker or voluntary work? how closely are you involved in this family-how objective are you? homer

gravitytolls

The best thing probably is to take a positive approach yourself.

Negativity is epidemic methinks. When was the last time you had a conversation with anyone which didn't ahve a negative slant, whinge, moan or compalint in it?

It should be our mission in life to turn this around...each and everyone of us should endeavour every single day to say something positive.

With the exception of true tragedy when nothing but 100% support is required, we should try to turn negatives into positives.

I.e
my new shoes are worn out, and I loved them ,t ehy were the most comfy ever......

Never mind, now you can get a new pair.

It's always bloody raining....
but he flowers are blooming and we arent in the middle of a hosepipe ban.

Some tiles have blown off my roof....
At least most of it's intact, and the builder will be bale to check the rest of the structure is sound, so you'll have peace of mind.

Etc. etc.

The reason, I'm sure we are all so negative lately, is because we're surrounded by it, it seeps into our consciousness, and takes us over.

If we talk positively we can turn it around, so that we think positively, and hopefully it will catch on.