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Money Moral Dilemma: Friends cancelled our reunion at short notice - should they pay for my hotel?

MSE_Kelvin Posts: 349 MSE Staff
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This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

Last year, a group of friends I'd lost touch with arranged a get-together with me. We decided to do it again this year, agreed the dates and location, and said we'd book our own accommodation. Three weeks before, however, they pulled out - this left me extremely sad for the lost friendships and because no one had told me earlier. I'm now left with an expensive hotel booking I don't need and can't cancel. Should I ask the rest of the group to foot my bill?

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  • Hoenir
    Hoenir Posts: 2,446 Forumite
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    edited 11 June at 7:20PM
    The answer is no. We are all responsible for our own choices. By doing so you probably terminate the relationship permanently as well. 
  • Bridgetanna
    Bridgetanna Posts: 1 Newbie
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    That's what travel insurance is for.  Go anyway and enjoy iy
  • primrose_penguin
    primrose_penguin Posts: 119 Forumite
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     I agree with most of the others, I wouldn't ask them to foot your bill and they probably wouldn't anyway,  but I would think twice before making a hotel booking again if they suggest another reunion, and if you decided to go I would book with one of the online booking sites that let you cancel near the date without charging. In the meantime I would ask a real friend to go with me if you have booked a double/twin room and enjoy the weekend, you have nothing to lose as you cannot get a refund. Have a great time.
  • Gosportmum
    Gosportmum Posts: 17 Forumite
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    No. Still go away yourself. Alot of hotels give you the option to cancel when you make the ( more expensive) reservation or offer free cancellation. 
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