Money Moral Dilemma: Should I accept an expensive present from my boyfriend who owes me money?

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My boyfriend, who has been trying to sort himself out financially, got me a beautiful bike that cost £1,500 for my birthday. He says it's a larger-than-normal gift to say thank you for finding us our flat and helping him sort his life out. Yet he owes me a month's rent and half of the deposit on the flat we recently moved into, and has been stressed about finding money to buy things his daughters want. Do I accept the bike to avoid hurting his feelings, or decline to continue helping him with his finances?

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  • Pollycat
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    Can the bike be returned?
    If not, you either have the option of keeping it or selling it on.
    Is it the bike of your dreams? I'm aware that bikes can be very personal and I'm not sure I'd like anyone buying me such a personal - and expensive - item without discussing it with me.
    What does your boyfriend say about spending so much money when he owes you money?
    You have spoken to him about this...?
    I'm aware that none of these questions will be answered.
    Personally, I'd be pretty hacked off if I was you.
    And I wouldn't need to ask random strangers on t'interweb what they thought.
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