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Partner wants 50/50 ownership of house we are buying.
I own a small apartment. My partner moved in shortly before our daughter was born.
I am selling the apartment and we are planning to buy a house together. Her mother is gifting her 35k to put towards the deposit, whilst I will be contributing 250k after the sale of my property and savings. Even though we will have a joint mortgage I will be paying the mortgage with my income only as she does not earn enough and she looks after our child and her needs whilst I work. I also pay the bills and food.
Now the relationship has been up and down. Lots of arguments, but things go steady. She has a very bad temper and can snap easily. She walked in and almost demanded that we own the house equally 50/50 as she was angry I was going to put a different percentage and that her friends partners did this so I would be selfish not to. Sounds harsh, though I agreed to it.
I think this sort of situation is difficult when you have a child together. I also want to protect my equity I have worked so hard for all my life and the thought of just handing it over to someone who hasn't saved their entire life feels unjust. The my friends partners did it argument is aimed to make one feel selfish and as if they are not committed to the relationship is the vibe I'm getting.
This is really stressing me out. Any advise would be great.
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