Logistics of getting ex round to take his possessions prior to house move

NornIronRose

We have accepted an offer on our property and I am now actively looking for somewhere to move to. 
Ex DH had bought the large items of furniture and wants me to sell them and give him the money, or allow him to come and take them away along with all of his other possessions (many of which are lurking in the shed). 
I have a non-molestation order which prevents him from being within 100m of our property but we have written into our divorce consent agreement that he can come to retrieve his belongings/furniture. 
I have no issue with him doing that on one occasion as long as my daughter is not in the property (and preferably me as well as I'd prefer not to have any interaction).
Has anyone got any clue where I even start with something like this? He wants most of the large furniture, fridge freezer etc. I have refused to part with the washer/dryer.

Do I wait until near moving day and get him to organise whatever he wants (big van and friends to help or whatever)?
It annoys me that I probably have to pack up a whole double shed worth of screws, tools etc. But if I leave him to pack up all of his clutter he will be here for longer and I don't want to give him any excuse at all to be here longer than absolutely necessary. 
I know it's an odd question but it's been weighing on my mind for a while and I'm not sure where to start. 

bluelad1927

Can you live without the furniture for a week before moving. I imagine it will be extremely stressful having to deal with this on the day on top of moving yourself. We've managed before when moving without furniture for quite a while and only having the use of a camping fridge

Forget the annoyance factor of the shed. Packing it up solve the bigger issue of him hanging around. 

Good luck!!

NornIronRose

Thanks. Yes, I can live without the furniture. Camping fridge is a good shout. Hadn't thought of that. 
So I should go down to the shed and start chucking stuff in boxes. 

So is the best plan to agree a date with him and give him free rein to come with a van for a few hours? I really hate the thought of him coming and poking through any of my things. 

powerspowers

Have you got a friend or family member who would be prepared to hang round your house awkwardly while he packs up? 

bluelad1927

As @powerspowers say a friend or family member either there without you or at least there for support is a very good idea.

I would offer a couple of dates or ask for a preference as long as practically possible before your move date to give you a clear path for yourself.

I have no  doubt its a stressful time but keep thinking once it's done its done!!

MultiFuelBurner

Be prepared for the ex to not want to move the large furniture and it will.end up staying there for you to get rid of so definitely do this exercise a few weeks before any deadline so you do it free of Facebook marketplace etc.

NornIronRose

He has now emailed with the prices he expects to get for each item, or he will take them himself. Hilarious reading really but there's no arguing with him so I shall save my sanity and let him do his own thing. 

Good shout to have a couple of friends round while he moves the things he wants to move. 

I think once the house is off the market I will be happier to let him get rid of stuff and leave big gaps. We have had a firm offer which we have accepted but he refuses to take it off the market in case someone else comes along and offers more. What can I say?

tealady

I would give your ex a day to collect all items he wants. If you have stuff you want can you get it out of the house before he comes (got any friendly neighbours with a shed/garage?).
Suggest you take "before" and "after" photos as well to cover yourself in case.

YoungBlueEyes

Just to emphasise - I wouldn't be waiting til "near moving day" for him to get his stuff, I'd be sorting it as soon as possible. You don't want to give him the chance to mess about when you're nearly at the finish line. 

I'd give your friends a list of what is his, then leave them to it for the day. They can ring you when he's gone, you can come back with pizza + beers (or whatever). For ease I might also put any of his small things in the wardrobe so it's all together, and clear out and clean the fridge freezer. Don't give him an opportunity to complain, or to stay longer than necessary.

Good luck.  

NornIronRose

Some helpful comments there. Thank you. 

Cs9ja17

If there is a history of domestic violence, which your post suggests is a possibility, then the police can be present to keep the peace when your ex collects his items. I used to work in the 101 call centre and this was often arranged in cases of domestic violence victims allowing abusive ex partners to collect personal items.