Money Moral Dilemma: Should I negotiate cheaper rent with my parents?

REJP

Again, a dilemma that is not a dilemma.
Like other people, I have to ask about petrol charge. Do you use their car for your commute?
We are given no information on the relationship between poster and parents. I have to say you should go with the idea that if you can get a cheaper room nearer work, move out.
If you stay, work out a fairer way to pay for food and utilities etc. There is no information on why you moved back in, but I do agree with people who say you should have agreed a fair rent and food etc payment before moving in if that was possible.
Reading between the lines your parents don't seem to understand that the quicker you save enough to move, they will have their lives back again. Not all parents welcome children back home, disrupting their routines.
Find a list of letting agents and get your name down with a couple and move out, being in charge of your own costs again without wondering if you are going to be charged unfair costs for utilities etc.
What dilemma?

top.position

I'm quite sure your parents are anxious for you to get your own place. But that doesn't mean they can necessarily afford to subsidise you.
Nor that they should have to even if they can afford it.

gloriouslyhappy

I bet it's still cheaper staying with your parents and paying what they ask than renting on your own! I wonder how much cleaning, cooking and laundry you do, I hope you do your own and help with theirs too.. As for the petrol, if they're giving you lifts or letting you use their car because you either don't have one or have SORNed your own car, then it's only right that should be added in to their extra costs they want you to share.

maman

Organza_Lace wrote: »

Why arent you paying for your own petrol?

There's no point in asking questions on these threads. OP doesn't engage. They apparently can't /won't post themselves so they send in a question for mse to do it for them!!! That's what I've been told but I'm far from convinced they aren't made up. I think they're pointless.

shalton

If you aren't happy that your parents are helping you out, move out.
You sound a bit selfish imo.

Pollycat

Jan1959 wrote: »

You should pay towards the living costs, food, utilities, mortgage etc. Unless your parent have plans to rent the room why would they charge you most parents would want to help their children

Maybe the parents don't have plans to rent out the room but can't afford to subsidise a grown-up who thinks it's perfectly acceptable to freeload off them whilst saving for their own place...

Maybe the parents have had enough of helping their child...

Maybe the parents have other children who need their financial help more than this one...

Regardless of the reason they are asking the 'OP' for more money, they are asking. It's their house, their rules.

The OP can of course live elsewhere if he/she doesn't like those rules.

venderqueen

They should not incur more expense so you can save, the house will have higher running costs so it’s only fair you pay your share.

firebubble

I think you should ask for a cheaper rate if you can establish, based on the actual bills, whether what you're paying your parents is fair.

For example (and assuming there are only three people in the house), your payment shouldn't work out more than a third of all the bills, ie if your parents are making a profit off you, then you might want to negotiate - so if they've paid off the mortgage, to ask you to cover that is a perhaps a bit mean.

But you only mention a few types of bill, which suggests that you're not actually being asked for a contribution to all the bills. If you did, then what you'd be paying would likely be much higher, so you are still getting a saving.

piggielady

As we all know these are all made up dilemmas as real people always want to give loads of info, my advice is stay living on your own as your parents really don’t want you to move back in or they’d let you live cost free just to have the pleasure of grownup children depending on them again.

Augustus_the_Strong

Maybe your parents are trying to save money too? What are you doing to make it worth their while? You're grown up now, and responsible for yourself.