Money Moral Dilemma: How much should my boyfriend contribute to the flat?

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My housemate owns the flat we live in and it's just the two of us now, but she's allowing my boyfriend to move in. How much is fair to add to the rent, considering we're taking up the same amount of space and it's only the bills going up?

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  • heartbreak_star
    We had this and we still divided by three. It's per-person.

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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    Your LANDLORD owns the flat, and you are a lodger. Basically what's fair is whatever your landlord decides.
  • PasturesNew
    PasturesNew Posts: 70,698 Forumite
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    Get TFO .... a couple in the space of a single never works because they get all shirty and start to boss around the single, making them uncomfortable in the home they own.

    Just get out ..... you know it makes sense.
  • CuppaTea
    CuppaTea Posts: 1,337 Forumite
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    The landlord doesn't live there, just the couple.
    Live for the moment and plan for the future
  • onomatopoeia99
    CuppaTea wrote: »
    The landlord doesn't live there, just the couple.
    Question makes it sounds like the landlord does live there.
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  • elsien
    elsien Posts: 32,997 Forumite
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    Yes, I read it the same way as Ono.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • pickledonionspaceraider
    OP is confusing

    If the landlord lives there, then a third each. Of everything inc the rent

    It isnt just about the rent, it is about the inconvenience of another body in the house, and LL should see some financial relief to balance this - otherwise it is taking liberties

    If the LL does not live there

    Then no reason the rent should go up at all

    I suggest you straighten this out long before partner moves in.
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  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 34,765 Forumite
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    Is this even really a dilemma?
    Has the OP spoken to the 'housemate who owns the flat'?
    If not, why not?
  • Red-Squirrel_2
    The friend owns the house and is the live-in landlord

    The 'moneysaver who wants advice' is her friend's lodger.

    Its up to the landlord what they want to charge for another person moving in. Its not an equal situation, the landlord gets to decide, and the lodgers can move out if they aren't happy with the costs.

    Its not a moral dilemma.
  • SuperPikachu
    Well you could swap it to 33% each instead of 50/50 if you want to be fair about things (assuming that it is currently 50/50) as you live with the actual landlord of the property.

    Otherwise move out and rent your own place if you or they feel that it is unfair to pay more.
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