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Money Moral Dilemma: How much should my boyfriend contribute to the flat?

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This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
My housemate owns the flat we live in and it's just the two of us now, but she's allowing my boyfriend to move in. How much is fair to add to the rent, considering we're taking up the same amount of space and it's only the bills going up?

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  • We had this and we still divided by three. It's per-person.

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  • Comms69Comms69 Forumite
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    Your LANDLORD owns the flat, and you are a lodger. Basically what's fair is whatever your landlord decides.
  • PasturesNewPasturesNew Forumite
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    Get TFO .... a couple in the space of a single never works because they get all shirty and start to boss around the single, making them uncomfortable in the home they own.

    Just get out ..... you know it makes sense.
  • CuppaTeaCuppaTea Forumite
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    The landlord doesn't live there, just the couple.
    I'm dealing with stuff.:D
  • onomatopoeia99onomatopoeia99 Forumite
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    CuppaTea wrote: »
    The landlord doesn't live there, just the couple.
    Question makes it sounds like the landlord does live there.
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  • elsienelsien Forumite
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    Yes, I read it the same way as Ono.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • pickledonionspaceraiderpickledonionspaceraider Forumite
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    OP is confusing

    If the landlord lives there, then a third each. Of everything inc the rent

    It isnt just about the rent, it is about the inconvenience of another body in the house, and LL should see some financial relief to balance this - otherwise it is taking liberties

    If the LL does not live there

    Then no reason the rent should go up at all

    I suggest you straighten this out long before partner moves in.
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  • PollycatPollycat Forumite
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    Is this even really a dilemma?
    Has the OP spoken to the 'housemate who owns the flat'?
    If not, why not?
  • Red-Squirrel_2Red-Squirrel_2 PPR
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    The friend owns the house and is the live-in landlord

    The 'moneysaver who wants advice' is her friend's lodger.

    Its up to the landlord what they want to charge for another person moving in. Its not an equal situation, the landlord gets to decide, and the lodgers can move out if they aren't happy with the costs.

    Its not a moral dilemma.
  • SuperPikachuSuperPikachu Forumite
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    Well you could swap it to 33% each instead of 50/50 if you want to be fair about things (assuming that it is currently 50/50) as you live with the actual landlord of the property.

    Otherwise move out and rent your own place if you or they feel that it is unfair to pay more.
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