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Guest101

gillybean129 wrote: »

Constant friction between her and Father, I'm in the middle

She graduated less than a month ago, he's on at her about jobs, I could understand it but she's a great girl, studied hard got a first, he's unreasonable but that's how it is.

What did she study, because (and I didn't do this, but I wasn't in line for a first) with those kinds of grades I would have expected her to be on a graduate programme straight away.

gillybean129

Why the nagging? Well, he's just like that, she's applying for jobs but no interviews atm.

It seems a 1st is quite common and there is no graduate programmes that she can find, her plan is to do her PGCE next year so this year is a temp issue.

He doesn't expect her to claim JSA, and yes the friction should go but he's just an awkward person to be around and I am caught in the middle,it's like walking on eggshells, he doesn't think he's in the wrong by upsetting her, he doesn't care he's offending her but I do, then I get accused of not backing him up. I'm totally fed up.

Slinky

Wow, if my OH was like that I think I'd be moving to the rental with the graduate! OH sounds a delight to live with.

Guest101

gillybean129 wrote: »

Why the nagging? Well, he's just like that, she's applying for jobs but no interviews atm.

It seems a 1st is quite common and there is no graduate programmes that she can find - I mean that really isn't true. There are tens of thousands of excellent graduate programmes, but if she wants to go into teaching then yes I agree, her plan is to do her PGCE next year so this year is a temp issue. - Well it's a 13 month issue in that case? or do you mean this academic year?

He doesn't expect her to claim JSA, and yes the friction should go but he's just an awkward person to be around and I am caught in the middle,it's like walking on eggshells, he doesn't think he's in the wrong by upsetting her, he doesn't care he's offending her but I do, then I get accused of not backing him up. I'm totally fed up.

Well it's perfectly possible to be right and still upset someone - happens all the time on these forums. People read things they don't like, but which are true.

gillybean129

It's a temp issue of 13 months....

She is hoping to get a job at the uni, waiting on her application, also an internship in her home town, it's just the waiting and he thinks she should be applying for anything and everything which I don't agree with, he's putting too much pressure on her.

Guest101

gillybean129 wrote: »

It's a temp issue of 13 months....

She is hoping to get a job at the uni, waiting on her application, also an internship in her home town, it's just the waiting and he thinks she should be applying for anything and everything which I don't agree with, he's putting too much pressure on her.

Unfortunately I agree with your husband, she really should be applying for everything. It's much easier to get the job you want when you already have one.


If she has no/little work history then she's not going to get into a mid range position.


This was asked - how is she supporting herself?

gillybean129

She had a job with the uni, this ended when she graduated.
At the moment we are supporting her, I don't have a problem at all with this after all it's her home.
She has savings she's dipping into. Hopefully she'll secure something soon, she is hoping for some bar work at the local pub for a bit of pocket money until them.

Loanranger

I agree with your husband. There are so many jobs around that future employers will not regard any period of unemployment as acceptable.
She should have applied for graduate programmes as she entered her final year. If he understands that then I can see exactly why he is peed off with her.
Stop making excuses for her, you are doing her no favours.

Guest101

gillybean129 wrote: »

She had a job with the uni, this ended when she graduated. - how long did she work there, if over two years, did she get redundancy?
At the moment we are supporting her, I don't have a problem at all with this after all it's her home. - well indeed, but clearly your husband does and there is not right or wrong answer in that, it's subjective.
She has savings she's dipping into. Hopefully she'll secure something soon, she is hoping for some bar work at the local pub for a bit of pocket money until them.

That sounds sensible, temp agencies may help too.

TrickyDicky101

gillybean129 wrote: »

Constant friction between her and Father, I'm in the middle

She graduated less than a month ago, he's on at her about jobs, I could understand it but she's a great girl, studied hard got a first, he's unreasonable but that's how it is.

Been there, done that & got the T-shirt (I was the son in my case)!

You have my sympathies - it only took me darn near 20 years to stop wishing to plunge a knife into my father's back every time I saw the miserable sod. We get along fine now though

You sound like a generous Mum - best of luck to your daughter's job search.