Ex Owes me money but his wages get paid into my bank

Michminx

Help! I need some advice, my ex owes me money and is refusing to pay but his wages still get paid into my bank, can I refuse to give it to him? He moved in with me when he wasn't working and facing eviction and never brought a penny into the house, I paid all the bills, bought all the food and even bought clothes for him while he did nothing, this has left me in a lot of debt and I want to try and get some of it back. Do I have the right to keep his wages?

pinkshoes

Can you prove that he owes the money? Receipts for goods?

tacpot12

Legally you can only take his money if you can prove he owes you the money. This will require evidence of a loan and his intention to pay it back.

A better idea might be to offer to allow him to receive his wages into your bank account and you will give it to him less £20 until the debt is paid.

That way you might get something back without having the right of being charged with theft. If he agrees, get him to sign something that says how much he owes you and how much you are allowed to deduct.

Then if he asks his employer to change where his wages are paid to you can go to court if the amount still owed is worth fighting for.

Good luck

kazwookie

Why are his wages being paid into your bank account in the first place?

elsien

kazwookie wrote: »

Why are his wages being paid into your bank account in the first place?

At a rough guess, trying to avoid having them swallowed up by the large overdraft on his?

Kayalana99

tacpot12 wrote: »

Legally you can only take his money if you can prove he owes you the money. This will require evidence of a loan and his intention to pay it back.

Even if she can prove it, I still don't think legally she can just take it. If someone had £1,000 cash in their house and owed you money and you took it, would it be legal?

Michminx

Unfortunately not as it was mainly bills, food, cigarettes.

silvercar

He's an ex. Tell him to sort out his own bank account.

He moved in with me when he wasn't working and facing eviction and never brought a penny into the house, I paid all the bills, bought all the food and even bought clothes for him while he did nothing, this has left me in a lot of debt and I want to try and get some of it back.

OK but you knew he wasn't earning when he moved in. You chose to buy him clothes. You were paying all the bills by yourself before he moved in, so other than food and a small increase in electric you weren't paying much extra.

I think you are now blurring the line between what was at the time helping out a partner and now requiring payback.

Michminx

Even though he willingly gave his employer my bank details? Does that not show he is happy for me to have access to his money? And the reason he was getting it paid into my account was because of the debt on his and the fact that he still had all his DD's set up for a house he no longer lived in because he was (and still is) too lazy to cancel them. If I withdrew the money in cash how could he prove that I didn't give it to him? Doesn't it work both ways?

Michminx

He lied to me and told me he had applied for benefits when he moved in and then continued to say they had messed up the payments and that he would contribute once they came through. He stole my bank card/credit card and cash while I slept.

Guest101

Michminx wrote: »

Even though he willingly gave his employer my bank details? Does that not show he is happy for me to have access to his money? And the reason he was getting it paid into my account was because of the debt on his and the fact that he still had all his DD's set up for a house he no longer lived in because he was (and still is) too lazy to cancel them. If I withdrew the money in cash how could he prove that I didn't give it to him? Doesn't it work both ways?

Because the police would come and arrest you for theft?


No you cant take his money without his explicit consent.