Great start to married life. New wife in hospital.

Tropez

Hello there. Short update. She is now home. Currently trying to sleep which isn't proving easy as she likes to sleep on her side so she's quite tired. Been a bit awkward but she's trying to remain upbeat.

sillyvixen

Tropez wrote: »

Hello there. Short update. She is now home. Currently trying to sleep which isn't proving easy as she likes to sleep on her side so she's quite tired. Been a bit awkward but she's trryying to remain upbeat.[/QUOTE)

do you have any spare pillows? they will help supporting broken limbs when trying to sleep - following my injury my mum lent me the pillows off my old bed in her spare room - i had not slept for three days previously.

if you dont have spare pillows can you borrow some from someone who has no plans for visitors?

sharnad

The sword of truth series by terry goodkind is really good not sure if its in the kindle

Savvy_Sue

Tropez wrote: »

Hello there. Short update. She is now home. Currently trying to sleep which isn't proving easy as she likes to sleep on her side so she's quite tired. Been a bit awkward but she's trying to remain upbeat.

She will eventually get the hang of sleeping in the 'wrong' position, and it will then take a while to work out how to sleep in her 'old' position. But just being home makes you feel SO much better, at least you're not surrounded by alien noises.

And I don't know which ward she was on, but my last stay I was a) the youngest on the ward by MANY years, b) the most mobile, because I hadn't fractured my femur, and c) the one with the most marbles, not saying I have all of mine but was still capable of coherent conversation. Was reduced to tears listening to a man who reminded me strongly of my late Dad, talking to his wife who was not responding. "I just want you to get well enough to come home so I can look after you, but I don't even know if you know who I am", he said, and finally she said "I should do, we've been married long enough."

Pillows are a good idea. I used one to separate me and DH, because I always sleep with him on my left and I did NOT want him thrashing out or rolling onto my shattered shoulder, nor did I want to have to move if he threatened to come near it. I think I used one of my V-shaped ones, and had half under my head and half between us.

I've just looked up 'body pillow' for you: don't let her see which section of the Argos catalogue it's come from, you could also look on Amazon where they seem to have the most ginormous U-shaped ones which basically go the whole length of the bed and back again.

BTW you / she will find that sleeping with extra pillows in the bed makes it warmer, so she might need a lighter duvet. And her body thermostat might be broken for a bit.

Tropez

Hello again. We do have lots of spare pillows so she has used some to support her leg and her arm.

We use separate duvets during the winter anyway because she steals it otherwise to turn it into some sort of cocoon. It is now helping to keep us separated as my initial suggestion that I sleep on the sofa bed at the end of the bed was met with... well, hostility is the nicest way to put it. I shan't be doing that again.

It wasn't the easiest night for either of us. I seemed to wake up every time she even slightly moved and she had a disturbed night too; I think she was clock watching to see when it was next safe to take a painkiller.

Apparently at about 6am she gave up on sleep and decided to read for a bit and 20 minutes later "accidentally" poked me awake again and used the "since your up, can I have a coffee?" line.

Fortunately though she's largely been herself. She's had a couple of minor moans but thus far nothing's been thrown at me. She dozed off about fifteen minutes ago so I'm leaving her be for now.

Savvy_Sue

Talking of painkillers, a simple pain med diary is useful. You write down "The good stuff, whatever dose, 10 pm. Ib, 400mg, 2 am. Para, whatever dose, 6 am." You also make sure you know what can and can't be combined. And initially you remind her to take it when she can, BEFORE the pain becomes unbearable, because it's harder to shift if it's too bad.

This has two purposes: one is that you don't 'forget' you took the good stuff at 10 pm, and take more at midnight. And you can also see a reducing dose history as you get better.

Tropez

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Talking of painkillers, a simple pain med diary is useful. You write down "The good stuff, whatever dose, 10 pm. Ib, 400mg, 2 am. Para, whatever dose, 6 am." You also make sure you know what can and can't be combined. And initially you remind her to take it when she can, BEFORE the pain becomes unbearable, because it's harder to shift if it's too bad.

This has two purposes: one is that you don't 'forget' you took the good stuff at 10 pm, and take more at midnight. And you can also see a reducing dose history as you get better.

Thanks. Being the ex-nurse she is she's treating this as some sort of opportunity to utilise her thousands of pounds worth of skills and knowledge and upon realising that she can make calendar additions to her tablet through voice input she started doing that herself.

It made me giggle when she started yelling at it "Ten, not eight, you stupid f###### thing!" :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

Tropez wrote: »

We use separate duvets during the winter anyway because she steals it otherwise to turn it into some sort of cocoon. It is now helping to keep us separated as my initial suggestion that I sleep on the sofa bed at the end of the bed was met with... well, hostility is the nicest way to put it. I shan't be doing that again.

:rotfl: I can follow both your reasonings.

Tropez: I love my new wife VERY dearly, and the gentlemanly thing to do is to offer to sleep on the sofa bed so that I don't disturb her. I will still be in the room if she needs me, logically this is the Right Thing to Do, even though I never want to sleep alone again.

MrsTropez: The RatBag! I spend a few nights in hospital and already he wants rid of me from his bed! He no longer fancies me, I am scarred for life, how DARE he suggest this? Besides, how can I prod him awake if I need him and he is not beside me? Has he not thought this through?

Tropez wrote: »

Thanks. Being the ex-nurse she is she's treating this as some sort of opportunity to utilise her thousands of pounds worth of skills and knowledge and upon realising that she can make calendar additions to her tablet through voice input she started doing that herself.

It made me giggle when she started yelling at it "Ten, not eight, you stupid f###### thing!" :rotfl:

Better yelling at the tablet than at you! :rotfl:

Glad she is home. Honestly, she'll go on in leaps and bounds now she's out, yes there will still be setbacks (especially when she tries to do too much) but there's no place like home!

DigForVictory

Delighted to hear she's yelling at technology & not (yet) throwing things.

Hoping for a better night's sleep for you both tonight - if she objects to you snoring, I'm sure she'll figure out a way to let you know!

All the best to you both, keep the JD flowing as needed...

Marmite27

Tropez wrote: »

We both watch the Game of Thrones series on TV. I do know the books are slightly different to the TV show so I could possibly get hold of the first three (I know she'll refuse to read the fourth book - spoilers for the TV show) but I'm not sure whether she'd read them as she's seen the TV show. Could just get the first one, only out a fiver if she doesn't want to read it.

A quick warning, book 2 doesn't finish where the series does, there's about a quarter of the book that's not covered in the series (and book 3 is very hard going!) Loving book four though