Friends boyfriend...awkward situation...WWYD?

Mojisola

hieveryone wrote: »

This has been my first reaction (to delete and forget), but I work with this girl everyday (she works 'for' me in my classroom).

This is the complication for me - hieveryone is this girl's manager as well as friend. It can get very messy when personal stuff invades the work place.

tinkerbell28

I would stay well out of it. I wouldn't mix personal life with business either.

The problem is, you're technically her superior. So it's inappropriate to be discussing stuff like this in a work context.

It could make things awkward between you, leading to complaints.

I'd stay well away.

FatVonD

tinkerbell28 wrote: »

I would stay well out of it. I wouldn't mix personal life with business either.

The problem is, you're technically her superior. So it's inappropriate to be discussing stuff like this in a work context.

It could make things awkward between you, leading to complaints.

I'd stay well away.

I totally agree with this.

If she were just a friend I'd be at the front of the queue of people saying to tell her but she is a colleague first and friend second.

OP, I get the impression you want to tell her and I think you have to question your motives.

pawsies

should have print screened it so she can't deny it

martinsurrey

hieveryone wrote: »

Yes, Facebook can be awful.

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Facebook is the devil's work.

facebook cant be awful, its a website.

PEOPLE, however can be awful, they used to do stuff like this by ink and parchment, then telegram, face book just makes it a bit quicker!

If she was just a friend, I would consider telling her, but as her boss... no chance!

hieveryone

Just to clarify, I am FEMALE, my workmate is FEMALE.

HER boyfriend messaged ME on Facebook and, to my mind, was inappropriate.


I have decided not to tell her, but to keep the messages incase this comes back on me. This could only go two ways in my mind -

1. they split up and she harbours some resentment towards me because somehow I'd be seen as the evil 'other woman' that somehow turned her boyfriends eye without even knowing - or
2. they don't split up and she harbours some resentment towards me because she thinks I've meddled in her business and there will always be an air of awkwardness re: her and her boyfriend.

To the person that said I should question my motives, I'm not sure what that means. Of course, deep down, I want to tell her. It p!sses me off that she is under the impression this guy is the love of her life and is a good guy when he's clearly an idiot.

I like her as a person, I really do, and I hate the thought that this guy is messing her about.

Yes, I am technically her manager but we are similar in age and we get on very well. I drive her home at night so we chit-chat about different areas of our lives - hers just happens to be mostly about this boyfriend.

There are no malicious motives here, I just feel terrible that I've been put in this position.

Anyway, thank you for all your opinions. I wish I had the guts/gall to tell her and do the honest, moral thing but I would hate to be the one to hurt my colleague/friend.

maintenanceman

paulineb wrote: »

Why would the OP fancy her? Have you read any of the OP's other threads? I think its highly unlikely thats the case.

The creep is the person who sent those messages in the first place.

I'm just going on the face value. I am sure there is more to this that meets the eye. I suggest Jeremy Kyle might sort it out for the O.P.

paulineb_2

maintenanceman wrote: »

I'm just going on the face value. I am sure there is more to this that meets the eye. I suggest Jeremy Kyle might sort it out for the O.P.

More to it than meets the eye? How. Face value? If you had read any of the OP's other threads you would have realised she is female and you might not have made comments about her fancying her friend.