Some impartial advice please.

katie1812

Wow, you poor poor thing. Sending hugs your way, you sound like you've had an awful time.

At the moment your priority is 100% you and your child. At the end of the day she is your mum but I've got to be honest I would have flipped out by now if this was me! Why don't you say something and then you can always blame it on the hormones if there is a reasonable explanation!! Although in my eyes, not being there for your daughter after what you've been through is totally unacceptable.

Hope things turn positive soon xx

lilymay1

Firstly, I was so sorry to read your post. There are no words or actions that can help at a time like this.

I've had 2 m/c's and I lost my daughter at 3 days old. My mum was in her late 40's when she had me, and as a result there has always been quite a generational difference. She didn't see either of my m/c's as traumatic and although she was brilliant wen I lost my daughter, she has tended to avoid ever talking about her. For her, the only child I have is my son.

Your loss may well have brought back the memories of what she has been through and it may just be something that she can not face at the moment. Now that isn't right or wrong but Sweaty Betty has put it really well; try to focus on the other things in your lifet. Burning the bridges with your mum won't help anyone. I can fully understand why you just want her to be there, I certainly did, but your energy is better spent on your recover.

I'm glad the hospital and staff are continuing to look after you. Once again, I am so so sorry for what has happened and I hope you can take some comfort from your husband and child.

All the very best

Lily xx

Air_Cooled_75

I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter Lily x