The wount let me visit my Pa in the Chapel of Rest

sunbeam36

My pa died recently and i would like to go and visit him in the chapel of rest to say good bye, but this side of the family is not exactly a nice side. My Aunty in particular has instructed the funeral parlour that no one can see him unless they get permission from her.

What should i do?

He was the last thread to this side of the family and i do not want anything to do with them once he is buried. Also he been buried on the family farm and im NOT invited!:(

Thanks for the replys The funeral is in England in fact in Yorkshire, they have a lot of money.

My nana died last October, it is my fathers dad, but a massive family fued against my dad.

I was lucky to get a very brief call to tell me he had died, last yr for my nana i found out through another relative who read it in the paper.

I believe the reason ppl are forbidden too go to the private burial on the farm, family only or chapel of rest is becuase of control, I know in my heart my pa would want me there, they also don't lke the fact that i managed to visit my nana in the chapel of rest last year. It is all just so messy and is a shame the family is like this.

getmore4less

Is it your blood dad?
Is there a living wife?
are you over 18
any older siblings
who is executor of the will or applied for letters of administration.

Mojisola

I think the funeral directors will take their instructions from whoever is paying for the funeral.

hardpressed

What country are you in, doesn't sound like England if he's being burried on a farm.

pollypenny

What is this business of being 'invited' to a funeral? I've only recently heard of such a thing.

People go to funerals out of respect.

Goldiegirl

This is a very stressful time, and everybody is upset.

If you are not allowed to go and see him, perhaps you'll find it comforting to remember him when he was alive and well, and think of good times spent together.

madbadrob

hardpressed wrote: »

What country are you in, doesn't sound like England if he's being burried on a farm.

In England and Wales there is no mandatory requirement to be buried in a graveyard. You have to obtain permission from the local authority and the grave as to be marked both on the ground and on any map of the area so a quick note to the OS with grid reference is a must.

One does not have to be invited to a funeral that takes place within a church or crematorium however if there is likely to be a family war if someone turns up then it is always best to stay away.

Rob