reading this has made me realise " what the hell do I wear for my ex husbands wedding in July" we're still friends and our 2 boys are involved in the whole day, so that means me being invited for the whole day! Its going to be a very big showy affair (lots of "our" friends, "their" friends IYKWIM and family) and although I want to look really nice (who wouldn't!) I don't want people to think I'm putting on a show... Hadn't really given it a second thought till I read this thread "Oh My God!!!!!!!".... what makes it worse is that we are very similar looking and I know people will be looking and talking (or am I just being paranoid)..... Will have to start looking now..... :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
another issue - im not sure wedding 'ettiquette' is such a big thing anymore. the rules not so rigid as to what is/isnt acceptable are increasingly blurred as they types of marriage diversify.
not upstaging the bride i think goes without saying and doesnt really need passing from one generation to the next. as for this you cant wear x/y/z colour because it will upset the brid/ show that you curse the marriage etc is stuff ive only learned from here.
theres one poster one here who was adamant that she didnt want anyone to wear black to her wedding. i hadnt even contemplated that black would be an issue.. the dress i had bought for future SILs wedding was black, dressy, and as far as i was concerned in no way implied that i was against the marriage, nor could i possibly have been mistaken for going to a funeral!
traditions have changed so much that i think it would be very easy to cause offence without realising you were doing so
Tricky situation! Three things:
Not white or cream (as per this thread!)
Not black as you will look like you're in mourning for your ex-marriage
Also no hats with veils - again too grieving widow
Really you just need some kind of reasonably demure skirt suit, ie sophisticated but not showy.
Also you might want to practice what you'll say when people inevitably ask you how you feel or if you mind? I know you say you're still friends but it would be good to have an answer prepared!
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